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Tuesday, December 15, 2009

4 little details men notice about women

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They say the "devil is in the details," but the other night, my friend and I were scanning the bar and noticing minor things about women. After reflecting on our observations, I put together four small things that guys notice that they don't often point out to women. Here they are:

Hands

I study a girl's hands pretty intensely. Beautiful hands can portray daintiness and strength at the same time. I notice manicures, and complexion. I imagine what it's like to hold them. I'm not much of a hand holder, but pretty hands will turn me into a hand holder. I even watch how a girl grips things. There are definitely different objects and shapes that look amazing in a girl's hands, such as a wine glass. A wine glass has delicate curves that play off a woman's hands. When I notice fingers that are appealing tome, I imagine how those fingertips would feel.

Hair

I've mentioned hair before, so I wouldn't say it's a "little thing". But hair can do simple actions that can evoke powerful emotions. One day I ran into my friend on the way to work-the friend that wore high heels to the soccer game. One thing's for sure: this girl really knows how to take care of and do her hair. We were just talking and walking when a gust of wind blew right down the street and ran through her hair. The indescribable motion that took place in her hair was beautiful. I even noticed that a random guy we passed turned his head and looked. I didn't realize until the day was over, but seeing that gust of wind go through my friend's hair put me in a good mood the rest of the day. So, while hair is a big deal, little random moments can create big, great things.

Attitude Towards Others

When I go out to dinner with a girl, I keep a close eye on how she treats a waiter or hostess. Does she say "thanks," and generally act polite and respectful? Sometimes I feel as if I'm overly cordial to people: I wish them a nice day and always make sure to say "thanks." But, what makes a woman has to do with more than just how she treats me. A person with a beautiful personality treats everyone nicely and respectfully. It's fun to be out with a girl and watch her make people smile from afar. It makes me feel proud and lucky that I'm with her. It's already an amazing thing when I meet a girl that can brighten my days. But if this girl brightens everyone's days, then I'm even luckier.

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What Does She Notice?

It's fun meeting different people because they always bring a new perspective. When I break down music I love for people, they ask how I even care about every last little sound and note that I analyze and point out to them. What little things does a woman notice or point out? If we go to a Broadway show, for example,does she notice something in the background set? Does she notice the couple in front of us that are very much in love? Does she notice that the usher hates us because we are whispering and showed up just as the lights were going down? Sure, we share big thoughts and ideas with one another, but sometimes you can learn a lot about a person just by the details they notice in life and moments. It is a fun adventure going out with someone who can laugh at and notice little things, and who always brings new insights to different situations.

Once I realized that I was noticing little things, I came to the conclusion that little simple moments are just part of overall beauty. Beauty can be defined in a collection of moments, or memories more often than it can be defined by someone's appearance.

Seeing a girl across the room, holding a wine glass with pretty hands and making people smile, or a moment in the morning where the windr uns through a girl's hair, or a girl I'm noticing someone walking by in a Members Only jacket, are simple moments that should never be taken for granted.

What is a little thing (appearance, moment or personality)that you notice in a guy that is a simple, beautiful thing?


Posted by Rich

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  • Rae's Avatar
    Posted by Rae Fri Nov 7, 2008 7:01pm PST

    Wow Rich, you notice alot! I thought we just had our nails done to impress the other women and to scratch guys backs and that guys didnt really notice how we paid an extra 20 dollars to have them hand painted and glossed with a bullet proof top coat. Women love looking at other womens hands but I am glad that a guy likes them too. Its good to know that you notice.

    I tend to notice a guys eyes. I love expressive eyes. Puppy dog eyes. Bedroom eyes. I also like to hear people talk about themselves. I want to know who a persons first grade teacher was, and what impressions they were given as a kid about life. I watch eyes and mouth and stance. I dont care if a guys teeth are not perfect, I expect a big grin when I am greeted. Even a toothless old bum looks fantastic with a silly grin on his face. So smiling is important. I want warmth. Whether its 5 minutes together or 5 years. I want to feel like I am basking in the sun when I am with someone. :) I do like when I can tell that a guy tried to look his best with me. I can get into the whole suit and tie thing, or more casual sweaters, shoes. I like popped collars, call me stuck in the 80's but it still has a Count Dracula sinister bad boy look to it that makes me want to do things I cant talk about on a blog. I also like breathing and heart beat, hehe, no, its not like I will like anything with a pulse, but if I get close to a guy and I can hear his breathing increase and hug him and catch that heart beating fast, that is such a rush knowing that he is turned on just by getting close. :) Ok, I am getting hot talking about this. Catch you later.-Rachel.

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    Posted by ceema Sat Nov 8, 2008 10:27am PST

    some how u r right specially about hands and the most thing dealing with waiter but what I am wondering what about guys ...about smell ..teeth...shoes this is the most importnat to me wearing white socks with blakck shoes eoooooooooooo so ugly ....!!!!!!!!!!

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  • fake_sky's Avatar
    Posted by fake_sky Sat Nov 8, 2008 5:58pm PST

    I like to take special notice in mannerisms, it can tell you a lot about a person. What kind of faces do they make? do they smile when they are talking to you? do they play with their hair and look around? tone of their voice? etcetera etcetera.

    Like Rachel, I like looking into their eyes. Like the saying goes: eyes are a window into the soul. They reveal a whole deal about a person.

    Good manners are important to me as well.

    It's silly but I like looking at shoes... of anyone! Especially if I'm on the subway, it's a great way to pass it by. :)

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  • Keeper of Kings's Avatar
    Posted by Keeper of Kings Sun Nov 9, 2008 5:48pm PST

    Hey Rich I'm impressed on how much you noticed and it's refreshing.

    I have to agree with some of the comments the ladies already mentioned. Good manners, smells good, also a guy who takes care of himself, easy to talk with, and yes the eyes. They tell a lot about a person.

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  • luvbug's Avatar
    Posted by luvbug Mon Nov 10, 2008 4:03pm PST

    You are right one about everything but the hands. Her Manicured fingers make look really nice while you are dateing but once you marry her you may come to hate those pretty manicured fingers.Before kids and marriage I used to be a model. I still look like a model except for my hands. They have become funtional.My husbands friends complain all the time who their wives can't do anything for fear of ruining their nails.My hand were made to dig in the sandbox right next to my kids,to help out on the soccer feild.What is sexy as hell to my husband and most of his guy friends is to look like a princess but NOT be one

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    Posted by luvbug Mon Nov 10, 2008 4:03pm PST

    You are right one about everything but the hands. Her Manicured fingers make look really nice while you are dateing but once you marry her you may come to hate those pretty manicured fingers.Before kids and marriage I used to be a model. I still look like a model except for my hands. They have become funtional.My husbands friends complain all the time who their wives can't do anything for fear of ruining their nails.My hand were made to dig in the sandbox right next to my kids,to help out on the soccer feild.What is sexy as hell to my husband and most of his guy friends is to look like a princess but NOT be one

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  • MochaMama42's Avatar
    Posted by MochaMama42 Mon Nov 10, 2008 4:09pm PST

    I notice kindness in a man.

    I was once madly in love with man who I saw in a Starbuck's with his 2 children. I happened to meet him 2 weeks later on a blind date and we actually saw each other for about a year and a half.

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  • help's Avatar
    Posted by help Mon Nov 10, 2008 4:39pm PST

    In a man, I notice eyes, hands, laugh, and tone of voice.

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  • ash's Avatar
    Posted by ash Mon Nov 10, 2008 5:08pm PST

    well i notice their eyes like many other girls. and also their maturness and manners even when they are around thier friends. i mean yeah guys have their guy times but it goes to a certain extent.

    and by the way. any guy that would notice all those things is pretty awsome lol

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  • hhhhhh's Avatar
    Posted by hhhhhh Mon Nov 10, 2008 6:31pm PST

    I'm in shock! It's refreshing to read that a man finds beauty in things as natural as wind blown hair and dainty hands. :)

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