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Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Why are we making such a big deal about Salma Hayek's breastfeeding footage?

I think it must first be said that I love Salma Hayek. Love her, love her. Love. Her. She is the epitome of girl crush material with her accent and outspokenness and badaboom-badabing. She made erratic, unibrowed Frida Kahlo into an icon of eroticism on-screen and was enchanting in Dogma even though the movie itself was pretty awkward. She has the whole "Ugly Betty" producing thing going on, and is the only actor other than Tina Fey who seems to really stand up to Alec Baldwin on "30 Rock."  I love that she's so fabulous and so not 20, a size zero, or compelled to marry the father of her child (all of those things are fine, and seeing a woman outside the near-impossible Hollywood box is more than refreshing).

Now Salma's in the spotlight for travelling to Sierra Leone with UNICEF to help combat tetanus and other health issues facing women and children in that part of the world. What's most interesting to me about this activist endeavor is that it is all overshadowed by one moment caught on camera.

Yes, you probably already know the moment. It's the one when Salma Hayek breastfeeds a baby that isn't her own. She nurses a newborn in a symbolic gesture of compassion, education, and connection, and to show African mothers that breastfeeding is the best way to combat malnutrition in an area where infant mortality is of dire concern. And, of course, the whole campaign has taken a backseat to the YouTube video and blog buzz about Salma Hayek's boobs.

To be fair, a lot of the commentary has been on Salma Hayek hoisting up her breasts to feed an unrelated baby, and the shock and tears that come in seeing a woman offering up her body to heal the world. On this side of the world, we are not used to this. We are far more comfortable with women offering their bodies for blockbuster film roles, magazine spreads, and one twenty dollar bill at a time to get through college. I won't go into a whole patriarchy rant on this, but I will say that it amazes me that, after hearing reactions on TV news stories and filing through the hundreds of comments on blogs, people (and especially women) want to see (with their own eyes) a body nourishing another human being in need.

I also imagine that people (and now I mean men) are cheering Salma Hayek on in doing as much aid to Africa (and heck, why not America?) as she can possible fit into her schedule (and nursing tank top).

Maybe a few YouTubers or "Nightline" viewers did pay attention to the cause behind Salma Hayek's (oh, dare I say this?) staged breastfeeding session (maybe I've seen far too many episodes of "The Hills" to know that very little on TV is truly spontaneous).  Maybe some people wondered why she had to have that little square of cotton covering her breast if the point was to be provocative.

Perhaps some of us are pondering the over-asked question of "would you breastfeed another woman's child?" and maybe others are considering why lactating is still considered so private, so intimate, and so shocking to see on-screen.

My opinion of Salma Hayek hasn't changed any after seeing her nurse that hungry newborn. It gave me a little let-down, but it certainly didn't make me think she'd crossed a line or even done something radical. She normalized something that should be normalized. Look at her. Save the fabric on her bust, she could be a woman at your playgroup, the park, or tucked away in the "Mother's Lounge" at Macy's.

It's the realness there that makes me swoon more over Salma, not the "controversy" over it. There's really nothing big about all this (well...), really nothing to see here other than a mother doing what many mothers would and have and will as long as women can produce milk.

What do you think? Why are we making such a big deal about Salma Hayek's breastfeeding footage?

And what about the cause that inspired it?
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  • desiree's Avatar
    Posted by desiree Thu Feb 12, 2009 2:57pm PST

    i totally agree with you, this is a great post. at first i was liek who is she nursing but after reading the article i was almost in tears. if she has the capability to nurse still and her baby is not with her i say that was a fabulous thing to do. Why waste the milk, there is a hungry baby that needs nurishment and really what more can you do for that baby. Its one thing to dnate time and $ to the cause. which i'm sure she has. but she can actually physically feed 1 baby than that makes a huge difference in that babys well being. my only concern is does she stay with that baby through out her trip to continue to nurse him /her? What happens when she leaves and the baby is wanting her milk, will the baby take to formula if the mother can not feed her? My concern is the baby as it gets attached to selma- or does the baby even get to get attached?

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  • C's Avatar
    Posted by C Fri Feb 13, 2009 12:39am PST

    PRESSTV.ir They have no food yet in gaza save Gaza babies save Gaza people Israel killed them Help help help

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  • Rowdygirl's Avatar
    Posted by Rowdygirl Fri Feb 13, 2009 6:03am PST

    Seeing what she did just made me think that she really has a compassionate heart and is naturally maternal. People are trying to turn this into something sordid or weird.. what's wrong with her being a sweet and giving woman who felt compassion for the baby and his mother? The freaks trying to make this something x-rated just need to shut up.

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  • Veronica's Avatar
    Posted by Veronica Fri Feb 13, 2009 6:05am PST

    She sent a powerful message on many levels with that gesture. She showed compassion and generosity, she made a statement about race relations, and most importantly, she made a very important statement about breastfeeding to women who are discouraged from doing it by husbands who feel it "spoils" their sexuality. In that place, in that culture, children's lives are put AT RISK when women are discouraged or forbidden from breast feeding. This was a bold and powerful gesture, and I hope an effective one in lessening the stigma on breastfeeding both in Africa and in America.

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  • GG1000's Avatar
    Posted by GG1000 Fri Feb 13, 2009 6:09am PST

    Yuck. If anyone stuck their nipple in my baby's mouth I'd be howling. How does the mother know she's healthy, not carrying any viruses she could transmit, etc. Talk about messing with boundaries - gack! As far as the video of her breastfeeding, yawn. Been there, done that, no interest in watching someone else do it. I could go outside and watch my grass grow as well.

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  • rockin' mom's Avatar
    Posted by rockin' mom Fri Feb 13, 2009 6:31am PST

    I admire Salma for doing this. Those children over there need so much...what a wonderful way to share what you have with a child that so badly needs it. If anyone is shocked or offended by this, they should be ashamed of themselves. This is nothing but a wonderful act of kindess and Salma is giving this baby what it needs most--NUTRITION. Go Salma. You're an awesome woman.

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  • Heather -HH-'s Avatar
    Posted by Heather -HH- Fri Feb 13, 2009 6:44am PST

    I saw this on Good Morning America couple of days ago and was really shocked that some people think that is wrong for her to do. She was feeding a hungry baby, giving him the nutrition he needs. I think its a beautiful, good deed of her.

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  • hdg n8tve's Avatar
    Posted by hdg n8tve Fri Feb 13, 2009 6:45am PST

    As a mother nursing her own 3 month old, I commend Salma's actions. If I were in her shoes, I would have done the same. Those poor children desperately need help, and breastmilk replenishes, so why not share? I hope it does draw support and attention to the goodness and natural beauty of breastfeeding. Those who see it as provacative are rediculous. Once upon a time it was called wet-nursing and it was quite common. I just hope that her efforts with Unicef go further to help the issues at hand in that country than just breastfeeding one infant.

    PS Salma seems like a wonderful woman, mother, and a great actress! I agree w/ the author - love her love her love her!

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  • Sunnyone's Avatar
    Posted by Sunnyone Fri Feb 13, 2009 7:06am PST

    Good for her!! I think she's great. I've breastfed my child and there is nothing wrong with what she did. She actually has a HEART! My husband had a nurse when he was little, his mother didn't have enough milk and back then there were no formula, just cow milk if you could get it. Thank GOD for people who actually care.

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  • Meriel's Avatar
    Posted by Meriel Fri Feb 13, 2009 7:08am PST

    Actually, the act of breastfeeding another woman's baby is as old as civilization. Roman matrons used wet nurses to feed their infants; we actually have business contracts listing rules that wet nurses had to follow (i.e., a limited amount of alcohol, a set amount of food the family would purchase to ensure healthy milk). This trend continued well into the nineteenth century; a lower class woman could provide for her entire family by the simple act of feeding another's child.

    The important part of this whole thing is the fact that children do better if they are breastfed. However, it doesn't necessarily have to be the mother. It takes a village to raise a child, and Ms. Hayak proved that she was willing to be part of the process, if only for a little while.

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