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Wednesday, December 9, 2009

These 3 Women Had Home Births - Would You?

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More and more women are defying convention and doctors' guidelines and choosing to have their babies at home. Here, three women talk about the ups and downs of delivering their way.

"I was happy to be in my own bed. But let's face it: Birth without drugs sucks."
Mardi Douglass, Seattle

Read More: Your Labor & Delivery Birth Plan

I gave birth to my first son without pain medication at a birthing center. I found out the most surprising thing about birth is the pain. Let's face it: Birth without drugs sucks.

When I got pregnant again, I swore I wouldn't do that again, but I couldn't bring myself to give birth in a hospital without a midwife. So I decided to do it at home.

I spent most of my labor kneeling on the floor with my arms on our bed. I felt more present than I was during my first birth and made a conscious choice about how I was going to react to the pain. When the midwife arrived, we moved to the bed and Tanner was born shortly thereafter. The most painful part is when the baby's head is coming through your cervix, but it's also a good feeling because the next sensation is feeling the baby completely out of your body&#mdash;and the pain is gone.

I was so happy when it was over and very happy that I was in my own bed. And, I didn't have to drive to a birthing center while in labor. Overall, the four hours of painful labor relative to nine months of meaningful care from a midwife was worth it. 

"I didn't want to be in a hospital where there are people I don't know. It just didn't feel right."
Elizabeth Halpern, Los Angeles

Read More: Study Says Home Births OK

During my first pregnancy, we went to a birthing class at a local yoga studio. The midwife who taught the class said the most important thing was to have your baby in a place where you feel the strongest and most confident. So, I thought, I need to be home. I didn't want to be in a hospital where there are people I don't know and they are telling me what to do. It just didn't feel right.

My first labor at home was long. For my second, I was sure we would have a water birth, but everything moved so fast we didn't have time to fill up the birthing tub. The pain was also very different. It was harsh and quick compared with the dull and drawn-out pain of my first labor and delivery.

As soon as my 5-year-old son, Hudson, found out we were having a baby, he was steadfast about wanting to help with the birth. I delivered his brother, Winston, lying on the cement floor of our loft. The first thing Hudson did when Winston was born was sit next to me and ask, "Mommy, are you so happy to finally have your baby?

"After three hours of pushing, I knew something was wrong. We couldn't figure out why my daughter, Harper, wasn't coming out."
Renee Pietrangelo-Brown, Los Angeles


Read about Renee's attempts, and nerve-wracking rush to the hospital, here.

So what do you think?  Have you had a home birth?  Do you admire/respect/disagree with these three women?  We want to know!!!

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  • Robyn's Avatar
    Posted by Robyn Wed Sep 2, 2009 9:25pm PDT

    yes and my boyfriends mom will be my nurse and midwife... she had all 3 of her kids at home

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  • MistressMinx's Avatar
    Posted by MistressMinx Thu Sep 3, 2009 8:08am PDT

    Yes, I had my daughter at home. Best thing I've ever done. I do not like hospitals and didn't want to be treated as though my pregnancy was a disease, so I found a midwife and had my baby at home. That was 10 years ago and I have never regretted it.

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  • miss my family's Avatar
    Posted by miss my family Mon Sep 7, 2009 7:42pm PDT

    I agree. The hospitals treat you like you don't have a clue what your doing. Like you don't know what you need or want it's so annoying. One of my sisters had her baby in the hospital and they took him to another room for an hour! And he wasn't even sick. He just layed on one of those warming tables. I was so mad.

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