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Sunday, November 29, 2009

Should Preschoolers Toy With Phone Apps?

Stranded by a thunderstorm, I sat in Dulles airport and watched how the little kids (under 5) coped with
waiting. Of the seven in my immediate vicinity, two napped, one threw a prolonged temper tantrum, and three played with their parents' (or at least I hope they were their parents') iPhones. (The seventh just sat staring into space.)

There are no reliable statistics on how many toddlers and preschoolers play with phone apps. But I'm willing to bet that my unscientific survey (close to 50%) probably reflects a common reality. After all, 100% of the app-playing children were quiet and had relaxed-looking parents.

Since all media has an impact -- both positive and not so positive -- it helps to consider the pros and cons before letting your youngest children loose with your $200 dollar piece of electronics (OK, $99 if you let them have your old one...). Here are a few recommendations:

1. There are better teething devices than electronics. If your kids start to put your phone in their mouth, they're too young to use it. Find something else for them to chew, shake, or throw.

2. Pay attention to what they're doing. Make sure you download age-appropriate apps -- there are lots of them. Check out the apps before your kids do to make sure the subject matter is right for their age. Can they understand the words? Can they manipulate the game? Really young kids are still developing their fine motor skills, so unless you want a frustrated child on your hands, make sure that a game doesn't require lots of coordination to play.

3. Don't make phones a habit. Remember that kids quickly develop routines. If they associate going to restaurants or driving in a car with playing games on your phone, it will be difficult to transition out of the behavior.

4. Balance coping skills. Ultimately, we want kids who can amuse themselves without batteries. Make sure that your kids are equally comfortable with board books, music, and that old faithful -- the crayon.

5. Keep an eye on the phone. They can get dropped -- on the floor, in a toilet -- wedged in a seat, left in a seat pocket, etc. These things are expensive!

Do you let your kids use your smartphone? Do they have their own?

Written by Liz Perle, Editor-in-Chief, Common Sense Media

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  • d's Avatar
    Posted by d Mon Jul 27, 2009 4:46pm PDT

    My 6 year old loves my new LG vu because of the mobile TV. it is the best at entertaining her when we are on long drives in the car or in a waiting room. She can watch Cartoon network or Nick just like at home. She also picked up the touch screen naturally and can quickly navigate the screens...I agree that you must set limits on it and watch carefully so that the phone is not broken! Just be smart about it and it can be a great tool!

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    Posted by d Mon Jul 27, 2009 4:46pm PDT

    My 6 year old loves my new LG vu because of the mobile TV. it is the best at entertaining her when we are on long drives in the car or in a waiting room. She can watch Cartoon network or Nick just like at home. She also picked up the touch screen naturally and can quickly navigate the screens...I agree that you must set limits on it and watch carefully so that the phone is not broken! Just be smart about it and it can be a great tool!

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    Posted by d Mon Jul 27, 2009 4:46pm PDT

    My 6 year old loves my new LG vu because of the mobile TV. it is the best at entertaining her when we are on long drives in the car or in a waiting room. She can watch Cartoon network or Nick just like at home. She also picked up the touch screen naturally and can quickly navigate the screens...I agree that you must set limits on it and watch carefully so that the phone is not broken! Just be smart about it and it can be a great tool!

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  • Dubs's Avatar
    Posted by Dubs Mon Jul 27, 2009 6:03pm PDT

    Translation:

    Why your cellphone is a better parent than you are.

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  • JoKTM's Avatar
    Posted by JoKTM Mon Jul 27, 2009 8:52pm PDT

    So parents didnt have coloring books packed in their carry on? Kids love to play with phones because it makes them fill big. I had a 3yr old show me how to sign on to yahoo on my phone.

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  • allee's Avatar
    Posted by allee Mon Jul 27, 2009 10:01pm PDT

    I do not have an Iphone. But my older teen daughter both have an ipod touch. They got them from family for christmas last. They do not have very many apps on it though. Because they have to pay for it themselves. lol. BUt they do have some music, and photos.

    They occasionally let their little sister who is 3 play with them. They will turn it on for her and show her how to glide her finger to change the picture, or change a song. Now she can use it on her own. She uses the little picture icons to get to the muic and pics. And she will sit for a good ten minutes totally happy that she is doing it herself.

    Since there is not a whole lot on them, the older kids do not worry too much. But they will tell her she has to be very careful, and when she is done she has to give it back to her big sisters. And they will keep checking on her while she has it.

    Personally I will not let her play with my phone. The last time she got ahold of it she changed the language to swedish. lol. Took forever to change it back.

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    Posted by j w Mon Jul 27, 2009 11:17pm PDT

    You really mean to say that not one of the 7 kids had their own handheld game system?!? I am shocked. That is the common thing around my area. Oh, we have a new baby, let's buy him or her a DS. Ok, maybe not quite that bad, but close enough. I have a prepaid cell, and it has no games on it. My 8 year old daughter wants her own phone, but she only wants one with games, because she is never anywhere that she could use it to call me. She does have a GameBoy, and she plays her 16yo brother's DS, but these are rare treats for her. We would rather read together any day!

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  • Mo B's Avatar
    Posted by Mo B Tue Jul 28, 2009 7:41am PDT

    I have a 6 year old and she does often play games on my phone when we are driving in the car stuck in traffic, at a restaurant waiting to be seated or in a airport. She does have an ipod and other things to keep her busy such as books and coloring. But she finds it nice to mix it up a bit, yes she likes to feel old but at the sametime it has helped some often bored moments where she would of otherwise been cranky or running around of boredom. I see nothing wrong with a child playing with it as long as their parents keep an eye on thema nd what they are doing.

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  • Catrina's Avatar
    Posted by Catrina Tue Jul 28, 2009 7:57am PDT

    This was helpful. I was a step-mom and ended up becoming a single parent to my guy's kid, not a pleasant story. I was so clueless about most aspect of parenting, since I wasn't able to grow and learn with the child and was instead thrown into it. It is helpful to know what habits are appropriate and not, even when they seem harmless.

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  • BrindaO's Avatar
    Posted by BrindaO Tue Jul 28, 2009 9:45am PDT

    Give me a break. There are worse things than playing with your parents' phones.

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