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Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Why I DON'T Want My Kids In The Kitchen

It seems like everyone is saying, "Let your kids help you in the kitchen," these days.  I'm going to go out on a limb and say, "Um...NO!!!"  Before you nominate me for Worst Mother Ever, just hear me out.  My kids are wonderful, I love them more than anything, but I don't want them in the kitchen with me everyday. 

Here are the five reasons I don't want my kids to come in the kitchen to help me cook dinner:

1.  They Slow Me Down
Like most families, our lives our hectic.  I spend the afternoons helping with homework, taking the kids to soccer practice, dance lessons, music classes, and on and on and on.  While I could take the easy way out and go through the drive-thru at my local fast food joint, we have a family meal at the dinner table every night.  As the kids get older, this gets harder because their schedules are so full, but so far we've managed.  When the kids come in the kitchen to help cook dinner, they really slow the process down.  Some nights we don't get to eat until 7:30 anyway, and if I let the kids help cook, we would be eating even later.  When I can cook alone, I get dinner on the table much faster.

2. The Kitchen Is A Dangerous Place
Sharp knives, scalding burners, heavy pots full of boiling water, the kitchen is full of all sorts of ways for kids to get hurt.  Yes, I'm aware that kids need to learn about these things, but I'll save the lessons for when I have time to teach them (like a weekend when we're not in such a rush.)

3. They Still Won't Eat
People have told me countless times, "If you include the kids in cooking, they'll eat what they make.  To that I say, "WRONG!" Believe me, I've tried.  Like most kids, mine can be picky eaters.  Does that mean we eat chicken nuggets and macaroni and cheese nightly?  Absolutely not.  I really enjoy cooking and trying new recipes, so we do not have a set meal rotation.  Do my kids always eat what I put in front of them?  No.  But will they eat it if they prepare it? No.

4. Kids Are Little Bundles Of Germs
No matter how diligent you are about hand washing and cleanliness in general, kids are little bundles of germs.  When my kids are allowed to come help me in the kitchen, we wash our before we begin and after we touch something that requires it.  When I'm busy cooking, I can't have my eyes on the kids constantly.  I know the minute I turn to stir the pan of sauteeing vegetables, my son is going to stick his finger up his nose!

5. Precious Mommy Alone Time
I've already stated that I love my kids.  But I haven't mentioned that there are four of them under the age of 10.  They keep my VERY busy.  The 30 minutes it takes me to cook dinner every night is my only alone time.  I'm much more likely to cook with love if I'm allowed to cook in peace.


It's not that I don't want my kids to learn to cook.  I just want to save those lessons for when I have time to teach them properly.  We are to busy for me to give cooking lessons on the weekdays.  I like to use weekends and holidays to teach my kids about cooking.  It's so much nicer to do it when we're all relaxed and unhurried.


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  • Leah's Avatar
    Posted by Leah Tue Oct 20, 2009 11:36am PDT

    My kids are grown now, but I had four kids in the same age range you do. I saved the cooking 'together time' for holidays and days when I, for some reason or other, had an extra dose of patience.

    And ditto on the picky eater still not eating the food that they prepared themselves...it was worth a try tho :)

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  • Amy's Avatar
    Posted by Amy Tue Oct 20, 2009 11:38am PDT

    HOw will your kids ever learn to cook if you don't teach them?

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  • Yogurt Lover's Avatar
    Posted by Yogurt Lover Tue Oct 20, 2009 11:42am PDT

    I think this is a great article and I completely agree.

    One of the things I hate about cooking with my kids is the mess that they create. I don't have the time or patience to be picking up huge messes just so they can be involved. I have other household chores that I need to finish up.... and a waste-land of a kitchen is not something I look forward to.

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  • Leah's Avatar
    Posted by Leah Tue Oct 20, 2009 11:48am PDT

    Amy... kids under 10 years old don't NEED to know how to cook. My adult children can ALL cook, but I did not have all of them in the kitchen under the age of 10.

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  • None's Avatar
    Posted by None Tue Oct 20, 2009 11:54am PDT

    This is the type of mothers who raise pathetic boys who expect a woman to be mommy to them cuz their own mother didn't have the decency to teach them how to cook for their OWNSELVES and be a productive citizen, so sad, it doesn't have to be perfect, this is something that they should learn, boy or girl.

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  • Leah's Avatar
    Posted by Leah Tue Oct 20, 2009 12:06pm PDT

    None, that isn't fair. Just because you don't want your 5 year old underfoot in the kitchen while yoiu're trying to get dinner on the table? Really?

    Like I said in a previous post, I was the same way with my 4 children. I taught them to cook when they were 12-13 years old (and capable of cleaning up their own messes without supervision) and all 4 of my kids can cook...3 of which are boys! So maybe you should hold you judgemental remarks until you have more information.

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  • Karen S's Avatar
    Posted by Karen S Tue Oct 20, 2009 8:38pm PDT

    Hey, no judgment from me, that's for sure. I have a 5 year old and a 3 year old and an infant, who is usually in the sling or bouncy in my galley kitchen while I'm cooking. It can be a dangerous place. I let my kids help with things like topping pizzas, mixing cake batter, or the like... but on a daily basis I want the kitchen to myself for the short time I am cooking!

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  • Jennifer's Avatar
    Posted by Jennifer Tue Oct 20, 2009 8:49pm PDT

    I'm with Jessica I also have four young children. Our days are full and, by dinnertime, I'm focused on getting dinner on the table at the right time so we can keep to our bedtime schedule. They get to help only when it's a relaxed time, like weekend mornings. They WILL get to learn to cook. Later. And , trust me, once they're old enough,I will happily turn over the reins whenever they like.

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  • Joy in Seattle's Avatar
    Posted by Joy in Seattle Tue Oct 20, 2009 9:21pm PDT

    Oh, I love it. Look at all these mommy saying the kids will help "later." What? You mean when they are teenagers and don't even come home until 9pm?

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  • Joe's Avatar
    Posted by Joe Wed Oct 21, 2009 12:43am PDT

    My son learned to bake from a very young age. Now that he is 11 years old, he can cook his own breakfast and make his own lunch. He helps me take care of his semi-invalid mother. He cooks and helps take care of her while I am at work or on military missions.

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