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Sunday, November 29, 2009

The Digital Dish: Is there a "right" age to let your kid get technified?

Jason Fry over at The Wall Street Journal posed a question running through my brain. In A Father's Dilemma, he ponders the best age to introduce young children to the digital age.

Fry's dilemma? He wants to preserve his 5-year-old son's digital-free childhood but doesn't want his son to be behind the proverbial eight ball because he wasn't exposed to a computer, the Web, video games--all things geek tech--at home.

The fact is that most schools are introducing kids to computers in kindergarten, usually through a weekly computer class where they learn to navigate with a mouse, chicken-peck a keyboard, and print on their own. They use simple applications like KidPix to draw pictures or play math games.

Like Jason Fry, I'd rather see my building with blocks, drawing or running around playing T-ball instead of sitting in front of a computer right now. (Keep in mind this is coming from the mom who hasn't owned a television in five years). My two boys see me on my laptop way too much already so I'm not all that eager for them to think it holds the key to fun. (When my oldest son is mad at me he likes to call me a "Blogger" like it's a bad word..."You're a Bloooooger.")

Beth Blecherman over at Techmamas has a excellent breakdown of the tech gadgets for kids in grades K-8. In her research she learned that kids do not need access just to play simple games online. to a computer at home until 6th grade because they can use the computers at school. But many kids do have access at home.

And Dory over in Work & Money also shared some tips when she looked at whether tots and technology are a good mix.

If your kids are under 10, are they online? How much? And when did you introduce them to the digital age?

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  • Meagan Francis's Avatar
    Posted by Meagan Francis Wed Mar 26, 2008 5:21pm PDT

    Unfortunately, too much. My husband is a geek and introduced my kids to video games, computers and the internet at a very young age--by the age of two. Lately I've realized what a huge monster we've created by allowing too much, too soon--they've become obsessed!--and I've really had to crack down. Now my 8- and 10-year old sons are only allowed to play on the weekends or other breaks, and I'm trying to keep my littler ones (2 and 4) off the computers entirely.

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  • TechMama's Avatar
    Posted by TechMama Thu Mar 27, 2008 11:25am PDT

    My philosophy is to wait until they ask - but let them be a kid, play outside, do imaginary play, play sports and do live social interaction as the first priority. But if they ask, then it is IMPORTANT to spend time with them educating them on safe use of the internet and expose them to some programs (like picture and movie editing - even KidPix that was mentioned above) that they may enjoy using. Some 1st graders are already programming in basic. There are also great learning websites for math games that can allow some children who don't respond to math problems on a paper a chance to practice math.

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  • QuirkyDolls's Avatar
    Posted by QuirkyDolls Sun Mar 30, 2008 11:43pm PDT

    The question is not when, but how much? It MUST be a "small" part of their world and not an all consuming black hole hobby they get sucked into. Just like TV it must be a limited amount of time and only after more important activities such as homework, chores, family time, meals, exercise, etc. I am a firm believer in keeping the TV and computer in the family room where its use can be monitored, for both content and amount of time.

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  • mom2dani's Avatar
    Posted by mom2dani Mon Mar 31, 2008 7:38am PDT

    The key is to start the kids off knowing that sitting is unhealthy and they should be busy moving not sitting all the time. Our saying is "the more you sit, the fatter you get!" This gets us adults as well as the kids off the couch and in the yard or at least up and doing something. Our 6 year old has had her own computer online and in her playroom since she was 3-4. All of the toolbars have been removed and she can only go to the sites that we have set up on her desktop as icons. This may not work for everyone, but it works for us and her. We all seem to find balance ... spending mostly daylight hrs up and going and doing and late afternoons and evenings tv watching and on the computers. :)

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  • wolvesnbrick's Avatar
    Posted by wolvesnbrick Mon Mar 31, 2008 8:47am PDT

    My oldest daughter learned how to use a computer when she was 2 (she's 10 now). She didn't get online, just played learning games. Usually no more than a hour a day, if that. But we did teach her to urn the computer on and off the right way and which icons were her games to play. My middle two girls didn't learn quite so early. We could set up disk games (learning games) for them but my second daughter didn't have the patience to sit still on the computer until she was about 5 and my youngest was playing learning games with help at age 3 but didn't really have an interest until she was 5 either. Now they are 6 and 8. The three of them play both online and disk games now but the online is monitored and they take turns on one computer for set amount of time per day usually in the evenings. My son is 3 1/2 and I bought him the Easy Link which he loves. It only allows him to play on specific learning websites and he can do it himself because it won't let him do anything else on my computer. I think the key is monitoring usage both in time and what it is they are doing on the computer.

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  • cloud9dreamer's Avatar
    Posted by cloud9dreamer Mon Mar 31, 2008 10:13am PDT

    I don't understand the point of shielding kids from technology. Say 50-100 years ago, would you shield your child from using LIGHTS, PHONES? Technology is part of today's life. It's better to let them learn how to utilize them to their benefits, yet not to abuse them. My kids know how to navigate computes at about age 3, all just by watching what we do. Now they can play/learn on the computers. I give them a 15 minute limit on weekdays, and 30 minutes on weekends. Just like TV, these are rationed activities, and they really benefit from them.

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  • Charlene Prince Birkeland, Shine staff's Avatar
    Posted by Charlene Prince Birkeland, Shine staff Mon Mar 31, 2008 10:52am PDT

    I guess the question is really around need: is it a necessary for kids to be online so young? Will it hurt them to NOT be online early on? My guess is no, they'll learn it all in due time. My two cents...

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  • Gigi's Avatar
    Posted by Gigi Mon Mar 31, 2008 6:08pm PDT

    With kids getting on social networks earlier (e.g. Webkinz, Club Penguin), I'm seeing my daughters' friends expecting other online tools earlier (e.g. IMing, email accounts, message boards, YouTube). So parents are needing to be investing the time to teach kids online skills sooner -- and I'm seeing a lot not knowing how to do this and throwing up their hands. Or they are letting their kids do what they perceive as "age appropriate" according to their peers and not investing the time to work with their kids on what is digitally good for them.

    Also, there are a LARGE number of digitally healthy learning tools online...lots of cool things are out there like Woogiworld.com (a learning social networking environment for kids), Nasa.gov (marvelous!), Panwapa.com (an online global/eco game tool from Sesame Workshop), How2Kids.com (videos of kids teaching other kids how to use technology), and GoGirlsOnly.com (games and fun from Girl Scouts).

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  • Matador's Avatar
    Posted by Matador Mon Apr 14, 2008 11:16am PDT

    Our daughter is 3 years old and is extremely computer saavy. She loves her DS and learns games extremely quickly. She is on our computer everyday for at least one/two hours. Our challenge to finding age appropriate computer learning toys or games because she's already way past them.

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  • Marcus's Avatar
    Posted by Marcus Tue Apr 15, 2008 12:40pm PDT

    I did not touch a computer until I was 16 years old. I did not own a computer until I was 21 years old. I can now program in VB, Labview, machine language, and C++. I don't think kids get behind by not using computers. Besides how "ahead" can they really get when the technology is ever-changing?

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