Judging by the number of digs on this Ask Men article, dudes are gulping down this advice on the "Top 10 Ways to Attract Women Fast." Now, I love spying on man sites, so here, let's see what they have to say and keep 'em in check, from a woman's perspective.
Number 10: Learn the secret language of manhood
"When you become a real man -- an independent, strong man who is on his own path -- you’ll begin to communicate differently: You’ll move differently, you’ll hold yourself differently, you’ll respond to situations differently, and you’ll use different words."
Okay, I guess I can get down with this, despite the author's annoying insistence on renaming the word "confidence" the "secret language of manhood," but whatever. My only note on this is please guys, I beg of you, always err on the side of humility and not cockiness.
Number 9: Make “certainty” part of who you are
"If women think that you’re secretly a wussbag -- that you’re only acting cool, but underneath you’re a clingy, insecure guy just waiting to smother them -- they’re going to bail. But if you can communicate a strong, stable, secure, and masculine maturity, women will be less likely to flake out on you because they have more certainty about you."
Um, sure guys, you can be certain and all, but please be flexible for god's sake. For example, you were "certain" you didn't need to look at the map when you were driving last week, but we both knew that wasn't true.
Number 8: Certainty versus teasing
"I often tell guys to find fun, playful ways to indirectly answer the questions women ask."
Some degree of teasing is cute, but when I ask what you do for a living and you say you're a janitor, well, okay, that is funny.
Number 7: The more personal, the more universal
"My mentor, Gary Ballinger, taught me something that he learned from his mentor: that the more personal something is to you, the more universal it probably is."
That's true. Women and men can often bond over their insecurities. Just remember though, erectile dysfunction is not one of them.
Number 6: Stop reliving your emotional past
"Women dig guys who can break through the emotional baggage of their past and live in the “now.”
Also true. I am so not interested in either how gorgeous your ex girlfriend was or the cheesy Adrian brody wannabein Louis Vuitton luggage you bought because you thought it looked cool in the Darjeeling Limited.
Number 5: Figure out where your power comes from
"Is your ability to persuade based on whining, tyranny and tantrums? Or is it based on credibility, authenticity and wisdom?"
This is a good ruler when it comes to reality checks. Now if we could just apply getting rid of the "whining, tyranny and tantrums" that so often accompany the "man cold."
Number 4: Realize success won’t solve your problems
"Most immature guys think that money, power and success with women will solve all their problems and make them happy."
Sure, money does not buy happiness. It does on the other hand, pay for dinner, which we want you to do now and then.
Number 3: A mature man plans ahead
"Aristotle said that a sign of a mature man is forethought."
Way to class up this list with a philosopher's vision. And I must agree that it is always appreciated when a man remembers not to leave filthy dishes in the sink overnight.
Number 2: How to know when you’re manipulating
"Here’s a test that you can apply to see if you’re being a manipulative Boy-Man: Ask yourself if what you’re doing feels manipulative, sneaky or dishonest in any way. If it does, then you’re allowing the Boy-Man inside of you run things, which will ultimately lead you to a feeling of less fulfillment, not more."
Indeed, however I would like to raise the point here that contrary to this point, sneaking the last beer in the fridge actually does lead to a sense of fulfillment.
Number 1: Commit to becoming a naturally attractive guy
"The most important thing you can do right now to attract women fast is to commit to doing whatever it takes to become the kind of guy who naturally attracts women."
Sigh.
