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Thursday, December 3, 2009

Surviving summer break without sending the kids to day camp

If you haven't been paying attention to your kid's school calendar, I'll break it to you gently. You're either at or approaching a single digit when it comes to how much time is left is before summer vacation.

Breath. Take an Om Moment if you must.

So it's not going away, this "school's out" thing. But this other thing called summer camp? It's pricey. Even YMCA camps, the typically affordable solution, can cost upwards of $250 per week. That adds up, especially when you have several children.

And sometimes when you've finally convinced yourself to pony up the cash for eight full weeks of day camp you decide too late and they're all full. (I call that one "The Summer Never to Be Repeated.")

You're in a pickle. You want to make the most of having your child at home but you also need a little personal space. If sending your kids to summer day camp isn't an option, here are some tips that helped me (during that summer never to be repeated).

  • Create a daily schedule. It sounds simple, right? Have a routine. But don't just have it in your head. Put it on paper and break it down buy the hour or thirty-minute mark if your kids are in the under-5 crowd. I know it seems odd to have a schedule during summer break, being off school and all. But think about it -- most kids thrive on continuity. Last summer my son (then 5) and I created his daily schedule together and he loved that he could just walk to the refrigerator to see what he should be doing next. If you needs some inspiration, check out crafty mom and artist Donna Downey's blog -- I copied her format, building in time with mom and chores.
  • Find a mother's helper. Maybe you don't need a full babysitter, but just someone can hang out with your kids and play with them while you work, pick up around the house, whatevs. Find a nice, fun, responsible high school student or late 'tweener to help you out for way less that what summer camp would have cost you. Remember, they're on vacation, too, and their moms and dads are probably just as eager to keep them busy. Summer job? Voila.
  • Have a home-camp share among 5 friends. Okay, this suggestion takes a little planning but if you have a good group of mom friends who are in the same situation as you, it could really work well. For one week, each friend has a 3-hour camp at her home. So Monday, one friend has a baseball camp. Tuesday, another friend has a cooking camp. Wednesday, an art camp. And so on. These home camps can be super simple, just filled with fun activities that the kids can play on their own and/or with minimal supervision. Think of it as one week of rotating playdates where each each of you is guaranteed four days with some free time. Just keep it to five kids so that it's manageable and set a price limit on what each of you can spend so that no one goes overboard. And if that first week is a success, why not do it again? For more ideas on home camp, check out this post.

I'll confess that my boys are all signed up for day camp this summer. However, we do have a few weeks where I'll be doing the working mom juggle while my oldest is home with me and I'm eager to have a home-camp share with a few friends.

For those of you that don't send your kids to day camp over the summer, how do you keep them busy over vacation? Working moms -- what do you do when you don't send your kids to camp?
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  • countrygal's Avatar
    Posted by countrygal Sun May 11, 2008 10:49am PDT

    Oh, and by the last part of my last comment, I did not mean how many actually have to work, I meant how many actually send their kids to summer camp because they have to work.

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  • CharleneS's Avatar
    Posted by CharleneS Mon May 12, 2008 12:56pm PDT

    countrygal: Apparently you are bitter and NEED some "alone time".

    My daughter LOVES camp and I LOVE reading and painting and sometimes just doing nothing (declare me a bad mother now ok). We both benefit from her attending camp. I fill the majority of my days doing activities and enjoying every moment with my child. But we are all human and need to enjoy what we have always enjoyed before becoming mothers. I take care of myself and enjoy my own hobbies. Making me happy in turn makes her happy because we are both getting what we need. Everyone needs alone time, when you decide to stay home, you don't decide to give up your identity and time for yourself. Get over your judgmental outlook on life and enjoy it!

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  • Shelly's Avatar
    Posted by Shelly Mon May 12, 2008 1:15pm PDT

    I would say that countrygal has no clue what she is saying. For one, when I was a teenager I would work all winter on odd jobs to be able to pay my own way to summer camp. I loved the time spent there with horses and people from other areas. Also, my mother was a working mother back when it wasn't as common for both parents to work and I spent at least 3 summers doing crafts and swimming at a day camp. The crafts we did were very involved and I learned many of my advanced craft skills there. My mother was a great mom, who spent all her non working at home time teaching me what it meant to be a good mom and person. She did a much better job, than some of the neighboring women did with their kids staying home all day. I am now a stay at home mother of toddler, as well as the parent of grown up children, who had me at home when they were young. There is no right answer for parenting. It is more a matter of how the time is spent with children, working parent or not… I would say...Be careful of judging other peoples experiences. You never know when life circumstances may cause you to be a working parent... Often when we think we have all the answers, is when we learn we know nothing at all…We all need to walk a mile in the other persons shoes…

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  • DJDiSciullo's Avatar
    Posted by DJDiSciullo Mon Jun 16, 2008 8:32am PDT

    My boys LOVE their summer camp! They usually go for 6 to 8 weeks but this summer due to the rising costs of just living in New York, they will only be going for 4 weeks. The boys are 10 and 6 so they really enjoy playing sports all day and swimming twice a day. They have tons of "camp friends" and they can't wait to meet back up with them for another summer of fun.

    As a child I went to sleep away camps for 8 weeks in Vermont, Maine and Massachusetts every summer since I was 8. I couldn't wait to go and loathed the thought of "hanging out" at home all summer. Unfortunately my parents were able to afford a lot more than I am and so my boys will never experience all the fun and independence of sleep away camp. Day camp will have to do.

    My daughter is 5 and she goes to gymnastics, cheer and to a play group once a week. We also have most of the neighborhood here and it can get crazy with kids and dogs running in and out of our small house. Camp allows for everyone to channel their time.

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  • speck323's Avatar
    Posted by speck323 Wed Jun 18, 2008 12:43am PDT

    ok ...i got one for you. the local pool with life guards. take your lap top ,find a shaddy tree and rest to your content. i've even fallin' asleep!!change it up every few weeks. like a farm , friends and a picnic. i send them on a hike to find and explore stuff. i sit and wait. in the shade of course. and the 4 th of july is a park that the fireworks are at and a full bucket of KFC(chicken) and all the picnic stuff. we always make new friends there, and other parents to help keep me a grown-up. so...lets have fun this year--YEA!

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  • Cathy's Avatar
    Posted by Cathy Tue Jul 1, 2008 8:40pm PDT

    summer camp is not a way to get away from your kids. You should try having some kids then talk the talk. People have to work and the only way to keep the kids busy is to send them somewhere away from home because at home all they do is watch tv and play video games. However, the person who said what they said would already know that. If you are not home you can't leave your kids unattended, hello neglect issues.

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  • Moline S's Avatar
    Posted by Moline S Thu Jul 3, 2008 3:01pm PDT

    Since when is it a luxury to stay home with the kids. We get by on a LOT less money for the good of our family. We make nearly every meal at home, coupons (I hate Coupons), we sew on buttons and patch holes. Dang, I never go shopping for me. Thank god I had a good paying job and bought very nice clothes years ago, cause I'm still wearing them 10 years later). I mow the lawn, built a fence, painted the house, and do all the stuff at the school that no one else has time for. We stay at home moms sit in the health office with sick kids, calling parents. I've heard just about every excuse there is on why it's hard too leave work to pick up sick kids.

    Yes it is hard, many bosses (mine included) don't care if kids are sick or summer is 2 months long. That's why I'm home. I too had to deal with it. I've been on both sides. (the money was nice I could buy stuff for the family and house with out overdaft protection).

    Should I feel bad for the single parent? NO! (unless you were in an abusive marriage).

    Some days/weeks I can't stand my husband and I'm sure it's the same for him, but we make it work. It's hard. Damn hard!!! And I would do it all over again. There is nothing more special then when the kids get in the car after school with all their stories. That 10-20 minutes of talking and sharing, is so special it makes all my tacky clothing, blisters, and spaghetti on every Wednesday night worth it.

    As for $5 camp there's a big difference between a stay at home mom and low income qualifications for camps.

    Of course kids love to go to camp. I wish I could afford it. My kids go to camp. They go at a highly reduced rate and work as camp Counselors. They train for weeks for the position, and they are building leadership skills and having fun.

    The topic here was "Surviving summer break without sending the kids to day camp" Can you and your kids stay home all summer, keep yourselves occupied and not say I'm board. We can.

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  • Angelica's Avatar
    Posted by Angelica Mon Jul 7, 2008 8:35pm PDT

    I would have to agree with the comments about working parents not having the option of taking time off during the summer to be with their children. The common misconception and guilt inducing comment by the foregoing (countrygal)is insulting and ignorant. Yes children do benefit fronm one on one time with parents,not to be overdone however. It is up to the parent to give quality time to the child/children when resources are scarce and time is limited. To judge parenting based on time spent with children is a malicious comment that has perhaps stemmed from a feeling of insecurity that is reflected on overnurturing of children and perhaps living vicariously through them. I do not know contrygals situation nor would I attempt to try to decipher it. However, I would have to agree I found it just as insulting and ignorant as other readers. May I suggest contrygal spend more time working on innerself and realize that we are all different and parenting styles are numerous. A certain amount of empathy and refelction should be developed prior to making a comment of this magnitude. I hope you reaize that most parents are doing the best they can to raise their children with what they have. Additionally, Camps are indeed an enriching experience fopr most, ewhen chosen correctly. They help the child develop fully with exposure to social situations different people and the real world. I hope conutrygal is doing a great job parenting which I am sure she is. To be so judgemental however, only makes me wonder if her children are being indoctrinated in the same way as herself and how that may hurt them in the long run.

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    Posted by Fri Jul 11, 2008 6:09pm PDT

    I'm a mom and teacher who is blessed to have the summers off. With gas prices the way they are, I rotate leaving for a daily excursion vs. staying at home and having "arts/crafts day", "gardening day", etc. Then, twice a week, the girls go to our babysitter so that I can have my "me" time. It doesn't make me a bad mom that I need time to myself. This is my time to re-energize and run errands that I can quickly go in and come out without having to unbuckle car seats, load up, and supervise while in the store.

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  • BetsyW's Avatar
    Posted by BetsyW Tue Jul 15, 2008 9:12pm PDT

    We do a few things. As summer begins we make a list of some bigger things we want to do (a day trip or visit to a certain attraction) and little things (movies, mini golf, etc.). We use the list throughout the summer when we're trying to come up with plans. We also have a "no screens" before noon policy. That way the kids get outside early before it gets hot, or get involved in something without the distraction of TV, video games, or computers. Once or twice we did a "cousins camp", similar to the home camp discussed above. My teen loves the "Instructables" website and sometimes we'll try something wild like "make a giant pancake" just for kicks.

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