Though we all worry about spoiling our child, rest assured that you
cannot spoil your child with love. Love doesn't spoil children.
Love is imperative to a child's healthy development, and
it's just not possible to love your child too much. They need
caring adults to spend time with them, play with them, teach them,
protect them, and enjoy life with them.
It's a parent's job to provide love, safety and
encouragement. The process of growing up provides children with
lots of challenges. Try to listen openly and understand their
situation and communicate honestly with them when they have
difficulties and letdowns in their life.
Set appropriate limits with your child and then adhere to them.
Establishing limits with your child gives them a sense of safety
and security. Sometimes parents do not set limits because
they don't want to fight with their children. They don't
want to cause bad feelings. They may beg a child to comply. Or they
may make a rule and fail to enforce it. They may nag without ever
enforcing the rules. None of these helps children. When your child
fails to adhere or comply with the boundaries you've set for
them, be firm yet kind in your response. This lets them know that
you're serious about the rule but dedicated to helping and
loving them. Bear in mind though that each child is different
and what works for one child may not work for another. For
example, one child may respond well to the direct approach of
telling them a specific time to be home, where another child may
need a gentle reminder that it's now time to come
home.
Develop a firm but kind manner of making and enforcing your
household's rules and expectations. There's no need
to fear our children, and there should be no need to instill a
sense of fear in our children in order to get them to
comply.
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Posted by Tue Oct 6, 2009 9:09am PDT
Report AbuseIt took a lot of trial by error to figure out what works with my daughter as far as her doing what she is told. She is 6 and we finaly have figured it out. I have always believed that love helps a hcild grow and learn and I make time everyday to just sit and talk and cuddle with my daughter. I believe that physical conection is very important and that I can not give enough love to her.
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Posted by Tue Oct 6, 2009 3:32pm PDT
Report AbuseThe only way you can spoil a child is by giving them no dicipline that is the only way, we have 3 children and we love them so much but we also dicipline them everyday,We have figured out their personalities and we are able to give them what they truly need
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Posted by Thu Oct 8, 2009 7:38am PDT
Report AbuseEach of these is right; there is no right or wrong; just what works for your family. You can NEVER give too much love; and that's communication from birth; vocally, affection, and play! "things" can also be love; but not too much,the object there is to play with them with those things and make it all a learning experience!
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Posted by Thu Oct 8, 2009 11:31am PDT
Report AbuseWell yes. Let me explain. I went to church once and saw this poor little invalid boy about five or six who was stretched out with his legs extended and arms all twisted. He was babbling. Everyone thought he was disabled, so they made room and nodded accordingly. Poor little guy.. must have MS.
After most of the service was over, he got up unexpectedly by himself and sat down, whining about using the restroom. Turns out he wasn't an invalid, only spoiled and people glared at the parents for making them clear out the pew.
Yep. Moral of the story is... don't spoil your kids and treat them like babies because in the end they can't walk and talk right or behave.
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