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Tuesday, December 1, 2009

5 Tricks To Remembering His Name

OK. Quick confession, I cannot get the catchy jam from The Ting Ting's out of my head… "They call me Stacy. They call me her. They call me Jane. That's not my name." Click here for the music video.  It's a big bag of fun.

The new wave, dance punk jam is supposed to be about dealing with music industry "suits" who give vocalist Katie White a hard time. But the song could just as easily be about the age-old romantic eff-up of the face-name disconnect. Watch: Breakfast With What's His Name

In Scrabble, drawing a blank is a generally a good thing, but when rocking your best game at some Hector or Melissa a blank could turn any good first impression into the worst transgression. For some goofy reason, people really like it when you remember their name… particularly when you'd like them to be screaming yours at some point. It's really the second biggest self-c*ck block/ box-out of all time (right after counting the sex before it's hatched).

Here are a few tips that'll work even if you're tipsy:

1. Look them in their eye and say their name over and over in conversation, even if you are not directly talking to them. "Stacy has a good point about the consequences of run-away government." Bill Clinton uses this technique to remember people's names from years back... [insert your own Slick Willy joke here].
 
2. Use a mnemonic device. When learning the person's name, try using rhyming, alliteration or another reference to recall the name. If his name is Leonard and he has a chinstrap beard, he can be Lincoln Lenny or Penny Lenny. Seinfeld only had to remember a word that rhymes with a woman's anatomy (is Mulva even a name?).

3. Write it down. One of the best ways to remember anything is to write it down.  Chances are you'll have a mobile phone or a pen and paper handy. This is sort of a weak move but way better than brain fading when it's go-time.

4. Association. If you can think of a character, celebrity or person in your life with the same first name, use it. Transpose a mental image of them standing together. Be careful not use a celebrity and then confuse a character he/ she plays, for example, if his name is Leonard, think of Leonardo but not of Jack, Danny Archer, Gilbert Grape, William Costigan or Howard Hughes, per se.

5. Technology. Facebook this person as fast as you can. Many handhelds allow you to hit Facebook remotely. If that fails, take a pic on the downlow and label it with that person's name (if you've the technological capacity).
  • Last-ditch efforts, nicknames. Using someone's most attractive feature as nickname will work for a little while. Be prepared to dig through someone's wallet as soon as they leave for the bathroom (I kid).
  • Really last-ditch effort, ask. If you really like this person, but not enough to remember his/ her name obviously, ask them. But take an angle on your query. Maybe ask if he/ she was named after anyone of what they think of the name.

Holler at us with any good forgotten name stories.

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  • LoveN's Avatar
    Posted by LoveN Mon Aug 24, 2009 8:45am PDT

    Isn't it funny that there are some people whose names are impossible to remember? Like, maybe they just don't seem like the type of person you'd expect from a Sally or Joel and so your brain doesn't make the connection. Or, maybe this just happens to me.

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  • ElizabethB's Avatar
    Posted by ElizabethB Mon Aug 24, 2009 9:09am PDT

    Say it at least twice right after they tell it to you! That works for me.

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  • Mars Venus Coach's Avatar
    Posted by Mars Venus Coach Mon Aug 24, 2009 11:46am PDT

    Just all 'em all "Honey-Pie" and you're set.

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  • Mars Venus Coach's Avatar
    Posted by Mars Venus Coach Mon Aug 24, 2009 11:51am PDT

    Just call them all "Honey Pie" and you're set!

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  • bookwrm531's Avatar
    Posted by bookwrm531 Mon Aug 24, 2009 1:38pm PDT

    I just say variants of "Hey You" until someone who actually knows the person shows up to clue me in.

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  • Claire's Avatar
    Posted by Claire Mon Aug 24, 2009 1:45pm PDT

    Ugh, the worst is when you have to introduce them to someone and their name is on the tip of your tongue. You know you know their name. But for some reasons your mind always blanks. When this is the case I usually introduce the person whose name i remember first and allow them to finish the sentence... I say, "hey, this is Nina, she's a friend from high school. Nina, this is..." and hopefully he'll chime in.

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  • Sarah's Avatar
    Posted by Sarah Tue Aug 25, 2009 8:16am PDT

    It's so true about people liking it when you remember their name. It's really nice to be able to say hello or goodbye to someone and also say their name. People are generally pretty nice about it when you tell them you forgot their name. Chances are they forgot yours too.

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  • Ray.Cougar's Avatar
    Posted by Ray.Cougar Tue Aug 25, 2009 4:21pm PDT

    That is a worldclass self-cockblock. I usually only do it when I'm bombed or part bombed. But I'm usually part bombed when I'm hitting on girls at bars. I might try the picture thing or Facebook thing.

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  • Melanie's Avatar
    Posted by Melanie Wed Aug 26, 2009 12:40pm PDT

    I totally agree w/the technology idea and I'm famous for typing names into my Bberry as I meet people so I don't forget them. I just make it look like I got a text/email and type out the details. With relevant associations of course so I don't confuse them with someone else.

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  • K.E.'s Avatar
    Posted by K.E. Fri Aug 28, 2009 2:49pm PDT

    that's one of the reasons I always date guys with the same name.

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