Quick background on me: I was raised by my grandmother. She did
the best with what limited resources that she had. I never had a
b-day party, sleepovers, or nice clothes. I really and truly
thought that life was supposed to be like the cosby show or full
house.
I am a married mother of 3. I have a 10 yr old boy and two girls 8,
and 3. I have a 8-5 m-f . My day starts @ 5am the bus picks the
kiddos up at 655 so I have to get started early. I make their
breakfast every morning ( sometimes they have cereal) fix hair,
pack lunches, and make sure homework goes to school. This is
my daily morning routine.
Now let me tell you the rest. I am the mom that always throws the
big theme planned parties, I am the mom the homeroom mom calls when
she need baked foods. I am the mom that plans the party for my
son's football team, I coach my daughters cheerleading squad, I am
a girlscout leader, i am a PTA volunteer, I currently am looking
for a rabbit to show for 4-H. I am CRAZY!!!!!
I received a call last nite from a PTA mom, she knew just the right
thing to say to me:" I was needing you to work on getting
donations for this years auction. You did such a great job last
year. You brought more donations in than most of the parents. We
really need you to go after some of the bigger donations this
year." of coarse i said Sure i can help just tell me
where you want me to go. My husband and i had already decided that
i would not work on the auction this year because it wears me
out.
I have no problem telling my kiddos NO! They think that they are
deprived because i say no, or if you want it then you can buy it,
or the dreaded you have to earn it. I can tell them no all day long
and be fine but when it comes to their school or xtra curricular
activities i have trouble saying no. Am i projecting my bad
experience by overdoing theirs? How do I say no and not
feel horrible GUILT?
Please someone give me an idea or a thought. Thanks :)
Why can't I JUST SAY NO??!!!
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Posted by Wed Oct 1, 2008 9:00am PDT
Report AbuseYou don't have to be a school mom to give advice on this one. DON'T DO IT!!!! Their PTO meetings will go on just fine without you.....stop trying to be a super hero, focus on what's dear and close to you.... yourself, your family, and your husband. Exactly in that order!! Give time and reflection back to yourself. It's just that simple....that complexity of it all comes into play by deciding what it is you're going to do?
Roxie J.
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Posted by Wed Oct 1, 2008 9:01am PDT
Report AbuseAww...you have alot of your plate. I thought I did....but you, your Super Mom! :) I think the problem is your afraid someone may get upset with you and you don't want that. Of course it's different with your children, because they are part of you. You can make them upset by saying no to something and know that they'll forget about it later on that day when something else comes along more entertaining. Thats the thing about children, they are so forgetfull and forgiving when they are young. Adults however, aren't. It's like the roles are reversed. It seems that it should be the other way around, right? Yeah. Just let them know..."hey, I really enjoy helping you all but I've got to much on my plate right now, maybe next year" You gotta look out for you and yours hunny. You've done good with the auction in the past....they should be happy with that. God Bless and good luck!! **HUGGS**
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Posted by Wed Oct 1, 2008 9:27am PDT
Report AbuseI agree with Lindsey she has some valid points. My only other thought would be they will suck you dry if you let them and you won't have anytime for you family, hubby may feel neglected because you had already discussed not doing the auction. Maybe he saw something in you that you didn't see YOU WERE REALLY TIRED!!!!!! So take a break kido you know that halloween is coming up so you have to get ready for that.... :^O Good Luck
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Posted by Mon Dec 1, 2008 5:41am PST
Report AbuseYou are trying to please everyone. That's the problem.
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