4 ways to break up with your boyfriend nicely

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  Posted by ShamikaS Wed Jan 21, 2009 9:57am PST

  s--- happen that the way life go get over it and move on to what you belive you was go do alway.

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  Posted by ShamikaS Wed Jan 21, 2009 9:57am PST

  s--- happen that the way life go get over it and move on to what you belive you was go do alway.

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  Posted by Simply Wed Jan 21, 2009 10:02am PST

  Thanks for the info.

  I was guilty for what I did ...I was confused about the result of my biopsy ,i thought i had a serious illness.I was lost because i love him and afraid to think that he has no future with me.I said cruel things just to get rid of him.I refused to tell him the truth .I know I hurt him so much ,I tried to explain and win him back but he didnt listen to me anymore until finally he decided to dump me.Yet he is forgiven.I hope he has a heart that once so soft that now I made it stone because of wrong decision.Iam healthy now all of my med results are all cleared.I think I have reasons to live even without him.

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  Posted by Lightnin' Wed Jan 21, 2009 10:38am PST

  Hey M D. If the guy "won't care if you dump him" then he wasn't into her anyway. And if all he wanted was sex then he can pick up any number of drunk sluts in any number of bars at closing time! It's hard to stay friends after a breakup, but I've done it a couple of times. Usually it's better not to call or e-mail. You may give the impression that there's still feelings, unless you still do have them. I broke up with a girl, called her a few months later and now we're good friends. But I had to make it clear that I wasn't interested in another relationship with her again.

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  Posted by Trish Wed Jan 21, 2009 11:01am PST

  Well, i like to start off as friends befor i even want to step it to the next level. this helps becoues if he is not a good friend he wont be a good boy friens either. If we still have stong feelings, atraction and we connect aot then its time to step it up. Hey, if it dont work out you and him have already been friends befor, so you can always fall back on that just make sure you and him are on the same page.

  thanx for listing tris

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  Posted by DAVID G Wed Jan 21, 2009 12:04pm PST

  Be straight forward. Forget the whole,you're amazing jazz. Because if he was so amazing than you wouldn't be dumping him and he knows that. Telling him he is amazing while trying to dump him will only make him feel like a pity case and no one wants pity. Just be honest and firm.

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  Posted by Keagan Wed Jan 21, 2009 12:18pm PST

  stop the whole you where a good man and all because its not working at all !!!!!!!!!!! I look him in the eyes and say I need some time to tkink with you not here And if he tries to hit you ! you kick his ass baby!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  Posted by Irock Wed Jan 21, 2009 2:34pm PST

  “I've Learned That People Will Forget What You Said, People Will Forget What You Did, but People Will Never Forget How You Made Them Feel.”

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  Posted by Statira Wed Jan 21, 2009 2:43pm PST

  Break up at your place or a place both of you have never been too. NOT at his place. Do not break up in a place that every time he is there he will think of you. It is nice that you do not want to hurt him. The classic "its not you, its me." It is classic because it works. Make sure he understands that you both are growing apart. Not a bad thing it just happens. But you know you cannot make him happy and want to break up before you both begin to hate each other. However I would like to point out with clingy guys. Well I find being direct (sometimes it becomes harsh, that might be just me) is the best course. Clingy guys don't take "hints" easily. You need to be upfront otherwise he will not go away. Give him a few months away from you so he can get over you without thinking there is a chance to re-connect. Believe me my clingy ex still thinks there is a shot and I have not talked to him in 4-5 years. So I hope this helps. Good luck! Let me know how things work out for you.

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  Posted by lynda Wed Jan 21, 2009 3:49pm PST

  I find it best to just be honest the famous line This just isnt working for me any more, and why he ask's you reply your agreat guy and you deserve to have some one love you, and Im just not that person .

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