4 ways to break up with your boyfriend nicely

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  Posted by Angela Wed Jan 21, 2009 4:40pm PST

  im havin such a hard time breakin up with my bf we've been datin for bout 3 months n he has no idea that i just dont feel that way bout him but i think im gona try these steps

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  Posted by Rae Wed Jan 21, 2009 4:48pm PST

  I think thats the best way. I like to use time apart to settle the deal. When he realizes that your spending more time apart than you ever will together then it can become mutually beneficial to just break things off and stay friends.

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  Posted by IsmaelC Wed Jan 21, 2009 6:52pm PST

  what loves maens.and we have to use that word?

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  Posted by Frenchy Wed Jan 21, 2009 7:45pm PST

  The best break up I ever had to go through turned out to be this: he was honest with me totally, he came to me and we talked, he said he was sorry and I believed him. It was the most respectful dignified way anyone has broke up with me. Made me realize just what a nice guy he was even thou it wasn't in the cards for us.

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  Posted by Serafina Wed Jan 21, 2009 8:03pm PST

  I had to break up with my boyfriend. he had a great sense of humor. I can honestly say that I will always love him. We dated for over three years. I had enough of his drinking and doing other drugs. It really hurts. My kids come first though.

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  Posted by Cyndi Wed Jan 21, 2009 11:01pm PST

  how do you break up w/ a guy if your living w/ him. I'd be afraid he'd wreck my stuff.

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  Posted by Hannah Wed Jan 21, 2009 11:54pm PST

  be selfish. make up an excuse if you have to. be cold. if you dont, he'll never leave you alone.

  once you break up with him, be sure to never call him again.

  that is the easiest way to lay him down.

  for you and him.

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  Posted by Mycoal Thu Jan 22, 2009 4:11am PST

  hahahaHAHAHAHAhAHhaha.....lol xD. you WOMEN oh boy I tell yah. Well.....where do we begin?

  You FEmales are DEAD on all COUNTS. Honest to God truth this article made me laugh pretty good because its true and all the methods were done to me and YES I DID CRY....lol xD......PATHETIC yes.

  HONEST time: Wasn't raised right father not there to TEACH me how to treat a lady......SOooooooooooo I had to take my own crash course...actually courses and all end horribly.

  Well back to YES I DID CRY. Story with that is okay....im in ALASKA and you know in the summer all you folk come up here for a vacation and theres this awesome ALL you can eat buffet called the Salmon Bake that HUNDREDS of you come everyday to eat but anyways I worked there back in 2004 as a dishwasher and moved my way up to busser or whatever. but yeah had alot of ATTRACTIVE co--workers and at the time in 2004 I had BAD social anxiety and there was this young lady who I forgot was 16 and I was 18 but anyways had this connection like I wouldn't stutter or have a panic attack like I usually did around girls. but yeah I don't know we just had somethin but you know...I saw the way she looked at other co-worker and was like ahhh..shes into him. and just forgot about it. we'd still talk

  But anyways THIS FRIENDSHIP was like the movie FOREST GUMP....We meet at the Salmon Bake and I had no friends, and from that day we'd only see each other every couple of years til 1day in a mall of all places I see her after not seeing her for a yr again and you know...I'd think about her off and on and i saw her and was like...THIS IS YOUR ONLY CHANCE! I asked her for a hug...PATHETIC! i know but I honestly hesistated and almost backed out. but yeah she hugged me and once again she was out of my life again movin down south for a better life.

  Again a yr and half or so passes and I don't see her. well I see her but like she works at this bank in a grocery store and you know? it'd be weird to strike up a conversation with a person while there workng at a bank. But yeah i'd walk past every now and then to catch a glimpse until it got weird for me and was like she'll notice stop it man.

  Another 6months pass and on the GREATEST day of 2008 I had last year was MAY,16th 2008. The day started awesome. Everything was going right it was sunny, had a good bfast. and then I go to a mall and the most glorious thing happens....I find a TEENAGERS wallet with $670 dollars in it. After that I got alot of MARY JANE and you know....felt good throughout the day and you know....the last 20mins of May 16th i was downtown orderin a burger from a stand and im diggin in my pockets for some money and out of the right side of my ear I hear my name and it startled me.....There she was. I didn't hesistate I hugged her. I paid for my hamburger and never ate it. she asks if I'd like to go on a cruise with her bro home and im like yeah im down. we talk on the way blah blah....she takes me back downtown and we just really connected. Like I swear the whole time was GENUINELY was being her friend and you know she dropped it on me....."Do you got a girlfriend?" No...I answered..its been years. That night stuck with me forever because that was the only time she ever looked at me in a way that made me feel accepted and attractive.

  I f--- up though. Sweet and wonderful woman now who's 20. 23 i am. i would always ask to touch her or cuddle and she'd agree but yes i was clingy and all these other unattractive things and you know.......she wouldn't answer my calls or texts or emails for a whole month and a half. DIDN:T GET THE PICTURE? nope. she let me go and I came back to her. I failed though. I saw her a couple of times and I could;ve said something. I even saw her hold this guys hand and you know.....I let it sink in. SHE DOESNT WANT YOU. I called her but let it ring only once after I saw that and I hung up. was like its over move on. im on the bus and she calls me. we play phone tag for like a week.

  Smart and beautiful woman going to college. Well still didn't get around to the crying but yeah....recently she was here in town for break and a whole 3 weeks almost pass b4 I see her and you know....numerous times shes told me that she doesn't want to be in a relatinoship shes focusing on school for the next 4years. I never took no for an answer. I kept hounding her and she kept denying me til the day she left. and you know I call her the day she leaves to see how her flight was and she wouldn't return my calls or texts and at the time freaked me out cause a male friend of hers was returning her missed calls and didn't bother to call my cell 1st despite how many times I tried from it and he called back the house phone. was like I don't care that you got a boyfriend...I just wanted to know why you weren't talkin to me. and you know yeah I freaked her out and I felt like the hugest loser on the planet and. Ended it strongly was like....Anytime you need to talk don't matter if its 3am 7am 11pm call me i'll be there. LIke 2hrs later she texts taking me up on that offer.

  Of all things she wanted to talk about was THE POSSIBILITY of a relationship and you know was layin out the grounds and you know ....I was UNDER THE IMPRESSION that we would be together BUT....and theres always a BUT. she says lets continue this convo and im like okay. we continue it but I let her know what ill be bringin to the relationship and just talking and she's like wow....let me think it over. Well 2days passed and those 2days were horrible cause a 6yr anniversary that I dread and the next day I had an even worse day. After that worse day it still got worse.

  I call her to she what she says and she says it again....I want to focus on school not going to be in a relationship. Never before has any1 taken me to such highs and brought me down so crashingly down hard. Despite MY BARGAINING lol hahaha xD yes its true all of it....she stays her course and doesn't budge and she asks me that question I'll never forget

  "So can we be friends? or is this going to get weird and we'll stop talking?" I start crying...thinking how do I stop loving the 1st woman i've ever felt true love for and overall was just bummed she SHOT ME DOWN GOOD! for the last and final time. I don't answer and she says well "Call me 1week from now and we'll see how it goes. I only want TO BE YOUR FRIEND"

  Those 1st 2 3 days were hard. yes I couldn't stop thinking about her. What helped was Mens Health website and readin all the columns on relationships. they said it. MOVE ON and LET GO. SHES NOT COMING BACK. Listenin to T-Pain's "Chopped n Screwed" helps to. But yeah im still DUSTING myself off and preparing for the next opportunity at happiness that comes if ever.

  But yeah SHE BREAKS 1st and texts me sayin I know it ain't been a week just wanting to know if your ok? I had and still have NO INTENTIONS of calling her back. Sure she'll be back in 4months. But I know she'll be SWOOPED up by some ALPHA male whos got MORE MONEY more EVERYTHING I don't got. It saddens me not as much but im still recovering

  When I think back on it....EVEN IF we had gotten together......MY PAST would come back to haunt me in 1 way or another and it would effect the relationship badly. So I think back and just ACCEPT it was all MY OWN UN-DOING and I got myself to feel this way.

  I've got an absolute LONG WAYS to go before im ready to be in a relationship. This sites helped me learn alot. If you can't be SECURE with yourself your bound to feel INSECURE in a relationship. That and im still being PUNISHED for my sins growing up.

  Thanks for listening

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  Posted by christian Thu Jan 22, 2009 6:00am PST

  what the f--- . stop helping those bitches

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  Posted by jude Thu Jan 22, 2009 8:33am PST

  hi m jory i need a love for anny one she need to mak with me please love me please

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