1. Talking
Whispering dirty nothings to each other is one of the best forms of foreplay out there--it can really get the mental side of things stirring, which is so important for gals. Now, if you're cringing and blushing and thinking, "Oh no, please don't make me talk dirty!": relax. Bedroom banter doesn't have to sound like porno dialogue. Tell each other what you're about to do, just before you do it. Sounds innocent enough, but just you wait...and once you've got that part down, you can start telling each other over dinner what you'd like to do later. #1 Must-Do Tip: Feeling tongue-tied? Then buy an erotica anthology (check out the selection at RachelKramerBussel.com) and read it aloud to each other in bed. For more specifics on what to actually say, read our post dedicated to the topic.
2. Kissing
Remember your first few kisses? The sensation was so novel it literally made you weak in the knees! Get that feeling back by making a make-out session an end in itself. Rather than rushing through the motions to get to "better" things, focus on every lick and pucker, in fact, perfect them. Remember: Two tongues at a time is overrated. Gentle lip-biting is hot; gentle tongue-biting is not. #1 Must-Do Tip: Just like any form of sex, kissing doesn't always have to be romantic and lovey-dovey--try pulling your partner's hair instead of stroking it during a kiss sometime. For more specifics on how NOT to kiss, read our post dedicated to the topic...
3. Massage
We've all heard the statistic that 90 percent of backrubs lead to sex...well, a half-hearted squeeze of the shoulder blades during a commercial break of So You Think You Can Dance isn't going to get anyone in the mood. But a full-body, well-oiled, dimly lit massage that lasts at least 20 minutes--with no immediate expectation of reciprocation--is the best damn thing you can do for your nerve endings. Plus it gives whoever is on the receiving end an excuse to start moaning. The giver should save the naughty bits for last: by then, they'll be good and ready for any kind of attention. #1 Must-Do Tip: Both of you should be fully naked to amp up the teasing potential of the massage--just remember, the receiver can't touch back until the full 20 minutes are up. Here's a Little Massage Trick to Blow His Mind...
4. H*ndjobs
Hand work gets a bad rap. This is probably because back when you were first experimenting with sex, you poked around with clumsy fingers, never thinking to use lube (on both of you), take your time, and educate each other on what you really liked. But hands and fingers are so much better than mouths, penises and vaginas are at dexterously manipulating genitals--which is why for many women handwork is the only way they can climax. So stop fighting it, and start enjoying it! #1 Must-Do Tip: Teen h*ndjobs weren't all bad--re-create a bit of that puppy lust by putting your hands down each other's pants next time you're at the movies (though good manners would dictate that you make sure you're at a drive-in).
5. Oral Sex
Okay, so maybe your tongue isn't the most dexterous of organs, but it has a few other things in its favor (being naturally lubed, for one). Plus, getting up close and personal with your partner's genitals like this is a pretty heady (heh) experience--one that can feel even more intimate than the old in-n-out. And like handwork, oral for many women is the key that unlocks the door to their orgasms (while intercourse just knocks on it). #1 Must-Do Tip: While we don't necessarily think that a 69 is the Shangri-La some people claim it to be, we will say this: the head of your partner's penis and the head of your clitoris (i.e. the bean) are homologous organs, which means that you can play do-as-I-do with your tongues to show each other exactly how you like to be pleasured down there.
Related: 30 Things Every Woman Should Know About Sex By Age 30.
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