But trust me, there's more to fellatio than, as we Brits so tastefully put it, getting your gob round his nob or your gums round his plums. The best oral sex exponents use their mouths, their tongues, their fingers, their eyes, their voice and—most importantly—their brain (but not their teeth, unless it's been asked for). I'm assuming that you already know Rule No.1 about b-jobs—you don't blow—so here are the basic ground rules from a male point of view…
1. If you're not in the mood, don't
bother.
Back in the day, fellatio was generally
seen as something only depraved men would want, and only even more
depraved women would offer. Thankfully, this has changed to the
point where a bit of a nosh almost comes as standard. But take it
from me; there is nothing more unappealing than a workmanlike -----
from someone who sees it as contractual obligation. Not sexy at
all, ladies… Read: Oral
Sex: Love It or Hate It?
2. Your mouth can do a million things your vagina
can't.
So make use of it. There's far more to fellatio than sucking,
and seeing as his genitals are in your mouth, you are the one who
is completely dictating the terms. Enthusiastic head-bobbing one
minute, followed by slithering your tongue down his shaft, followed
by smoochy kisses around the
head…it's all good.
3. Deep-throating isn't everything.
Being able to shove a foot-long hot dog into your mouth at a
baseball game might get you on the Jumbotron for a few seconds, but
if that's the sum total of your oral technique, you need to
expand your repertoire. It gets pretty boring after a couple of
minutes—and to be honest, we start worrying about your gag reflex
kicking in and your jaws snapping shut.
4. Oral familiarity breeds genital
disinterest.
In other words, mix up your technique. There's nothing worse
than being with someone who does the same things for the same
amount of time in the same order. Surprise us!
5. Get to know his penis…
…because it's more than a bit of meat, y'know. Yes,
there's loads of nerve endings round the tip, but quite a few
elsewhere. We'd like those stimulated too, please. And please
don't forget the balls—gently rubbing them or cupping them in
your hand and feeling the weight of them increases the sensations
tenfold.
Written by Al Needham for YourTango.com.
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