4 ways to break up with your boyfriend nicely

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  Posted by Rima Desire Mon Feb 9, 2009 2:20am PST

  what i did is that i did not answer all his calls and messages...i ignore him in my messenger till the time that he realize that i am important to him...

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  Posted by sjean Thu Feb 12, 2009 3:19pm PST

  i did the exact same thing. he was too needy and TOO clingy..

  i told him we need to stop talking for now.. but he keeps sending me

  txt msg and picture msg..

  help!!!

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  Posted by Gardenfoot Mon Feb 23, 2009 1:24pm PST

  WORST break-up advice I have read online. The one and only truth, There is no "best" way to break-up. Better ways to break-up are telling them directly, that you no longer want to see them or with them. Tell them exactly why it is over. Do not ever tell them "You're great, I'm sure you'll find someone else" that is an insult. This isn't like a job that isn't working out for them. This is much deeper than that.

  Break-up in a private residency is probably the worse advice I have ever heard. best place to break-up is someone semi-public, or better yet. over the phone. This is because people can and do get violent.

  They'll go through their five stages of grief. Denial, Anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. They'll deny that you are breaking-up with them. Then they'll get angry. Then their bargain (I can change), then they'll be depressed (turning to hobby, drinking or trying to call you) then finally acceptance.

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  Posted by texanslady Mon Feb 23, 2009 2:31pm PST

  I got dumped and was broken-hearted for several months. What did the trick for me was that I got very sick (a cerebral aneurysm ruptured) and I had to be hospitalized for 3 months. Out of necessity, I was forced to concentrate my energy on getting well instead of thinking about my ex. By the time I was no longer in the hospital or residential rehab, I found I really didn't care what he did. I don't have a phone number for him and don't know where he is. Something that was said during one of my outpatient rehab sessions struck a chord with me, and once I was able to grasp it, things were a lot easier. The idea that was put forth was basically, when someone breaks up with you, it has less to do with YOU than with the person who is doing the breaking up. It frequently has NOTHING to do with you and everything to do with the other person. My ex has my phone if he wants to call, but blessedly, he has pretty much left me alone. I am grateful!

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  Posted by Jamie Mon Feb 23, 2009 3:13pm PST

  I personally would rather be broken up with over the phone, so I can save face and won't have to drive away while upset. However, Internet wisdom suggests this is a dishonorable way to break up and you have to do it face to face. I recently had to break up with someone and wanted to do it as kindly as I could. I followed most of the steps the article suggested, but he wouldn't accept my decision to end things. I had to actually be mean - meaner than I actually felt - in order to get him to respect my feelings and stop pursuing me. Sometimes if you're too nice, you end up getting punished.

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  Posted by J I Mon Feb 23, 2009 3:40pm PST

  My dear, I dumped my ex we were together for 3 years, because he didn't want to take things seriously. Just do it nice and simple, my suggestion is to tell him that you don't need him in your life because you both have different things in mind tell him that you are too young to start something serious and tell him that you have other priorities in mind, and that the commute is killing you, being honest it's good.

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  Posted by ShakeriaP Thu Apr 23, 2009 6:42am PDT

  I just told my boyfriend lets be friends and I ask him for forgiveness, but he say if only I stay. What do I do?

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