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Sunday, November 29, 2009

Potty training problem: no poop on the potty

Last night my cousin was telling me about a problem she's having with potty training her 3-year-old son: He has quickly learned to use the potty when he has to pee; but when it comes to poop, he refuses to go in the potty.

Have you experienced this with your toddler?

When I asked him why he doesn't go #2 in the potty, he told me simply, "I can't. It's too big." (Translation: The hole in the training potty seat is too big, and he's scared.)

Whether it's due to fear, embarrassment, stubbornness or something else, refusing to poop in the potty is a common problem with many potty training toddlers (although I'm guessing the specific reasoning behind it will probably vary by child).

Here are some things you can do to help your child learn to poop in the potty:

  • Make sure your child isn't constipated. Increase the amount of fluid and fiber in his/her diet so that her bowel movements are softer and easier to pass.
  • If your child insists on only pooping in a diaper or pull-up, encourage him/her to do this in the bathroom just like you do (except they will be wearing the diaper/pull-up). Then, empty the diaper/pull-up into the potty to show your child where it goes.
  • Some experts recommend cutting a hole in the bottom of the diaper or pull-up and sitting on the potty; this way they can still have the security of the diaper/pull-up, but the poop will (hopefully!) fall into the potty.
  • Read children's story books about potty training to her, such as Everyone Poops or The Princess and the Potty.

Remember to always praise and/or reward your toddler if they make any improvements (no matter how small) in any of these areas.

How did you teach your toddler to poop in the potty?

Written by Kim Conte for CafeMom's Toddler Buzz

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  • Kendra's Avatar
    Posted by Kendra Wed Sep 2, 2009 7:23pm PDT

    What worked for my very stubborn son (it was a control issue, I think) was a reward sticker calendar. Everytime he went, put a sticker that he picks himself, we put it on the calendar date. Or else big kid underwear with their favorite character on it. That got him moving and doing-finally!

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  • Heather's Avatar
    Posted by Heather Thu Sep 3, 2009 7:21am PDT

    I had this same issue with my oldest son. I tried everything in the book, stickers, underwear, and many other things. With him it was most certainly a control issue. So finally I did what you are not supposed to do, and I bribed him. He loves cake, and I made his favorite kind, and told him that he couldn't have any until he pooped on the potty. It only took a few hours and he was doing it, and has not had an accident or anything since.

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    Posted by Terry Sun Sep 6, 2009 11:43am PDT

    I just got through this issue with my son who just turned 4. He would go down to our playroom and poop in his pull up and then come up and ask to be changed. My husband and I started putting him on the potty at a set time every day for 15 minutes. I would talk to him, sing songs with him and then when he was comfortable, I would walk away for a few minutes. One day, much to my surprise, he started yelling 'Mommy, Mommy I did it!' Getting him used to sitting on there and letting him get comfortable with the idea of it worked like a charm for us. Now only 2 months later he goes in on his own and still proudly (and loudly) announces his poop for all to hear.

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    Posted by Terry Sun Sep 6, 2009 11:44am PDT

    I just got through this issue with my son who just turned 4. He would go down to our playroom and poop in his pull up and then come up and ask to be changed. My husband and I started putting him on the potty at a set time every day for 15 minutes. I would talk to him, sing songs with him and then when he was comfortable, I would walk away for a few minutes. One day, much to my surprise, he started yelling 'Mommy, Mommy I did it!' Getting him used to sitting on there and letting him get comfortable with the idea of it worked like a charm for us. Now only 2 months later he goes in on his own and still proudly (and loudly) announces his poop for all to hear.

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