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Sunday, December 6, 2009

3 Ways Women Can Have Orgasms

Yes. Yes. Yes! You can have three different types of orgasms, even though having one seems hard on some days.

The O in Oprah did double duty yesterday when one of my favorite sexperts was on the show. Laura Berman, Ph.D., author of Real Sex for Real Women, always has smart, helpful, and orgasmic advice. 

She gave tips to start trying tonight.

Three types of Big O's

Clitoral. The most common type of orgasm is the easiest one to achieve. You can incorporate a clitoral climax into intercourse by trying different positions like woman on top so you can rub the area against your partner's body and by doing it doggie style so your fingers (or his) can explore. Experiment to find out what does the trick for you.

Vaginal. Best achieved when the G Spot is stimulated, this type of vaginal orgasm isn't the easiest to have, but it's worth it. Some women say that it's a more intense orgasm. Berman says it could be because there are even more muscle contractions in the pelvic floor during a vaginal orgasm.

Blended. The holy grail of orgasms is the blended, which is when a lucky woman has a clitoral and vaginal orgasm at the same time.

The CafeMom group All About Sex: Questions, Thoughts, Pictures and MORE isn't afraid to talk about orgasms. But what about you?

Do you get kind of embarrassed when you talk about sex?

Visit CafeMom to read about how to find your clitoris, G Spot, and more discussion on this juicy topic.


Written by Kristen for CafeMom.
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  • privyc's Avatar
    Posted by privyc Tue Nov 4, 2008 5:16pm PST

    You totally left out the anal orgasm for a woman. I have had girlfriends tell me that the orgasms during anal penetration are the most intense. You can tell too when they're having it, the way they moan, talk, move, etc.... I've been told by my girlfriends that it is a totally different and more intense orgasm. They say it's the kind they want to keep going and not stop, whereas a clitoral orgasm is different. They want no more action on the clit as soon as they come because it's too sensitive. What do you girls think ? Anyone had a similar experience ?

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  • SolsticeAngel's Avatar
    Posted by SolsticeAngel Tue Nov 4, 2008 9:30pm PST

    privachologist, I think that what your girlfriend's were talking about is really a g-spot orgasm. I know that the g-spot is inside the vagina, and people may be wondering how you could have a g-spot orgasm when the penetration is anally and not vaginally. Well here is the answer, depending on the position you are in while having anal sex, the man's penis can actually have an easier time stimulating the g-spot from the inside of the anus. There is very little tissue separating the two places. There is nothing inside of the anus that could physically give a woman an orgasm. The only ways to orgasm is to stimulate g-spot or clitoris. Either way they can both be had during anal sex.

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    Posted by ..... Wed Nov 5, 2008 2:03pm PST

    Wow! You guys just made me hot!!!! LOL! Would love to try to give a woman all three....in all the positions you mention!!!!

    Thanks, Pat

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    Posted by G Thu Nov 6, 2008 12:31pm PST

    I'm not sure about the penis hitting the G like that during anal because the G-spot is on the top part of the vagina (under the pubic bone) and not at the backside of the vagina. I suppose with the vagina empty it could push the underside of the vagina up to the G-spot. As you said the area between the anus and the vagina is not very thick so it is hitting the vagina indirectly. The anus is an erogenous zone so it could cause an orgasm all by itself if the women is aroused enough. Some women get off with anal penetration... and some get off with vaginal and anal (using a vibrator)

    But there are more ways for a woman to orgasm... some women get uterine orgasms. Usually older women in their late 40s or 50s.

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  • privyc's Avatar
    Posted by privyc Fri Nov 7, 2008 5:36pm PST

    Solstice Angel---- I'll bet you are right about the G-spot getting stimulated during anal. Never thought about that. Thanks ! Was wondering why the ladies always go wild when I'm giving them anal and dont want to stop after orgasming. The angle of the dangle when penetrating the anus doggy-style would press against the front of the stomach right about where Mr G resides !

    How bout you Angel, do you have an orgasm too during anal?

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    Posted by Firehunter Fri Nov 14, 2008 7:00pm PST

    a woman can have both, oraly, and I have learned that take the time to know what a woman likes and she'll open up to this. here is the trick that I have used many times and I, and every girl I have been with and every guy at work I taught this to swear it works. while you are providing her with oral bliss, you can use 1 finger or 2, whatever she is comfortable with. insert your finger(s) tips up so the palm of your fingertips are hitting a soft area (G-SPOT) that has small ridges. start to make a come here motion, if using 2 fingers stager your come hither. then with your tongue at different pressures spell out the alphabet in cursive over her clitoris. the continual change of direction keeps her guessing from what direction your comming from. that with the finger movemnet, you should have her cumming by the letter O, but if not, keep going I guarantee it works.

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  • janie's Avatar
    Posted by janie Tue Jan 27, 2009 11:22am PST

    umm yea what firehunter is talking about def does work.

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  • Carolyn's Avatar
    Posted by Carolyn Mon Mar 23, 2009 7:08am PDT

    Interesting about an orgasm through anal sex. My boyfriend wants me to try it, but I am scared of the pain. I want to try it though. What would ease the pain? I am open to all kinds of positions and different ways to reach a FABULOUS orgasm!!!! Help me relax and take him.

    Thanks.

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  • De Niece's Avatar
    Posted by De Niece Tue Mar 24, 2009 9:49am PDT

    thanx firehunter. will most definitely try that tip!!!

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  • Smashley's Avatar
    Posted by Smashley Tue Jul 28, 2009 10:36pm PDT

    ill stick to my shower head ;)

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