My husband's ex-wife sent out an email (a.k.a nasty-gram) to my husband, his parents and her parents about child support. Granted, the child support isn't due until the end of the month and my husband normally pays it by the 10th, regardless. If his ex-wife asks for something extra, like for an special activity, he always sends the money. Being that my ex-husband is over $12,000 in arrears, I think that my hubby is pretty spectacular in the child support department.
Rewind to Saturday, shortly before the nasty-gram hit everyone's inbox. The ex called our house about 6 times that afternoon. My husband being at work and me not liking to be hung up on (historically, that's how our phone conversation ends), I let the answering machine take her calls. The 7th time she called, I answered, mistakenly thinking she was someone else.
D'oh.
She asked for my hubby and I told her apologetically that he was at work. She was very curt with me, never addressing me by name (I'm sure saying my name evokes some sort of evil spirit), asking if I had his work number. I generally don't call him at the office, crazy thing that I am, so I relayed that notion to her. I then asked if she needed his cell phone number. "Is it working again?", she asks. I wonder if she is talking about the old phone or the new, pre-paid phone. In any case, without prompting, I rattle off the number "just in case.", thinking to myself that I'm way too nice to this woman that clearly hates me.
And what does she do? Does she call his cell? Nope. Instead, she composes said nasty-gram. My husband sends a "reply all" out on a bunch of stuff he's not complained about out-loud in a very matter of fact way (because he documents all the communication). She has done some pretty shady stuff during the time I've been with my hubby. (Like pretending she never got the child support check after cashing it or most recently reporting to my mother-in-law that he was not keeping the phone date with the kids, even though I was there when he called at the appropriate time and left a message.)
Normally, he sucks it up and let's her craziness go, but this was somehow different. There was such a barrage from anger from her on top of making it "public", which my hubby abhores. As his dad reminded him, that's why they are divorced. After his reply, she sent another nasty-gram back, to which he did not respond. What was the point of a nasty-gram exchange?
Nothing.
I couldn't help but feel pretty helpless during the whole thing. My husband was experiencing something horrid and I wanted to claw her eyes out. Instead, I lent a sympathetic ear and gave a lot of hugs. Silently, I hoped that me and my son weren't the thing that pushed his ex over the proverbial edge. Being that he recently spoke to the kids and she recently spoke to me; She's really opposses the whole step-family thing.
Yet, her tatic to make my husband look poorly to his parents didn't work. They simply know better and they know why my hubby refused to respond further to nasty-grams: It's not good for the kids.
