Sportsophobia.

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  Posted by Mo B Mon Aug 31, 2009 10:37am PDT

  Wow, if you dislike it so much why not let your husband be the one who takes them to games and practices. That seems like a much better way to deal with the fact that you don't like the time sports take out of your schedule. I for one love sports, I coach my daughter's soccer team. Her dad hates the time it takes, so he sporadically shows up at her games (he feels like you do).

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  Posted by Mon Aug 31, 2009 12:44pm PDT

  The day you & your husband decided to have children you life changed. Your life should evolve around your children & making them happy & sucessful, as did your parents. For you to complain about doing such things as giving up Saturdays or weeknites at the practice fields for your childs happiness says alot about who you really are. Your self centered & evidently not the best mother. My mother raised 6 kids( 3 boys, 3 girls) & I can say even to this day (I'm 40yrs) my mother would give up anything on a heartbeat to ensure my happiness & then she would NEVER complain about giving something up for it either. Maybe you can learn a lesson from her & probaly more than two.

  As for me, I'm disabled & lost my legs due to a drunk driver & I work full-time due to my children & them giving me the strength to continue on & then to top it off, I go to the practice fields every Mon, Wed, Thur, & Saturday for my 6 yr old along with friday night football games with my 16 yr old. They are a blessing to me & I cherish every day or night I spend to make them happy regardless of what I might or might not have to give up.

  It could be alot worse for you & you not have a husband or children to give you happiness in your life. Be Thankful for what you have & DON'T complain.

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  Posted by Katie W Mon Aug 31, 2009 12:58pm PDT

  I feel like that to about some things my daughter does but I still do it because I know she likes doing a sport

  And pershaps six is the only time the coach can do it

  LiKE the first poster said why not have your husband take your child to practice and you dont shouldnt have to bring a snack more than once

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  Posted by erin Mon Aug 31, 2009 2:01pm PDT

  As I remember many parents I knew narrowed it down to one sport and band or choirs. It's easier and instead of all that athletic bs your child can learn the same stuff at band and choir without all the gear and granola snacks. I think some people who posted missed the point a bit. You should enjoy it too to a small degree and should be able to put your foot down, perhaps one year it's one sport and then change the next year. Personally I hate sports and would not force my kid to do something they had little interest in and i hated going to. I like how some of the holier than thou people commented on getting over it and being happy with what you have, Sometimes as a parent it's not that easy, and just because you had children does not mean you have to be miserable for the rest of your life and think everything your child does is the bees knees or your horrible.

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  Posted by Jennifer Mon Aug 31, 2009 3:06pm PDT

  If you have more than one child it really can be all life consuming... almost seven days a week. It is hard I totally see your point, but in the end we always do it so the kids can be happy. I too think its ridiculous for your child to HAVE to start football at the most earliest age as possible to even have a chance to play in high school. Almost no time for kids to be kids...

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  Posted by kc Tue Sep 1, 2009 8:38am PDT

  Don't go passing judgement on her saying she's not a good mom b'cause she doesn't want to do all the sports...good lord. so you're a saintly mom b'c you've got 20 kids and do everything you're "supposed" to do. gimme a break. Sports and activities can become all consuming and if that's your thing, good for you. To say she's less of a mom, you need to get off your high horse, jtmazzanti!! Who appointed you the almightly judge of all motherhood? Maybe you in all your righteousness can help out another mom that is feeling overwhelmed instead of passing judgement. Moms need to help each other out. Maybe trade off taking kids to practice, especially since you're such the martyr. I refused to be the family eating dinner/doing homework in the car running like crazy people to the next practice when we've both worked all day and homework still needs to be done. enough already. Less of a mom?? Not.

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  Posted by Common Sense Tue Sep 1, 2009 9:56am PDT

  Does anyone here understand the meaning of balance?

  There is a difference between supporting your kids and being up their a@@es all the time. You are a parent and your kids are a priority. You are a spouse and your spouse is a priority. You are an individual and your health, happiness, and well-being are a priority. Ditto for friends, parents, etc.

  The fact is, you have to get your kids involved with things that involve responsibility. If your kids don't do sports, music, etc., they have too much free time and you will suffer when they become teenagers and try to find other ways to fill their free time.

  Of course, you can't wait until they are teenagers and then say "how about trying soccer?" because by then they are 6-8 years behind everyone else, will be lousy at it, and won't even make the team. So, you have to start them fairly young.

  But, you have to introduce them music, arts, sports, etc. and see where their skills and preferences are. The worst thing you can do is sit them in front of video games or TV because you can't handle being a parent. But, you have to take time for yourself, your friends, etc. and not constantly be kids, kids, kids all the time.

  Balance is the key.

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  Posted by Kulcheh Tue Sep 1, 2009 11:18am PDT

  OK, I'm not a mom, so please don't slam me for lack of experience. but...

  Have you considered taking turns? Alternate with you husband so you each get a couple of Saturdays off a month (try to schedule it so the Saturdays he gets, are the Saturdays that you need to get a snack), and do the same with practice on Wednesdays.

  Just because you don't want to be there every Saturday does not make you a bad mom, mom's need time to themselves too, you can't make your kids happy if you're not happy.

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  Posted by kc Tue Sep 1, 2009 12:28pm PDT

  Yep, balance is the key. And it's not our job to make sure little Johnny and Susie are happy 24/7. Pick one activity and go with it. But you have to have family time as well and Mom and Dad need time too without kids.

  Killing yourself to make sure your kids are happy all the time will ensure that you raise spoiled, self - centered brats that expect to be catered to. Giving up everything to ensure your kid's happiness? Yuck, you're gonna have brats. Give them some responsibility and let them experience some disapointment...that's called life and reality.

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  Posted by Melissa N Tue Sep 1, 2009 3:16pm PDT

  I second the post that said if your husband wants it, he should have to take them. I personally don't see doing sports with kids when they have so much homework and stuff to do already, especially if there is more than one kid. I can understand if the kid likes it but not if only dad wants them to do it.

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