Quick background on me: I was raised by my grandmother. She did
the best with what limited resources that she had. I never had a
b-day party, sleepovers, or nice clothes. I really and truly
thought that life was supposed to be like the cosby show or full
house.
I am a married mother of 3. I have a 10 yr old boy and two girls 8,
and 3. I have a 8-5 m-f . My day starts @ 5am the bus picks the
kiddos up at 655 so I have to get started early. I make their
breakfast every morning ( sometimes they have cereal) fix hair,
pack lunches, and make sure homework goes to school. This is
my daily morning routine.
Now let me tell you the rest. I am the mom that always throws the
big theme planned parties, I am the mom the homeroom mom calls when
she need baked foods. I am the mom that plans the party for my
son's football team, I coach my daughters cheerleading squad, I am
a girlscout leader, i am a PTA volunteer, I currently am looking
for a rabbit to show for 4-H. I am CRAZY!!!!!
I received a call last nite from a PTA mom, she knew just the right
thing to say to me:" I was needing you to work on getting
donations for this years auction. You did such a great job last
year. You brought more donations in than most of the parents. We
really need you to go after some of the bigger donations this
year." of coarse i said Sure i can help just tell me
where you want me to go. My husband and i had already decided that
i would not work on the auction this year because it wears me
out.
I have no problem telling my kiddos NO! They think that they are
deprived because i say no, or if you want it then you can buy it,
or the dreaded you have to earn it. I can tell them no all day long
and be fine but when it comes to their school or xtra curricular
activities i have trouble saying no. Am i projecting my bad
experience by overdoing theirs? How do I say no and not
feel horrible GUILT?
Please someone give me an idea or a thought. Thanks :)
Why can't I JUST SAY NO??!!!
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