The 6 Things Never To Say to Your Adult Kids

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  Posted by Super Abuelita Thu Oct 22, 2009 12:44pm PDT

  My children actually call me for advice, about many different things.

  I do not give advice unless asked for it. My children know I say what I feel when asked, so evidently I am doing something right. I am a grandmother of 6 going on 7. ;)

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  Posted by Felicia Sun Oct 25, 2009 9:18pm PDT

  I have to agree never give them advice unless they ask some people dont understand that.Besides if they need you the will come to you.

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  Posted by weezle Sun Oct 25, 2009 9:30pm PDT

  I always said parenting children is about "doing" and as they mature parenting requires "not doing". Funny how difficult it can be.....

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  Posted by Sara P. Sun Oct 25, 2009 10:19pm PDT

  I cant stand it when I give rules to my children and my parents know the rules but yet they let my child break them anyways..or when My child doesnt eat his dinner and then 20 mins later hes hungry and wants something to eat and I say no or your dinner is waiting for you I see my mom giving him cookies and cake! AGRR! And I cant stand the expression "Thats what Grandparents are for" haha!

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  Posted by IGNATIUS Mon Oct 26, 2009 12:36am PDT

  There is need for every grandparent not to intrude into the affairs of their grown-up children uninvited.

  On education, Parents should not force their grownup children to choose subjects they do not like in the higher institution. That is why it is not advisable for Adult children who have formed their own families to keep on staying under the same roof with their parents. they should start in another premises. This will give them sense of belonging and right-thinking frame of mind.

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  Posted by lakshminarain Mon Oct 26, 2009 3:16am PDT

  Very fruitful & informative column.

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  Posted by Wynee Golden Mon Oct 26, 2009 8:01am PDT

  I've been there, but I have never done any comments to my children about their children. I just pray that the young adults don't force their child to over eat at any time, while their children are developing from infant to toddler, toddler to kinder age, and on to adult. Even if they can or can't put the food away in their body, we don't want to make them overweight at a young age. Pick healthy snack for them and let them have a snack every 2 hours if they need something to eat.

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  Posted by Mo B Mon Oct 26, 2009 9:58am PDT

  My child development expert dad and pediatrician mom always give me unwanted advice. They make sure to throw in that I'm a great mom and doing a good job. But every few weeks my dad pulls me aside and says "it's time we discuss how you are doing..." I hate it, I've read the books know what I should and should not feed her, make sure she plays outside and what not. But somethings work better for us then others and I'm tired of hearing how much better I could be doing if I just took their advice.

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  Posted by Courtney Mon Oct 26, 2009 11:46am PDT

  Pretty sure I've heard most of this from one side. Very frustrating.

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  Posted by Will Mon Oct 26, 2009 6:25pm PDT

  Congrats Super Abuelita, it is great that your children call on you for your expertise, it sounds like you are really doing the right thing, except teaching them about birth control. 7 grandchildren?

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