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Saturday, December 5, 2009
6 Flirty Moves to Try on Any Man (Even Your Own!)
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- by Redbook, on Thu Oct 15, 2009 3:47pm PDT
I'm not the best at what most people would consider traditional
"flirting." Neither the giggly girl thing nor the Jessica
Rabbit sultry siren thing has ever felt right on me, so my default
flirting mode is to basically to make wisecracks and tease my crush
object mercilessly (I'm like a grade-school boy that
way). Sure, I'll inch closer during the evening, make
direct eye contact, maybe even go so far as to initiate some casual
touching (the forearm or the shoulder), but I think what I'm
missing is a physical component to my flirting. I think that's
why I found some of the advice in this article —
53 Ways to Look and Feel Sexier — so interesting.
Normally, I might think tips like these are too coy, but
they're fun to experiment with if you don't take them too
seriously. And if you're subtle about it, they work — because
(as the author points out) they're just meant to make
you feel sexy doing them, and
when you feel sexy, you project sexy:
"Just moving, talking and thinking
in a slightly more erotically charged way is all it takes to feel
spectacularly sexy. Here, we offer a slew of little tricks
guaranteed to bring out your inner vixen."
I've done the first move to men across crowded
bars, and invariably, they'll head over to chat me up. My
friend Maria dubbed the move "The Care Bear Stare," and
warned me to use it sparingly. An accidental Care Bear Stare, and
you won't be able to get rid of an unwanted suitor all
night.
The 4th one down in particular seems
good for people in relationships:
- Give him the up gaze: Tilt your head down, then ever so coyly
bring your eyes up to look at him, as though you were trying to
peek through your top lashes. The movement screams "Come and
get me!"
- Lean forward and "accidentally" give him a peek of
your cleavage down your top. Or lift up your skirt to scratch an
imaginary itch on your thigh. Not only does seeing these sexy
previews put thoughts in his head, but knowing he's watching
you — and thoroughly admiring the view — will make you feel like
the only woman on earth.
- Eat
dessert while looking into his eyes. Have you ever
noticed the way you enjoy something decadent, like a piece of cake,
mousse or rich dark-chocolate truffles? It's certainly not the
same way you down a turkey club. You use your tongue, your lips and
your sense of smell to relish every bite. It makes you feel
indulgent and luxurious, and the way you show that pure pleasure as
you gaze blissfully into his eyes is a very sexy sight for
him.
- Get him in hot pursuit. There's no bigger
libido boost than when your guy works to seduce you.
And when you've been settled for a while, that cat-and-mouse
chase has a way of disappearing. To get him on the hunt, just act a
little distant (say, curling up on the couch with a book). When he
strokes your back or goes in for a kiss on your neck, playfully
swat away his advances.
- Show off your goods with a cat stretch. While he's watching
you, arch your back so your butt sticks out seductively, lengthen
your arms up over your head so your exposed stomach is pulled taut
and reach for the heavens: It's invigorating...and
titillating.
- Inch into his personal space. You'll create an electric
buzz between the two of you. Just hold your conversation about a
foot closer than you normally would. You'll soon find that you
can't finish your sentences, because you're both so focused
on that surging sexual energy.
What about you? Would you try any of these moves? Any
flirty moves you've patented? I'd love to hear
some more real-world strategies.
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Dress Like a Total Bombshell
Decoding
Men's Oddball Love Signals
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Posted by Nose Thu Oct 15, 2009 7:29pm PDT
These are really stupid suggestions and would feel so unnatural to do if it's not in one's nature to play these dumb coy games. Be yourself. Eye contact is good as is a natural smile. But scratching your thigh as you lift up your skirt? Give me a break!!! Why not just be a dog about it and offer him your butt to sniff. I hate blogs like these. Lame and insulting and a throwback for all females to act like some airheaded broad of the 1950s.
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Posted by tusita s Thu Oct 15, 2009 9:59pm PDT
This is to the gal named "Nose". Come on lighten up & learn to be a little sexy! Try to understand the
author's creativity. Being a little sexy isn't going to kill you. Although you're a woman, you don't
have a clue how to be sexy. Feel rhythm of being a woman, it's a powerful & non-verbal communication will open a man's heart, body, mind & spirit, & so much more. When reading these
type of articles have an open mind. Life is too short to analyze & to be negative about how to enjoy
one life you have. If most women could be sexy & charming, I bet men will feel it like the heaven
above. When men are happy seeing how women can bring charm, beauty, kindness & joy, I bet
guys will give you the world!!! Trust me on this!!
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Posted by Kai Thu Oct 15, 2009 10:16pm PDT
I agree completely with Nose. These so-called flirting tips look like instructions for getting a one-night stand; someone needs to come up with some moves that don't reek of 1950s doormat or tramp.
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Posted by KittyKat Fri Oct 16, 2009 4:06am PDT
I dont know some of these actually seem fun and who knows you might end up in a relationship with that guy.
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Posted by None Fri Oct 16, 2009 5:36am PDT
Pfff, flirting is a sport to me, I am the pro, don't need an article to use my special skills. (Shake it off baby)
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Posted by sarah Fri Oct 16, 2009 1:38pm PDT
i am a natural born flirt! its fun! i've done all of these and they work like a charm.
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Posted by Jaclyn Fri Oct 16, 2009 10:31pm PDT
i read the redbook article, and to quote number 2 it says "Next time your man's close by, lean forward and "accidentally" give him a peek of your cleavage down your top. Or lift up your skirt to scratch an imaginary itch on your thigh. Not only does seeing these sexy previews put thoughts in his head, but knowing he's watching you -- and thoroughly admiring the view -- will make you feel like the only woman on earth." pay close attention to the "Your man" part at the beginning. the person that took these tips didn't neccessarily put them down word-for-word.
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Posted by TMNT Sun Oct 18, 2009 11:00pm PDT
lol this is was funny...if a girl did dis haha...the tilted head one works x.x i got tricked
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Posted by 80'sgirl Mon Oct 19, 2009 8:52am PDT
Turn the tables a little bit and tell him he looks sexy or that his colonge smells absoulty irresistable. Men love compliments just as much as woman do. But the only rule is to mean what you say!!!!
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