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Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Sandra Bullock's Tears for Her Stepdaughter

The actress is devastated at the thought of losing custody of the little girl she loves
- JoAnna Zulli, BettyConfidential.com

Friends of Sandra Bullock say the actress cries every day over her fear of losing custody of Sunny, her husband Jesse James’ daughter.

Last January, Sandra, 45, and Jesse were granted temporary custody of the 5-year-old when Jesse’s ex, former porn star Janine Lindemulder, was sentenced to six months in jail for tax evasion. Now, Janine — who has appeared in more than 100 adult films — has been released from prison and is seeking custody of Sunny.

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“Sandra’s so upset,’’ a friend tells BettyConfidential. ‘’She loves Sunny like she was her own and even lessened her workload in order to raise the little girl. Sometimes, Sunny even calls her Mommy. So Sandra is not giving up.’’

A worried Sandra and Jesse, 40, have written letters to the court requesting permanent guardianship of Sunny and have questioned Janine’s fitness as a parent because of concerns about her alleged drug use.


“I myself have stopped working like I used to in order to be here with Jesse and the kids because we are on constant high alert,’’ Sandra said. ‘’Never knowing what condition Janine will be in, and even more concerning the condition Sunny will be in. While in Janine’s care, sometimes Sunny is left alone during the day, while her mother is asleep from drug use. I know the term ‘stepmother’ carries many connotations, one of them being glorified babysitter. My commitment and responsibility to Sunny goes beyond that.’’

Sandra also defended her motives for wanting sole custody. “Janine has claimed many times that my desire to have Sunny was because I could not have children of my own. It couldn’t be further from the truth.”

While Janine and Jesse continue to fight over custody, she is allowed to see Sunny once a week. Janine, 40, told ABC’s Good Morning America last week, “What would give her the right to take away my daughter? I am the best mother I can be. Yes, I have absolutely made horrific choices in the past. I’ve had my share of drugs. But then there’s a huge portion of my life — a 10-year span — where there’s nothing. I didn’t need it. Sandy doesn’t know what goes on in my house. I would love for her to, please come over, I’ll make dinner, you know, let’s sit down, two women.’’

The friend tells BettyConfidential that Sandra considers all of Jesse’s children to be her kids too. He has two kids with his first wife, KarlaChandler, 14, and Jesse Jr., 11. "You don't have to give birth to someone to have a family," Sandra told Harper’s Bazaar magazine in May. “They all have a very close relationship,'' the pal confirms.

Sandra revealed in InStyle magazine earlier this year that being a wife and mom is her focus. "Everything we do is about the kids," she said. “I haven't had children biologically. I had shut that off; then I met Jesse, and it turned on again. I was like, 'Oh, that's that feeling.' “ She added: "My greatest joy is making our home what it's supposed to be. Being a good wife, a good stepmom, a good current wife to the ex-wife. We're a family."

And now, as she faces the possibility of losing Sunny, the pal says Sandra is barely sleeping at night. “She is trying her best to stay calm, but it’s hard. Sandra and Sunny will go on shopping sprees to keep their minds off of things. She would be near a breaking point if they lose Sunny.”

JoAnna Zulli is a New York-based writer who has worked for Star, Soap Opera Magazine, Woman's World, In Touch and the New York Post

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  • richietfan's Avatar
    Posted by richietfan Thu Nov 12, 2009 10:47pm PST

    She's almost 50? She looks amazing! I hope they all can work something out where no one is hurt.

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  • Veronica's Avatar
    Posted by Veronica Thu Nov 12, 2009 11:06pm PST

    If the women is a good mother, then Sandra should not try and take that away, if anything she should help, not try and take the daughter as her own??? I think it's a shame that so much ugliness takes place. Sandra be a real women and help out, do what's right, take Janine up on the offer...

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    Posted by Robert Fri Nov 13, 2009 6:27am PST

    I am a parent of 2 boys. I cant imagine if I had to give them up in a custody battle it would kill me. No matter the circumstances losing a child that you put your heart and sole into has to be a feeling of failure,saddness,depression,and helplessness. It takes strong inner capabilities to keep it positive and try to find your ground. I turn to prayer and Gods help. The out come is usually better then we precieve it to be because we lose something that we have put so much into and now we have fears. Face these fears and be strong internally. Its easier said then done because I am not in your shoes but I do feel for you Sandra. You have a strong support group in friends and your husband and those kids know one thing. You love them with all your heart. That will help lead them in life it self. Dont ever forget that.

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    Posted by Katie B Fri Nov 13, 2009 6:35am PST

    Sometimes the best parents are the step-parents that CHOOSE to be parents to kiddos that are not even their flesh and blood. I feel for Sandra and Jesse. I hope that the best outcome happens. I know if I had a child (even a step-child) I wouldn't want them under the influences of adult situations such as Janine is precieved to be in all the time.

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  • tina's Avatar
    Posted by tina Fri Nov 13, 2009 12:42pm PST

    LOVE U SAnDRA!

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  • mel's Avatar
    Posted by mel Sat Nov 14, 2009 2:01am PST

    porn stars are not exactly good role models. good luck sandra. i hope you get to keep her. it would be a shame to have to give her back to that awful woman.

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  • jobena's Avatar
    Posted by jobena Sat Nov 14, 2009 10:34am PST

    Jesse take her to court and fight for full custody, you are her father and have rights too.

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  • Lisa's Avatar
    Posted by Lisa Sat Nov 14, 2009 1:06pm PST

    This is not Sandra's child... if the mother is has been otherwise a good caregiver and provider, then the child should allowed to live with her mother as well. Nevermind that she is a porn star, the courts don't really get too involved with that (they don't make those judgments) - they look at the well being of the child and they always aim to have the child/ren with their biological parents.

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  • Robyn's Avatar
    Posted by Robyn Sat Nov 14, 2009 6:51pm PST

    im in this same situation, i am a step mom and the dad has full custody and has for the past 3 years ( the child is 3 1/2) me and the dad have been together for 3 years. as step moms we dont plan to be 'mom' we plan to help being another supportive adult, someone the child can come to. but in situations were there are dugs involved we have to step up and be the other parent. i feel for sandra and i do hope that they can figure out something that works for everyone but if she is anything like my babys "birthmom" its better if sandra and jesse fight. everything is supposed be for the protections of the child and hope they all keep that in mind

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  • Judith's Avatar
    Posted by Judith Sun Nov 15, 2009 5:23am PST

    I have two adopted children, one biological, tons of inherited kids/adults - that I call my own. I love them all.I would give my life for each and every one of them. I disagree with the courts so much of the time, biological mother seems to come first - regardless of circumstance. My heart goes out to Sandra Bullock, I think, a kind, and loving woman. You and your husband , as a team, can move mountains. Love is the strongest, most beautiful gift we have. . All the best .

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