Parenting

Friday, July 4, 2008

So your kid has a name in the Top Ten Most Popular list? Ehhhh, BFD

It's that time of year again. I've been busy stocking up on baby gifts for the inevitable surge of summer births and the Social Security Administration's been busy compiling all those names we insist on naming our kids over and over and over again.

Just like my craving to click the purchase button on every single little adorable onesie made out of bamboo and organic cotton I can find, I cannot help myself from devouring the SSA's list of most popular baby names every single year.

I like to see my own predictions about where Emma and Aidan will fall on the list, whether my playground research will be confirmed or denied by The Big Governmental Tally and whether or not the names I hold tight to give to possibly-maybe-perhaps-future-babies will be overused and outdone before they ever make it to a birth certificate.

For the last 3 years, I've done the (clearly, much more important task of) checking where my own son's name lands on The List. Last year, it was #2, this year it has fallen to #4.

It's not that I care either way. I chose his name before I ever knew gazillions of other parents thought it was the perfect fit for their boy too. And even if I'd known, I wouldn't have budged. From the moment his dad and I thought of it, it was his name and so I really can't blame the scads of other mommies and daddies for making such a beautiful choice at the same point in time too.

But then, I am biased. As a person who had a first and last name in first and second place on The List for several years in a row (and in the top 20 for 11 years in a row), I didn't grow up scarred or therapied because there were multiple Jessicas and Ashleys in my class. Instead, I reveled in always having stickers and bike license plates and books with my name pre-printed on them. To me, it was well worth the price of being Jessica A. among all the others with the same name.

If it is any indicator about how my own little boy with a popular name feels, he squealed when he heard his come in fourth. Of course, he thought the list was referring specifically to him (which it was, plus four badillion) but I'm glad he's not worried about other mommies calling out his name in the park.

I've heard many, many parents stressing over this themselves as they chose names for their babies-to-be or even after they spotted their child's name smack dab on The List after they assumed their kid would have a unique moniker (sorry all parents of Isabellas and Nathans).

To those popular name parent worriers, I say: Fear not. Ava and Andrew are gonna be juuuuust fine. They might be known by their first and last name the rest of their lives but hey, at least they'll have way more stickers.

You can check out The List, research name popularity and all kinds of good stuff here.

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  • Mimi-pz's Avatar
    Posted by Mimi-pz Mon May 12, 2008 1:46pm PDT

    Yep, my eldest is #4 on the list too. I knew I was going to have a boy named Joshua since I was young. It was always my first pick -- even before I met my husband. And when he said he wanted a son named Joshua, we just went for it. Never mind he was born in England and everyone we met with a boy was named Joshua (it was #1 in England that year).

    Our second son is Samuel and while it's not on the top 10, it is still quite popular. In fact, we run into more "Sam's" than "Josh's".

    I have a very uncommon first name and always wanted to have a name that everyone else had. Now I like it, but it was weird being the only person with "that name" that I knew. Everyone else had a "name twin" but me!

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  • Emily 'Awesome' Anderson's Avatar
    Posted by Emily 'Awesome' Anderson Mon May 12, 2008 4:16pm PDT

    Being on the list is incredibly over rated. As an Emily, I have always had multiples around me. In my second grade class of 25 kids, there were 6 of us! If you want your kid to actually go by his/her name, find something off the list. I've never been just Emily, even today my friends still call me by my last name. I now am left wondering that if they day comes that I am called by my name if I'll even respond to it.

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  • alibriejas's Avatar
    Posted by alibriejas Mon May 12, 2008 4:59pm PDT

    I was always an original. How many people do you know named Alicea? Most spell it differently, Alicia, but even that is rare. I hated it growing up, but now I like to being original. My daughter, Brianna, has a beautiful Irish name, which is why I picked it. I did not care what number it was on the list. If she were a he, I picked Joshua or Jake, but only because I love J names (her daddy is Jason) and both names sound lovely when spoken!

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  • Cher's Avatar
    Posted by Cher Mon May 12, 2008 8:28pm PDT

    well, i have a common name...cheryl...of course it's spelt differently...with an "c" or an "s". when my son was born, i had given my husband the choice to pick the baby's first name and i get the middle name. he picked "kawika" hawaiian for "david" he said that he liked that name because it meant strong warrior or heavenly warrior. I picked the middle name "mamoru" my dad's middle name. I have no clue what it meant but i wanted my son to have two middle names, "mamoru louis (after my hubby's deceased father)" but he said that his older brother has that middle name so I just settled on "mamoru" as his middle name. He has several nicknames "wika" is which he normally answers too, "small man" only my uncle has given him that nickname. My brother has given him "peanut" when he was a baby. I can't imagine calling him "peanut" when he's 21 years old and 6 ft 5 inches tall. My hubby's name is different but it is common in Spain..."eduardo" different but interesting. He said a lot of people couldn't say his name correctly when he was growing up so he didn't want his son to have that same situation while growing up. I would've picked, Joshua, Kawika, or even Jacob, Elijah for bibilical names.

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  • selsaas's Avatar
    Posted by selsaas Mon May 12, 2008 11:46pm PDT

    I'm a Stephanie, so at some point and time it was a popular name...my girls are Courtney, which although she is the only one in her grade in our small town, there are many other Courtneys around here. My youngest is Cassidy, not very common in our area at all! Some people should not be allowed to name their own kids...we now have an Azjiah, a KaMylee, a Makiah, and a Kynaisyia in our family. Sad really. I don't care if my child's name is on "the list", but I like knowing that nobody will ever stumble over their pronounciations.

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  • gaileta's Avatar
    Posted by gaileta Tue May 13, 2008 2:38am PDT

    I figure my parents felt like they were already shaking things up with a bi-racial marriage (which is still a no-no in our small town) so they didn't get too creative with my name. My graduating class of 96 people had 6 other girls with my first name! My younger siblings have Hawaiian first names, which definitely set them apart.

    I'd still rather have a name off "the list" than a name where Mom and Dad just decided to throw some random letters around. The names that irritate me are the common names people add random letters to, making them 'unique': Maddisyn, Kaitlyn, or Aiden/Ayden, Brayden, Cayden, ack! Some of the names I've heard sound more like adult film names than baby names - Destiny comes to mind.

    I've always been told to think about how you and Maxston/Addison/Brielle will feel about their name in 20 years, or how it would look on an office door.

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  • Heather F's Avatar
    Posted by Heather F Tue May 13, 2008 8:25am PDT

    In our family, we've all got "boring" normal names. My husband's name has been on the list for years..Andrew. Then we named our boys James, Justin, and Jackson. Now Jackson I thought was relatively uncommon until just before he was born, and it was everywhere. Interesting names are nice, however, there's nothing wrong with a classic (especially if everyone can spell it).

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  • Khali's Avatar
    Posted by Khali Tue May 13, 2008 9:58am PDT

    When I was born my name was more popular in England than in the US, and as a kid I learned to respond to a plethora of names (Kelly, Kayla, Kylie), none of which were actually my own. For whatever reason it was always hard for my teachers to read/spell/pronounce it. Anyway, now that I'm older there are Kayleigh's, or any variation thereof, popping up everywhere. I feel like I sort of paved the way for them lol.

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  • myrnamau's Avatar
    Posted by myrnamau Tue May 13, 2008 1:41pm PDT

    I tried to give my kids classic, underused names. It's not a big deal though if a name is popular. I mean if you really had your heart set on naming your daughter Emily or Emma, then you should do it anyway. I'd rather have a common name than a Kre8Tiv one.

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  • traceytarrant1's Avatar
    Posted by traceytarrant1 Tue May 13, 2008 3:29pm PDT

    When I chose my oldest daughter's name, there were no Kayla's around. After I named her (Kaela) they popped up like weeds! Same goes for my 3rd daughter, Isabella. I never heard the name...now I hear it everywhere I go. #4 Elissa is just as bad only most spell is Alyssa. Luckily #2 is safe.

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