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Monday, November 30, 2009

Parenting in overdrive: One parent's "help" has her facing jail time

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We've all heard stories of parents gone overboard when it comes to doing for their kids. Maybe we even could be accused of taking the helicopter up a few times to hover when hovering time should long be over. Say, maybe we ran forgotten permission slips and saxophones on band day into school for an 8th grader who was days away from graduation. Yep. Guilty.

But Caroline Maria McNeal of Huntington, Pa., makes the rest of us look downright hands off, and, not to mention, sane. The mother/high school secretary is accused of using the passwords of three of her coworkers between May 2006 and July 2007 to change some of her daughter's--and other students'--grades and test scores. Her aim, in this age of college-application craziness, was allegedly to better her daughter's grades and class standing, at the expense of some other students, whose grades she is charged with tampering with as well.

The grades were all corrected before the students graduated, and McNeal now faces many years in jail: 29 counts of tampering with public records, a third-degree felony punishable by a maximum of seven years
Each count is a third-degree felony punishable by a maximum of seven years in prison and a $15,000 fine.

This was not a one-time, spur-of-the-moment piece of parenting madness. O'Neal is accused of changing nearly 200 scores and grades covering four years of school. She used coworkers' passwords, given to her to help with work during their vacations, the AP reports.

What happens in that moment where a parent crosses such a clear line of right and wrong in the name of "helping" her child? What could she possibly be thinking?
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  • Patti's Avatar
    Posted by Patti Sun Jun 28, 2009 10:08am PDT

    Two words: ROLE MODEL! duh

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  • Andi's Avatar
    Posted by Andi Sun Jun 28, 2009 10:33am PDT

    Sounds she is related to Wanda Holloway, Channelview's own cheerleader mom. Another winner of the Mother of the Year Award!!!

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  • Sarah F.'s Avatar
    Posted by Sarah F. Sun Jun 28, 2009 10:48am PDT

    What a way to help your child. Unfortunately, changing the kid's grades, while it may have gotten her/him into college, doesn't mean it would help her/him when they actually got to college. When you don't learn something when you're supposed to, you're going to be a little bit behind everyone else who has already learned it. Her kid would have failed in college. So actually, she did her child a huge disservice. It's like having someone do all your homework and then you get to the test and have no idea what to do because you didn't do the homework that was supposed to prepare you for the test. People need to learn that their kids need to learn how to do this stuff on their own because in the end, it's all on them anyway. They have to live their lives, not the parents.

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  • Woodstock1's Avatar
    Posted by Woodstock1 Sun Jun 28, 2009 11:03am PDT

    Wow that's abit crazy i mean her grades were her responsibility. My mom nevered lied to any of my schools or did she ever change a grade for me we had to do our homework or we didn't go to the next grade.I mean i would do anything for my child but nothing that would cause me to be away from my kids and make them feel hurt that i would spending the rest of my life in prison.

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  • Susan's Avatar
    Posted by Susan Sun Jun 28, 2009 11:24am PDT

    Helping your kid cheat or cheating for her by changing her grades is not going to help your kid in the long run. They need to learn how to succeed on their own, as opposed to learning that they can be a slacker because mom will fix it.

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  • Jessica's Avatar
    Posted by Jessica Sun Jun 28, 2009 2:38pm PDT

    umm so instead of taking the time cheat your child through school, you might have thought to use that time to help her learn more so she would not have gotten those grades....way to teach her values and morals in life...but then again this mom obviously is not the brightest on the block so i doubt her daughter would benefit much anyways...BoOyAh!

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  • Theresa's Avatar
    Posted by Theresa Sun Jun 28, 2009 11:51pm PDT

    ooops.

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  • DCFC's Avatar
    Posted by DCFC Mon Jun 29, 2009 3:51pm PDT

    What a stupid woman.

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  • St.JimmyHavok's Avatar
    Posted by St.JimmyHavok Mon Jun 29, 2009 6:45pm PDT

    On one hand, it's great to see a parent who wants their kid to succeed and realizes that honesty is not always the pest policy for that. And her kid would have probably been OK in college, because cheating is even easier there. You can pay another student to do your homework and take your tests for you. Most places don't care, they already have your money.

    On the other hand, by using that method, and not covering her tracks better, colleges will now think her kid will do the same thing.

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  • Myeisha's Avatar
    Posted by Myeisha Thu Jul 2, 2009 7:53am PDT

    To me she has set a bad example to her child and other students. Being a child once who wouldn't want their bad grades to be chnaged from bad to good. But really it would only hurt you. In the long run you won't feel as if you have earned it and you won't have the education you really need. Insteading of giving to your child in that way she should have made her child study and get her grades like everybody else. And as for the child she should have just did what she had to do instead of going along with that dumb idea. Their are many kids who have parents who have done some dumb things but yet they don't follow suit. My dad used drugs for most of his life but at the age I am (21) I not even thinking about any type of drugs, I'm too worry about the furture and the impact it could have on the kids I will in the furture. What an sorry exuse for a mom. I've seen moms maybe do most of a project for their child, or finish the last two math problems on homework that the child way too long to finish but never this.

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