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Monday, December 7, 2009

Your Child Is Not a Paycheck

What you need to know about child support.

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Danielle Hoston: It's a known fact that the vast majority of non-custodial parents are fathers, and with Father's Day around the corner, I thought I'd venture into every father's favorite money topic ... child support. We've all heard of the "deadbeat dads" who deserve every bit of the bad rap they get, so this week I decided to take a closer look at how child support guidelines are determined, where the flaws are, and whether or not they are fair. Here's what you need to know to make a decision.

Income Shares Model
The most commonly used model for child support is the Income Shares model. It is based on the concept that the child should receive the same proportion of parental income that he or she would have received if the parents lived together. Although each state has its own guidelines, the formula generally combines the parents' income and then multiplies it by a particular percentage (based on the number of children) to arrive at a support obligation. This number is divided in half and the non-custodial parent will be obligated to pay it.

As a California native who has heard countless nightmare stories about child support, I was surprised to learn that Massachusetts is actually one of the most notorious states for "unfair" child support guidelines. In the state of Massachusetts, non-custodial parents can have a standard of living that is as much as 40% lower than that of an equally earning custodial parent and still be required to pay their half.

How is this possible?
Child support calculations do not take into consideration the tax benefits that custodial parents receive. Child support is not deductible for the non-custodial parent, and is not taxed as income for the custodial parent. Therefore, the non-custodial parent is responsible for all taxes (federal, state, local, social security, and FICA) on the paid child support. Furthermore, in most cases, only the custodial parent can claim the tax exemptions, tax credits, and take advantage of the lower tax rate for "head of household" filing status. Additionally, non-custodial parents often have expenses of their own (travel/transportation, extra clothes, etc.) related to the care of their child(ren) that are not accounted for in the initial calculation of child support.

Once the child support amount is determined, many fathers question how the child support is being spent. In California, it is assumed that child support received is being spent on the child. In at least 10 states (CO, DE, FL, IN, LA, MO, NE, OK, OR, and WA), however, non-custodial parents can demand a full accounting of expenses and spending of child support from custodial parents.

Deadbeat Moms ... and Dads
In my humble opinion, men that don't work, barely work, or hide their money in order to reduce their child support are disgusting. On the other hand, mothers who don't work, barely work, or inflate their children's expenses in order to turn their child support into a paycheck are pretty disgusting as well. They are equally "deadbeat" and the system should address child support guidelines accordingly.

I'd like to wish the happiest of Father's Days to my father and to the fathers who are paying their child support and lovingly raising their children. I'd also like to encourage both mothers and fathers to genuinely consider the best interests of their children when it comes to the use and payment of child support. A fair agreement on these matters can be the greatest step in the right direction for parents who are separated and help them toward a path of successful joint parenting.

Do you believe that current child support guidelines are fair or unfair? If you receive or pay child support, is the amount correct, too high, or too low?

danielle hoston
  Danielle Hoston is a business and finance expert with Hoston
  and Associates. She is the mom of one and resides in Los
  Angeles.


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  • Billysmom's Avatar
    Posted by Billysmom Thu Jun 18, 2009 5:46am PDT

    I live in upstate NY and my ex pays $48.31 per week in support. That doesn't cover much. He is also almost $800 in arrears. I work full-time, and support my son. The money I receive back on my taxes helps me pay for the extras I couldn't afford otherwise.

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  • Sharon's Avatar
    Posted by Sharon Thu Jun 18, 2009 7:38am PDT

    I love in Texas i may not have a full time job but my son is well taken care of. ( and not with child support) his dad is one of those who takes a job under the table!! and even when he does have a real job his support is only 366 a month and thats because he owes back support of over 10,000

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  • C's Avatar
    Posted by C Thu Jun 18, 2009 8:12am PDT

    Can we add "Work under the table" to the list of digusts please?

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  • ChristineH's Avatar
    Posted by ChristineH Thu Jun 18, 2009 11:17am PDT

    Child support is a scam my husband pays $1200 a month covers all medical and dentel and take the kids every other weekend sometimes more. The mother gets Botax....last time I checked that was not cheep and she is a hair dresser. WT if you ask me. She is trash and basically her and her husband live off of my husband child support. LOSERS!! The laws need to be changed!!!!!!

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  • Doktor Eevol's Avatar
    Posted by Doktor Eevol Thu Jun 18, 2009 1:40pm PDT

    IMO child support SHOULD be significant. Maybe that will teach PEOPLE to stop making kids willy nilly without a thought to their future. If you don't want any, do your part to take control of your reproductive future. I'm sick of PEOPLE complaining about paying child support because they ASSume that bringing kids into this world was purely for their own ego satisfaction.

    And frankly, with our country going down the crapper it's incredulous to me that people want parents to work MORE and raise their children LESS. You can't expect kids to grow up well adjusted when they see their parent only a few hours a day. How in the world can it be better for the kids when they are raised by daycare workers and not one of their parents?

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  • Brian's Avatar
    Posted by Brian Thu Jun 18, 2009 4:43pm PDT

    Heyyou55434 You OBIOUSLY do not have children of your own, if you think taking the kids every other weekend is suficant enough parenting. Your husband is a Disneyland dad. And the EX desevers every bit she gets from your husband.

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  • REIA's Avatar
    Posted by REIA Thu Jun 18, 2009 6:42pm PDT

    i am a single mother of 2 and was only granted $50.oo a week after 8 years of supporting the kids by myself ,i had to leave my job on account that i have chronic back pains from fibromyalgia and is seeking treatment for it .I don't have health insurance and i am sure you know what medical bills are like i am not rich but not poor at the same time i just worked hard for what i have....talk about unfair...please don't judge the moms who do not work and depends on child support as an income as "deadbeat" because if you are a parent with more than one child you should know how much work and expense goes into taking care of your kids if you do so youself that is.

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  • Maybeenot's Avatar
    Posted by Maybeenot Fri Jun 19, 2009 1:01pm PDT

    Child Support should be like paying taxes, according to your income. There are alot of dad's out there that pay it willingly, lovingly, on time, throw in a little extra sometimes and never feel begrudged. They have thier kids according to the visitation arrangements. But there are alot more dead-beats out there that work under the table or only keep a job no more than 3 months, 3 weeks more typically just to avoid being garnished. The states that base the child support payments on each parent's income compared to the children's expenses is fair. The set percentage across the board is less fair. Those non-custodial parents that work can pay thier share. The custodial parent has the responsibility to budget the money to take care of the kids. If the cust. parent quits after the amount is determined, then the C.S. payments should not be adjusted since the cust. parent has the potential to make the income already considered. And vice versa. If it is a medical situation for either parent, documents are required to support the fact that they can no longer provide the income as originally reported. BTW: I have 2 kids, deadbeat only tries to see them 1 every year, 6 mos. or so (as does his family) and hasn't paid a penny of C.S. in over 5 years. He is $36,000 in arrears. I even granted him a reduction several years ago from $800+ to $550 per month. The ADA in the case said I didn't have to and that I would never be able to get it raised again, but I reasoned that it would be better to get the $550 than to never get the $800+. Still nothing. I have known families that the dad not only pays his C.S. and helps run the kids around to school and activies around mom's work schedule and even babysitts the youngest sibling of his kids that he wasn't even related to. So no matter what the state orders it's all relative to each individual's sense of responsiblity and personal values. BTW: State Child Support Enforcement is a joke.

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  • Cid's Avatar
    Posted by Cid Fri Jun 19, 2009 3:41pm PDT

    The child support thing is all new to me and driving me up a wall. I'm the SO of a single father who has 50/50 custody and pays a fair chunck of child support. Enough to make it so that he has to work more so that we can eventually buy a home, save for the kids to go to college, get married and all the "American Dream" stuff.

    Just out of curiosity, I heard that a new spouse's income is factored into child support calcs, does anyone know if this is true?

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  • Cid's Avatar
    Posted by Cid Fri Jun 19, 2009 3:49pm PDT

    HeyYou,

    They usually finance it. It's annoying.

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