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4 little details men notice about women

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They say the "devil is in the details," but the other night, my friend and I were scanning the bar and noticing minor things about women. After reflecting on our observations, I put together four small things that guys notice that they don't often point out to women. Here they are:

Hands

I study a girl's hands pretty intensely. Beautiful hands can portray daintiness and strength at the same time. I notice manicures, and complexion. I imagine what it's like to hold them. I'm not much of a hand holder, but pretty hands will turn me into a hand holder. I even watch how a girl grips things. There are definitely different objects and shapes that look amazing in a girl's hands, such as a wine glass. A wine glass has delicate curves that play off a woman's hands. When I notice fingers that are appealing tome, I imagine how those fingertips would feel.

Hair

I've mentioned hair before, so I wouldn't say it's a "little thing". But hair can do simple actions that can evoke powerful emotions. One day I ran into my friend on the way to work-the friend that wore high heels to the soccer game. One thing's for sure: this girl really knows how to take care of and do her hair. We were just talking and walking when a gust of wind blew right down the street and ran through her hair. The indescribable motion that took place in her hair was beautiful. I even noticed that a random guy we passed turned his head and looked. I didn't realize until the day was over, but seeing that gust of wind go through my friend's hair put me in a good mood the rest of the day. So, while hair is a big deal, little random moments can create big, great things.

Attitude Towards Others

When I go out to dinner with a girl, I keep a close eye on how she treats a waiter or hostess. Does she say "thanks," and generally act polite and respectful? Sometimes I feel as if I'm overly cordial to people: I wish them a nice day and always make sure to say "thanks." But, what makes a woman has to do with more than just how she treats me. A person with a beautiful personality treats everyone nicely and respectfully. It's fun to be out with a girl and watch her make people smile from afar. It makes me feel proud and lucky that I'm with her. It's already an amazing thing when I meet a girl that can brighten my days. But if this girl brightens everyone's days, then I'm even luckier.

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What Does She Notice?

It's fun meeting different people because they always bring a new perspective. When I break down music I love for people, they ask how I even care about every last little sound and note that I analyze and point out to them. What little things does a woman notice or point out? If we go to a Broadway show, for example,does she notice something in the background set? Does she notice the couple in front of us that are very much in love? Does she notice that the usher hates us because we are whispering and showed up just as the lights were going down? Sure, we share big thoughts and ideas with one another, but sometimes you can learn a lot about a person just by the details they notice in life and moments. It is a fun adventure going out with someone who can laugh at and notice little things, and who always brings new insights to different situations.

Once I realized that I was noticing little things, I came to the conclusion that little simple moments are just part of overall beauty. Beauty can be defined in a collection of moments, or memories more often than it can be defined by someone's appearance.

Seeing a girl across the room, holding a wine glass with pretty hands and making people smile, or a moment in the morning where the windr uns through a girl's hair, or a girl I'm noticing someone walking by in a Members Only jacket, are simple moments that should never be taken for granted.

What is a little thing (appearance, moment or personality)that you notice in a guy that is a simple, beautiful thing?


Posted by Rich

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  • Gail's Avatar
    Posted by Gail Mon Nov 10, 2008 6:48pm PST

    I know for sure that there are other things that guys notice about women as well, but lets no go into that, haha!

    What I notice about a man is his bearing; does he walk casually (comfortable with himself), or with his chin jutting forward (on a mission), or droopy shouldered (weight of the world). Body language is so important in the first few seconds of seeing someone. It goes through our brain in a nanosecond and helps create that first impression.

    I notice his face as a whole, including his hair; this is the overall picture before my eyes zero in on a particular feature. And that will usually be the guy's standout feature-nice lips maybe, or piercing eyes. Whatever attracts my attention.

    The special things I will notice are how he interacts with others; does he talk with his hands, does he smile alot, is he rude or dismissive? The guy I am married to won my heart when he walked my Mom out to her car the first night he met her, holding her arm and carrying her packages. It was this sort of unprovoked caring gesture that set him apart from the pack. He still holds doors for me and the other women in my family, shakes hands with the guys, and is unself-consciously friendly to everyone.

    And...he's hot.

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  • onegirlfriend's Avatar
    Posted by onegirlfriend Mon Nov 10, 2008 7:22pm PST

    I too notice hands. If a man's hands look masculine and strong that's a real turn on. Also eyes. The eyes tell it all. Lust, love, compassion, sense of humor, hurt, failure, happy or sad. If my man looks deep into my eyes, I just melt. Always have and always will.

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  • Mizzterious's Avatar
    Posted by Mizzterious Mon Nov 10, 2008 7:25pm PST

    It is refreshing to know that men actually notice some the extra things we do. As for me, I first notice a very nice, kind smile and demeanor. I also like a man who takes time to dress nice. It doesn't have to be a shirt and tie but just look well put together. It also doesn't hurt at all to be positive. It feels horrible to go out with someone and hear how bad everything is. And finally, great conversation seals the deal. He doesn't have to be the best looking guy or have much else, but when he can stimulate my mind...I'm his!

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  • Ralph's Avatar
    Posted by Ralph Mon Nov 10, 2008 7:40pm PST

    I notice the fingernails. I cannot stand chipped fingernail polish on a woman. Either wear it right or don't put it on at all. It looks ridiculous all chipped and s---.

    I notice posture. Well, don't you? Um, and tone of voice. I like friendly and hot talk.

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  • Timothy's Avatar
    Posted by Timothy Mon Nov 10, 2008 8:35pm PST

    i'm a 43 year old male and single.i have a question,i'm a very neat and very clean person.i make my bed before my morning coffee.when my guy friends come over they call me gay.cant a man want a nice place,i like flowers,candles and my place looks like it has a girls touch,but it is all me.i like to feel at home.is that gay

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  • Timothy's Avatar
    Posted by Timothy Mon Nov 10, 2008 8:51pm PST

    ladys,im that 43 year old who takes care of his place.i've been in love one time and i married her7 years ago i came back to maine heart broken because my marrage ended.my wife had a nerves break down,she has no idea who i am.here is my question,i have had dates during these past seven years but i have alot of photos of me and my wife in my place.i tell girls that those were the best years of my life and that i still and always will love her.my family wants me to take them down and move on.but i dont want to forget.do ladys want to hear all that,i'm also afraid to move on.my break up almost killed me.here is my e-mail please let me know what you think,timothygreenlaw25@yahoo.com

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  • Finejonz's Avatar
    Posted by Finejonz Mon Nov 10, 2008 9:13pm PST

    Wow... I'm totally blown away and awesomely amazed that you made that observation. It really made my day, because generally I love to look my best and get pampered at the salon and nail salon. What men don't realized the being a woman is hard and in a sense you have to be some what hi-maintanence to look presentable. To be blunt "beauty is pain" but I personally feel like a new woman and more confident when I get my hair and nails done. I always have to hint or ask my"boo" if he like's my hair/nails before he even attemps to compliment me. However I notice that my "boo" love's the way my hair smells and likes to play in my hair. When we go out sometimes he likes to watch me walk because he says my silhouette is sexy. My dude loves it when I get pedicures and wear heels or stilettos. When I first met my "boo" aside from the tall dark and hansome cliche. The first thing that close the deal for me was his smile it was one of the first times he made me blush. In that moment I felt like girl having her first crush the irony in this situation was that I was assertive and made the first move.LOL I must say I'm a sucka for those chinky brown eyes and those pearly whites.

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  • Myriah's Avatar
    Posted by Myriah Mon Nov 10, 2008 9:19pm PST

    If a guy treats our waitress or waiter poorly, they don't get a second chance here. (I like your list by the way, very cool things for you to notice.) I mean seriously, if I am out with a guy or even a girlfriend, and they treat a waitor/waitress like crap it shows that they have very little regard for other people, and more often than not it shows that they think others are below them, and I hate that in anyone.

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  • fillerousse's Avatar
    Posted by fillerousse Mon Nov 10, 2008 9:33pm PST

    I wish the boyfriend that I need to break up with soon would read this article . . . and actually take it to heart . . . but even if he did read it, he would just dismiss it, and that's just one of the minor reasons among many big reasons why I must leave him . . . Je veux pleurir . . .

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  • Chesky's Avatar
    Posted by Chesky Mon Nov 10, 2008 9:34pm PST

    I enjoyed this article a lot. I could definitely relate to the little things that you found beautiful. I'm not necessarily in shock because I think everyone has this thought in the back of their minds. I pay attention to the way a guy treats other people, and to his mannerisms. I like thinking about the different faces he makes when he talks. I also love laughs. Everyone has a very particular laugh, and I just enjoy how those laughs fit a person's personality so well.

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