User post: Staying For Your Kids

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  Posted by Mo B Tue Jul 7, 2009 9:07am PDT

  I think that way of thinking is well stupid. How can you except to be a good parent if you aren't happy. You're kids can still have all the love they need from two divorced or seperated parents. I truely believe that two happy seperate parents are better then two miserable married parents. I am divorced and have a daughter, she has more then enough love from me her dad and both our significant others.

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  Posted by Pat Wed Jul 8, 2009 5:31am PDT

  I think yes its the right thing to do by staying for the children but its not always the best thing to do. I watched my parents do that for the sake of us and I realize its not best thing. My parents were always fighting and yelling at eachother. My siblings and I would have been happier if they would have finally divorced because with them being so unhappy it made us kids unhappy also. But my parents stayed together for 15 years because of us.I understand why they did it. But I know we would have been alot happier if they had divorced alot sooner.

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  Posted by ArthurD Wed Jul 8, 2009 9:02pm PDT

  I am 8 and a half months pregnant. I am a stay at home mom and I have a 2 year old son. I have been with his father for the past 3 years and 2 months. I love him and want to stay with him and raise our daughter who is on her way and my son. My sons father decides to tell me not even a week ago that he wants to seperate and break up. Because all we do is argue and that it is not good for the children. I am 20 years old he just turned 20 in June. We are considered common law marriage. He has told me several times that we are broken up. I have cried for the past week now. I have cried because I cannot think of how I can possibly raise my children by myself. I have cried because I have nowhere to go. Now do you think he should be able to decide that he wants to do this to me right now out of all the possible times he could have told me this. Do you think I would want to be single and have two children left behind with me. I have raised my son since the day he was born no daycare, and I rarely had anyone watch him other than myself. If so it was his either one of his grandmas.And that was when I had doctors appointments. I have not gone out and went and enjoyed myself at all and done things any other 20 year old would do. Because I enjoy raising my beautiful child and watching him grow. I take him everywhere with me. I am on Wic and recieve foodstamps and medicaid for my son and for myself for this pregnancy and for my sons. But my sons father has a job and he has had a job since my son was born. He has supported us while I watched my son. So my son would not be taken to a daycare. What is wrong with being a stay at home mom? When my son is healthy, smart, strong and happy. He learns so many new things each day. My daughter is healthy as well. I want to be with my sons father but he doesnt want me. So what can I possibly do if I do become a single mom of two if I have tried to keep the relationship going for the children. What is there to do when he wants to give up his responsibilities so he can just go and do whatever he wants. I also am going to an online school and have recieved an A in my classes so far. All this while being pregnant taking care of a two year old non stop 24/7 no daycare no drop offs to grandma. The only time he is not with me is when I ask his dad to watch him while I go to doctors appointments, which I have to get to by taking the bus. I got pregnant my senior year in High School. Never thought of adoption or abortion. Never. I had to do whatever I could to get my son to be healthy and to take care of the bills and things for the hospital. I had a job until I was 7 and a half months pregnant. I graduated with honors from my High School when I had him a month before graduation. I even walked the stage. So if I am on welfare with him it makes me a bad person since I sit at home all day supposedly. I am getting an education so one day I can pay back all the welfare that I got. But does it make me a bad person if I stand in line when I am about to pop to make sure that my son has food in his stomach and that my daughter is healthy because I have medicaid to cover doctors visits. No I would never give my son or daughter up just because I am not married does not mean I do not love his father and him and my daughter completely.

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  Posted by Curtis Thu Jul 9, 2009 4:58pm PDT

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