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Tuesday, February 9, 2010

2 Annoying Ways Guys Pickup Women

 When it comes to guys and their approach to women, it's slowly becoming more creepy and immature than ever. Not that this is my first time noticing this but after recent ATTEMPTS or what have you, I think something needs to be addressed. So if you're a guy that does one of the following in this note, please take heed and step your game UP.

  • WEIRD UNNECESSARILY LONG OR FREQUENT STARE
Recently, I was in a TGIF Friday with a couple of my girls. We're eating, talking, and having fun. This guy CLEARLY looked me in my eyes as he passed our table. I thought OK, THAT was weird and didn't think anything of it. Maybe I'm a familiar face. So, we go on eating and he gets up again walks pass and eyes me down again smiling this time. I finally say something to Ashley to relieve my paranoia, " Tell me why this guy is checking me out so hard."

So now this guy is sitting with his friends and Ashley looks up to see if he's still hawking me. "Yeah girl, he's still looking at you." she says. We all laugh about it because it was so obvious. Even in movies when a guy is checking a girl out at the bar, he makes it obvious to her that he is interested in by connecting with her eyes, right? If she smiles and eyes you back you know that she is interested. Most times a guy will approach her. CLEARLY this was not the case that night. This guy seemingly made several attempts to get me to notice him.



















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HINT 1

At this point guys, take the hint that she isn't interested EVEN if you got up from your table three times to make sure she notices you. Of course, someone is going to notice a person walking in front of their table in a tight, crowded restaurant. That doesn't mean I'm interested. It just means that I acknowledge the fact that you passed our table that many times to get me to give you attention. Huge fail.

HINT 2
In this case if she doesn't eye you back or you don't have enough guts to approach her, STOP the weird staring for the next two hours. She is NOT interested. Get over it and move on.

  • WHISPER SLY COMMENTS FROM BEHIND
On a DAILY basis, I am hit on by this SAME guy that works in the same building. Everyday I go get lunch it's inevitable that I pass by his booth. He makes it obvious that he is looking at me. One of many days he'll say as I'm walking by, "So sexy." as if he's a member of a 90's R&B group talking sexy in an interlude.


Of course, I'm nonetheless humored but disgusted on some level. Disgusted because it's such a punk move to say something in passing, especially a statement that bold, on a daily basis. Maybe it's just me. Do some of you guys do that? What does it accomplish? Why not approach with how you feel about this person face-to-face instead of in passing?

SOLUTION
Say how you feel to my face. Although, I probably will decline your invitation to call you. Atleast you voiced your feelings like an adult instead of a 4th grade kid.
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  • TJ S's Avatar
    Posted by TJ S Tue Nov 10, 2009 9:21am PST

    This happens to me all the time so I hope you don't think this is a strictly for females event. I get stared at a lot. I could look away or continue doing what I'm doing and look up to find a woman staring at me. Or find I woman snapping her neck around if I even GLANCE in their direction. I have a very exotic look and understand but when you try to get up and stand in or move into my line of sight just to get me to notice you, I find it funny. And I've had women make noises and say "damn" when I walk by, which again, is too funny. So this can go both ways. I'm not saying I'm all that because it doesn't happen ALL the time, but it happens. I agree, I don't see what they hope that is going to accomplish. Maybe they watch too many movies or too much tv where this technique seems to work because the writers made it that way. Or maybe they don't realize that doing the same dumb thing over and over again probably won't work. Maybe it does. I'm not going to judge.

    Some people are shy or afraid of rejection. No big deal to me. But my only bone with what you've said is women are the biggest group who fear rejection and don't say how they feel to your face or try to show interest in a man. You can go on about how the reason behind it is this or that but until you try on the "approaching" shoes, don't act as if you know them so well. And when I say you, I don't mean "you". I mean you in the plural or "you all" sense, meaning anyone who's never initiated before.

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  • Minah Jay's Avatar
    Posted by Minah Jay Wed Nov 11, 2009 12:44pm PST

    No, I don't think this is strictly for women, but it does happen to mostly women. Hence, why it is a blog of my personal experiences. I would assume that everyone has different experiences. Therefore, I know that there are a lot of people, particularly women who can agree to this.

    And yes, I have approached a guy before and I've been dating him for three years. There are tactful ways about being an approacher in the love field, 90% of the approaches are just flat out wrong.

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  • ♥sunshinelady♥'s Avatar
    Posted by ♥sunshinelady♥ Wed Nov 11, 2009 1:06pm PST

    Did it ever occur to you that it might be hard to be a guy ? Maybe they are shy. Would you like to be the one to always have to make the first move ?

    Yes, I have had come-ons like that too but I don't sit back and make fun of guys and brag about how I would not date them anyway. You act like you hate that men hit on you. Why don't you admit that you love it. I hate it when women pretend that they don't like male attention. I love it and I am honest enough to admit it.

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  • vixenvena's Avatar
    Posted by vixenvena Wed Nov 11, 2009 1:07pm PST

    I don't know... I kinda like the second one. This gorgeous guy in the gym came up behind me and whispered in my ear, 'you are the most lovely goddess I have ever seen. please tell me you're single.' Turning around and seeing a 6' Adonis with huge sweaty biceps - mmmmeeeeelllllttttt!!! I think I'm in love. VixenVena!

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