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Wednesday, December 9, 2009

10 Biggest Myths About Sex

So came across this article..."10 biggest myths about sex".  Some of this is definitely rings true while others are a complete crock of s--- in my opinion (I guess everyone is different). Listed below is my analysis of the ones I am able to comment on.  The rest you can read here



2. Men think about sex every seven seconds. As it turns out, this is fiction, too. According to a 1994 "Sex in America" survey, 54 percent of men think about sex every day or several times a day, 43 percent think about it a few times a week or month, and 4 percent think about it less than once a month.

My View: I definitely fall into that "54%" category and can't see how less than half of other men.  4% actually think about it less than once a month??? Come on.

3. Women are naturally more monogamous than men. Although it's difficult to prove or disprove, researchers believe this popular assumption is more a matter of perception and socialization than biology. As they point out, in most mammalian species, both the males and females are highly, and equally, promiscuous.

My View: Agree! Guys get a lot of s--- for this, but females are just as guilty of committing this act.  I think the reason that people think guys cheat more is because that they A) Get caught more often B) Relationships tend to end more when a guy cheats than when a girl cheats.

4. Pornography is an addictive substance. Some people view porn as a harmless pastime, while others see it as a health hazard. Either way, most scientists agree that although it's possible to become addicted to pornography, the addiction is behavioral, much like an addiction to gambling. Porn itself is not an addictive substance in the category of heroin or cocaine.

My View: Guess I can't argue with this.  I don't know any porn addicts (admitted ones anyway), but I can definitely see this to be true.

7.

Women can't get pregnant during their period. Couples who believe this myth may be in for a big surprise. According to a 2000 study conducted by the National Institute of Environmental Sciences, at least 2 percent of women enter their fertile period only 4 days into their menstrual cycle, and 17 percent enter it by the seventh day. Sperm can live for up to five days, so this myth has likely resulted in many unplanned pregnancies.

My View: True.  I wish my friend knew this fact before he knocked up his girlfriend.


8. Sex the night before an athletic event will ruin your performance. Although some coaches and athletes advocate abstinence the night before competitions, scientists are quick to point out that there's no evidence to support this myth. In fact, 2000 study published in the Journal of Sports Medicine and Physical Fitness reported that sex had "no detrimental influence on the maximal workload achieved or on the athletes' mental concentration."

My View: My high school coach DRILLED this into our heads.  While there is no scientific evidence, I believe this to be true.  Maybe it's psychosomatic, but I don't perform nearly as well in any sport the day after sex.

9. Talking to kids about sex will encourage them to have sex. It might be uncomfortable or a little embarrassing, but talking to children about sex doesn't encourage them to have it. According to the American Academy of Child Adolescent Psychiatry, open communication helps kids to make healthy and appropriate decisions regarding their sexual behavior.

My View: The myth is false and Quality Health's viewpoint is true.  If you do not talk about it openly, it becomes more "taboo". Therefore a lack of communication will probably increase the likelihood of children having sex.

10. Men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way. A study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found that men and women can indeed have platonic relationships. The researchers, who tracked 20 pairs of friends, confirmed that "friendship attraction"--a connection devoid of lust--between the genders is a bona-fide bond.

  My View: Not entirely true, not entirely false.  I think it varies on the person.  I know this definitely was true between me and a couple of friends, but also wasn't the case for every female friend I've had.

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  • Darleen's Avatar
    Posted by Darleen Fri Mar 20, 2009 5:44pm PDT

    You think you have heard it all. But what about the husband with a friend and the wife with her friend and they allow each other the freedom to pursue this "other relationship". Its not cheating because they know about each others activities. What do you think, is it an open relationship? Not only that the four people get together for social occasions? Are there more of these relationships going on to save long marriages??

    DJ

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    Posted by Darleen Fri Mar 20, 2009 5:44pm PDT

    You think you have heard it all. But what about the husband with a friend and the wife with her friend and they allow each other the freedom to pursue this "other relationship". Its not cheating because they know about each others activities. What do you think, is it an open relationship? Not only that the four people get together for social occasions? Are there more of these relationships going on to save long marriages??

    DJ

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  • Jacob's Avatar
    Posted by Jacob Fri Mar 20, 2009 6:02pm PDT

    #8 you and your coach are dumb.....it actually enhances performances with the increase in testosterone

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  • baltbear's Avatar
    Posted by baltbear Fri Mar 20, 2009 7:03pm PDT

    an amazinng amount of such mythic stuff is based on cultural perception alone. "sex" ? #7 is about "sex". the others are about self-perception, relationships, education, etc.

    as a concrrete exmaple, the oft quoted and oft disputed "7 second rule" is basd on a fabrication of data from like 30 years ago being conflated with an amusing neo-freudian take on maslow. putting that into english = if you worry that your boss won't like your work on the project, you are worried that you won't meet/attract/keep/propagate with a "healthy" woman, and therefore it is a "sexual" thought.

    it's true..it's false...depending on how "sex" is defined. as one can see in the stock market or financial news, people generally don't define anything accurately: they just complain when it goes wrong.

    #9. talk does create markets. otherwise nobody could hype a stock or a fashion trend. education preverts errors. that's why actual investors don't watch cnbc's cramer; and people wanting info on sex need to have a data source other than larry flynt.

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  • amy's Avatar
    Posted by amy Fri Mar 20, 2009 7:23pm PDT

    A little FYI for all of you guys (and maybe women too) out there . If only 2% of women can get pregnant on the 4th day of there cycle, then 98% do not. That is better odds than a lot of birth control. Also a woman's ovulation cycle is 7 to 14 days from the FIRST day of her period. So 17% on the 7th day is not suprising.

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  • Kendyl's Avatar
    Posted by Kendyl Fri Mar 20, 2009 7:52pm PDT

    I agree with a lot of these. Personally, I think Palin is an idiot [if you think she is the woman role model watch the palin turkey massacre on youtube] and teaching abstinance isn't very fair to kids who DON'T want to be abstinant. Now I don't think you should have sex in high school or lower but that is because it isn't really love...Unless your a hooker then nothing is real...but besides that, you shouldn't push things on kids, just teach them about sex and TELL them about safe sex and abstinants or whatever..Just don't pressure kids.

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  • Shel's Avatar
    Posted by Shel Fri Mar 20, 2009 9:05pm PDT

    Well, we definately agree we have no reason(s) to cheat because we are swingers...We have an awesome relationship and wouldn't change it for anything.

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  • jennifer's Avatar
    Posted by jennifer Fri Mar 20, 2009 9:10pm PDT

    is it really true sperm lives up to 5 days?

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  • Sheila's Avatar
    Posted by Sheila Fri Mar 20, 2009 11:03pm PDT

    being cheated on sucks and all of the trust is damaged. can it be reearned only if the cheater is willing to wait untill the betrail can be accepted. not all cheaters can wait and most didn't care about damaging the trust in the first place. after all it's just an orgasam, why hurt the person you say you care about for a moment that you should have been sharing with them. lack of respect!!!!!

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  • bini A's Avatar
    Posted by bini A Fri Mar 20, 2009 11:56pm PDT

    hi how are you

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