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Monday, December 7, 2009

4 little details men notice about women

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They say the "devil is in the details," but the other night, my friend and I were scanning the bar and noticing minor things about women. After reflecting on our observations, I put together four small things that guys notice that they don't often point out to women. Here they are:

Hands

I study a girl's hands pretty intensely. Beautiful hands can portray daintiness and strength at the same time. I notice manicures, and complexion. I imagine what it's like to hold them. I'm not much of a hand holder, but pretty hands will turn me into a hand holder. I even watch how a girl grips things. There are definitely different objects and shapes that look amazing in a girl's hands, such as a wine glass. A wine glass has delicate curves that play off a woman's hands. When I notice fingers that are appealing tome, I imagine how those fingertips would feel.

Hair

I've mentioned hair before, so I wouldn't say it's a "little thing". But hair can do simple actions that can evoke powerful emotions. One day I ran into my friend on the way to work-the friend that wore high heels to the soccer game. One thing's for sure: this girl really knows how to take care of and do her hair. We were just talking and walking when a gust of wind blew right down the street and ran through her hair. The indescribable motion that took place in her hair was beautiful. I even noticed that a random guy we passed turned his head and looked. I didn't realize until the day was over, but seeing that gust of wind go through my friend's hair put me in a good mood the rest of the day. So, while hair is a big deal, little random moments can create big, great things.

Attitude Towards Others

When I go out to dinner with a girl, I keep a close eye on how she treats a waiter or hostess. Does she say "thanks," and generally act polite and respectful? Sometimes I feel as if I'm overly cordial to people: I wish them a nice day and always make sure to say "thanks." But, what makes a woman has to do with more than just how she treats me. A person with a beautiful personality treats everyone nicely and respectfully. It's fun to be out with a girl and watch her make people smile from afar. It makes me feel proud and lucky that I'm with her. It's already an amazing thing when I meet a girl that can brighten my days. But if this girl brightens everyone's days, then I'm even luckier.

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What Does She Notice?

It's fun meeting different people because they always bring a new perspective. When I break down music I love for people, they ask how I even care about every last little sound and note that I analyze and point out to them. What little things does a woman notice or point out? If we go to a Broadway show, for example,does she notice something in the background set? Does she notice the couple in front of us that are very much in love? Does she notice that the usher hates us because we are whispering and showed up just as the lights were going down? Sure, we share big thoughts and ideas with one another, but sometimes you can learn a lot about a person just by the details they notice in life and moments. It is a fun adventure going out with someone who can laugh at and notice little things, and who always brings new insights to different situations.

Once I realized that I was noticing little things, I came to the conclusion that little simple moments are just part of overall beauty. Beauty can be defined in a collection of moments, or memories more often than it can be defined by someone's appearance.

Seeing a girl across the room, holding a wine glass with pretty hands and making people smile, or a moment in the morning where the windr uns through a girl's hair, or a girl I'm noticing someone walking by in a Members Only jacket, are simple moments that should never be taken for granted.

What is a little thing (appearance, moment or personality)that you notice in a guy that is a simple, beautiful thing?


Posted by Rich

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  • Heather -HH-'s Avatar
    Posted by Heather -HH- Mon Dec 22, 2008 12:26pm PST

    they also notice how fat your ass is, or how big that bra is. LOL

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  • Lisa's Avatar
    Posted by Lisa Tue Dec 23, 2008 6:50pm PST

    This is so right. Before even reading your article I would notice how if I moved my hands with a certain amount of grace men would automatically look at my hands, and would almost be in a trance for half a second. I notice the same things about guys. Especially the way they treat others because that shows how they will treat me later on in the relationship when its more comfortable for both.

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  • Ihekoronye chigozie's Avatar
    Posted by Ihekoronye chigozie Mon Dec 29, 2008 8:34am PST

    i love those, expecialy manarism. both parties must have it

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  • Narayansamy's Avatar
    Posted by Narayansamy Sun Jan 4, 2009 11:18pm PST

    In a man, I notice eyes, hands, laugh, and tone of voice.

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  • adeboye's Avatar
    Posted by adeboye Wed Feb 25, 2009 10:35am PST

    thanks for the mail it's quite revealing.

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  • PATRICIA's Avatar
    Posted by PATRICIA Mon Mar 23, 2009 9:57pm PDT

    The little things I notice about a guy is if he is wearing cheap shoes, because that tells alot about a man. Also I notice how he is dressed, if he has on loose fitting pants, that's a plus for me because it leaves something for the imagination. Also he must smell good, and not too overpowering, and must have a good sense of humor!!!!!!!!!!!!

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