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Friday, December 11, 2009

Surviving summer break without sending the kids to day camp

If you haven't been paying attention to your kid's school calendar, I'll break it to you gently. You're either at or approaching a single digit when it comes to how much time is left is before summer vacation.

Breath. Take an Om Moment if you must.

So it's not going away, this "school's out" thing. But this other thing called summer camp? It's pricey. Even YMCA camps, the typically affordable solution, can cost upwards of $250 per week. That adds up, especially when you have several children.

And sometimes when you've finally convinced yourself to pony up the cash for eight full weeks of day camp you decide too late and they're all full. (I call that one "The Summer Never to Be Repeated.")

You're in a pickle. You want to make the most of having your child at home but you also need a little personal space. If sending your kids to summer day camp isn't an option, here are some tips that helped me (during that summer never to be repeated).

  • Create a daily schedule. It sounds simple, right? Have a routine. But don't just have it in your head. Put it on paper and break it down buy the hour or thirty-minute mark if your kids are in the under-5 crowd. I know it seems odd to have a schedule during summer break, being off school and all. But think about it -- most kids thrive on continuity. Last summer my son (then 5) and I created his daily schedule together and he loved that he could just walk to the refrigerator to see what he should be doing next. If you needs some inspiration, check out crafty mom and artist Donna Downey's blog -- I copied her format, building in time with mom and chores.
  • Find a mother's helper. Maybe you don't need a full babysitter, but just someone can hang out with your kids and play with them while you work, pick up around the house, whatevs. Find a nice, fun, responsible high school student or late 'tweener to help you out for way less that what summer camp would have cost you. Remember, they're on vacation, too, and their moms and dads are probably just as eager to keep them busy. Summer job? Voila.
  • Have a home-camp share among 5 friends. Okay, this suggestion takes a little planning but if you have a good group of mom friends who are in the same situation as you, it could really work well. For one week, each friend has a 3-hour camp at her home. So Monday, one friend has a baseball camp. Tuesday, another friend has a cooking camp. Wednesday, an art camp. And so on. These home camps can be super simple, just filled with fun activities that the kids can play on their own and/or with minimal supervision. Think of it as one week of rotating playdates where each each of you is guaranteed four days with some free time. Just keep it to five kids so that it's manageable and set a price limit on what each of you can spend so that no one goes overboard. And if that first week is a success, why not do it again? For more ideas on home camp, check out this post.

I'll confess that my boys are all signed up for day camp this summer. However, we do have a few weeks where I'll be doing the working mom juggle while my oldest is home with me and I'm eager to have a home-camp share with a few friends.

For those of you that don't send your kids to day camp over the summer, how do you keep them busy over vacation? Working moms -- what do you do when you don't send your kids to camp?
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  • MK's Avatar
    Posted by MK Fri May 9, 2008 11:16am PDT

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  • Mom of 3's Avatar
    Posted by Mom of 3 Fri May 9, 2008 11:34am PDT

    I'm a stay at home Mom and I love the freedom from schedules that summers bring; however it is nice to have a break from them (for ALL of us!) and so we do try and schedule regular things to do througout summer. So far we've never been able to quite afford a summer camp, and my son is too shy anyway, but we manage to stay really busy. Our library offers a summer reading program that gives prizes every time you read 5 books, plus hosts a weekly activity, it's so awesome and it's FREE! We've also scouted out other free things to do such as free movies (we are in California, our theater shows old kids shows for free), going to the beach, camping, free outdoor concerts and the like. Also, my son loves science so summer is a great time to do the long, drawn out, stinky, messy projects that we are tired and busy to do during school time. Use your imagination! I'm sure you'll come to love summer time. As for the break AWAY from kids, get a sitter, grab your husband and go out on a date. Do this as often as possible and life in general is much better.

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  • Bev.'s Avatar
    Posted by Bev. Fri May 9, 2008 11:41am PDT

    I'm a grandmother and a retired first grade teacher. Don't forget a trip to the library with great reading/storytelling times as well as puppet shows...go home and make sock puppet,sack puppets or stick puppets. Many churches have Vacation Bible School for at least a week. Great fun with other children learning God's Word, playing games, crafts and refreshments. Have a great summer learning with your children.

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  • Jaime's Avatar
    Posted by Jaime Fri May 9, 2008 12:09pm PDT

    Last summer, I was taking classes at the Community college while my 2 year old attended the preschool and my 5 year old went to the Boys and Girls Club ($80 for the whole 6 weeks of summer...BARGAIN!)

    This year, I'm not taking classes, so I like the idea of a schedule. We'll be moving in June anyway, so once we get to the new house, it'll be nice to be able to find time to unpack if I have a schedule.

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  • Kris's Avatar
    Posted by Kris Fri May 9, 2008 12:16pm PDT

    This is my first summer home with my kids. I feel very lucky to have this experience while my kids are still young enough to enjoy spending time with Mom. I will definitely have to do a schedule, since my four will quickly grow into half the neighborhood, I'm sure.

    With my special needs son, we have some goals to achieve over the summer and I do look forward to spending time with him, one on one.

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  • CHRISTINA M's Avatar
    Posted by CHRISTINA M Fri May 9, 2008 12:58pm PDT

    Boy oh boy...LOL

    Women are so quick to judge eachother!?!

    Anyway, I live in St Clair Shores Michigan. Anyone know of any inexpensive day camps or Baptist summer camps in my area? The YMCA is way OVER priced!!

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  • Erika Y's Avatar
    Posted by Erika Y Fri May 9, 2008 1:08pm PDT

    See what your parks and rec offers.

    We use the YMCA day camp for our area. Is is expensive. We've used it for 4 years (our oldest is 10), and have been happy about all but the cost.

    This will be our last year though. Next year when our youngest turns 6, she will be old enough to be allowed into the all-day day camp through our town's parks and rec. It costs as much to send all three kids to the parks and rec camp as it does to send one to YMCA camp and the activities (swimming, playground, hiking, field trips, bring your own lunch) are identical to the Y.

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  • 's Avatar
    Posted by Fri May 9, 2008 1:37pm PDT

    to Countrygal: This is not about not wanting to spend time with your child(ren). If you work full time, as most parents do, how can you afford to take off for 2-3 months!! You apperently have no children. I have to work to take care of my children to make sure they get the best education and medical care. I spend my days and weekends with them and no one else!! But I cannot afford tyo take off of work because they are out for summer break. Sorry, my job doesn't have a 3 month vac. plan.

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  • MA's Avatar
    Posted by MA Fri May 9, 2008 2:22pm PDT

    The main idea of the article was to spark ideas on how we can make the most of the summer with our children, not ways to ditch them. It's a great opportunity for them to learn and grow, but if you don't have a routine to follow, the summer is gone and overwith, and nothing to show for it. At the beginning of summer break, I like to brainstorm with my kids, ask them what they'd like to do and accomplish before they have to start school again. The older they get the more fun we've been able to have! You don't have to spend a ton of money to keep your children occupied throughout the break. I like to plan their summer around one BIG event, THE vacation of the summer, along with a couple of day trips planned each month. Between those, family reunions, swimming lessons, swim team meets, our summer is gone! Take advantage of it while you can!

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  • countrygal's Avatar
    Posted by countrygal Sun May 11, 2008 10:45am PDT

    I am not talking about if you have to go to work. I am talking about sending your kids to summer camp with no reason behind it but to get "alone time". And seeing as the article states (and I quote): "You want to make the most of having your child at home but you also need a little personal space.", I just thought anyone with an I.Q. over 85 would understand this. This was not made out of ignorance. I know quite a few parents who send their kids to summer camp just to get rid of them. Sorry if you didn't understand this.

    PS. And I have absolutely NO PROBLEM with moms who send their kids to summer camp because they have to work. Yet, how many actually do?

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