Secondary Infertility: One Woman's Story

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  Posted by anonymous whatever Fri Aug 14, 2009 5:22pm PDT

  Only a few percent cannot get pregnant for whatever reason. However the problem is simple.

  Don't wait until you are in your late 30's or 40's or even 50's to get pregnant.

  Women are not invincible and your body will not hold out forever.

  That is the lesson that the longer you wait the less likely you will conceive

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  Posted by lypglossqueen Sun Aug 16, 2009 7:52pm PDT

  Okay.. anonymouswhatever, are you a professional? do you speak from experience? or are you just one of those 20 somethings who thinks she knows everything? Don't we all wish that there was a simple "one size fits all" solution to our problems? I am 41 years old, I have a 12 year old and my new husband and I are trying to conceive a child. We were pregnant last summer but I miscarried in my 8th week and have been trying ever since. It is painful to see pregnant woman everywhere, everyday, thinking " That was me." Or seeing newborn babies that are the same age that my child would have been. Why did I wait so long to try to get pregnant again? because I refused to be a single mother any longer, I wanted to be in a stable, committed relationship and it took me 12 years to get there. Your naivete is laughable.

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  Posted by sanjana Tue Aug 18, 2009 1:11am PDT

  hi i went tru IVF - and it failed

  it is a heart ache. the first time failed, we were still ok as in there was still another chance

  when the 2nd time it failled, we never discussed on the issue at all.. my husband has been wonderful to me

  i still want a child but i am not going to think of it ... it makes me want to cry as i do not have any solution for this

  We are still owing the banks for the money spent and cant go tru another session

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  Posted by chris Tue Aug 18, 2009 4:20pm PDT

  anonymous is correct on one aspect - the longer you wait, the harder it is for SOME women to get pregnant.

  Of course, there are reasons for waiting - and I applaud you, lypglossqueen for not wanting to have another child by yourself.

  Sanjana, I hope there will be a miracle for you. It happened to friends of mine. They gave up on IVF after 3 tries and after 5 years had given up hope that they would ever conceive. Then one day, out of the blue, she was pregnant. Do not focus on it and go about your life. It still may happen for you.

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