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  Posted by hckygrl28 Wed May 7, 2008 12:37pm PDT

  I think spanking teaches kids it is OK to hit when you are angry. My 3 year old responds fabulously to the mention of a time out or my starting to count to five. On most occasions the time out never happens...and I rarely reach five.

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  Posted by Irene R Wed May 7, 2008 12:52pm PDT

  I believe that should be used as an absolute last resort and should NEVER be done when the parent is angry.

  There is a definte difference between getting a spanking and being abused. I have experience both.

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  Posted by marty6808 Wed May 7, 2008 1:38pm PDT

  well i guess in my case , because of spankings i at least had fear of something so just the mention of a spanking would cause me to quit my drama with my parents and be angry , quietly ....and then i grew up a little better than some of the generation of now..including my own.

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  Posted by Jennifer G Wed May 7, 2008 1:49pm PDT

  I agree that there is an absolute difference in getting a spank and abuse as well. I have a two year old daughter apropriately named Stormer. She is a carbon copy of her dad who was and still is a "heck raiser." She doesn't respond to a spank or a pop as I call them. She infact either laughs or hits back. She also likes to pinch and if I try to pinch back she thinks it is the most hillarious thing ever. If her daddy spanks her she gets upset though...maybe I'm just a softy but timeout seems to work well for her because she gets NO attention during that time and the lack of attention is the most upsetting thing to her.

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  Posted by Many Shades of Shabby by Devonia Wed May 7, 2008 3:56pm PDT

  If you must spank, general consensus is to "spank with your bare hand". Why?!?!? The hope is that your hand will hurt and warn you to stop.

  I spanked when my little ones were small. I placed one hand behind their bottom and slapped it with my other hand - the effect was the same as if I had hit them. They were either mortified or howled as if severely injured. That way I knew they wouldn't be bruised by my hand.

  My mom both spanked and pinched. I resented yet dreaded both.

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  Posted by Tammy G Wed May 7, 2008 4:07pm PDT

  I personally think it depends on the child. My oldest son could care less if you put him on time out he responded to spankings. My youngest son is very active so time outs seem to work better for him. In my case growing up I know that I got in less trouble than the kids who's parents were more leinent because i always had a fear of what would happen if I did something wrong. I guess for me spanking showed me there were consequences. Now I don't agree with marking a child up but a spanking I think is ok.

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  Posted by ladyb_01 Wed May 7, 2008 4:43pm PDT

  YES I BELIVE IN SPANKINGS!!!

  There is a limit however. I don't spank my child when I am angry. Even when my son cut all of my daughters hair 2 weeks before easter. (last year) I was so hurt and mad. I cooled down and I explained to him why he was about to get a whooping. Also, when a kid receive a spanking it should not be for every little thing. A spanking would not even work if it is the major form of discipline. Even to threaten a spanking all the time is ineffective. But for certain things I belive a spanking is suitable. However, if you spank/discipline your child early and not wait until they are 8 years old to do so, you should not really have a problem out of them anyway. They will know who is boss and what is allowed and what is not.

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  Posted by ClearH2o Chick Wed May 7, 2008 5:44pm PDT

  Never spank when angry, that teaches the wrong lessons. Also it depends on the child. My oldest daughter would sit in "timeout" all day if you let her, but a tiny swat made an impact. My second daughter would shrug off a spanking, but "timeouts" really got her attention.

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  Posted by dedeskinner Wed May 7, 2008 7:01pm PDT

  I definately believe in spanking. God said spair the rod and spoil the child.Do we know better than God? I try reasoning and time out but if that don't do it then I spanked my kids.

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  Posted by Riete Thu May 8, 2008 3:07am PDT

  I do believe in spanking at, but never in anger and only when absolutely necessary.

  Let the child know why it is spanked, keep it short (one or two ...), never in the face but use the behind and afterward comfort the child so that it knows that you are not forever angry ...

  Spanking is not for all ages.

  When a child is young it's ok, but there comes a time when it is not appropriate anymore.

  When it becomes humiliating for a child you should stop ... or else it will spoil your relationship with your child for a very long time!

  And try to avoid it ... there are so many other ways to be found. Get creative!

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