7 Ways to Survive the Long-Distance, Long-Term Romantic Relationship

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  Posted by Angel Morbid Thu Jul 16, 2009 4:04pm PDT

  Thank you for the article, I haven't seen too many posts on LDRs on Shine. Being in one, was hard and sometimes left me feeling empty. Oh yes, it can and does suck (sometimes).

  Unfortunately for me, it's a little too late to use these tips. Although I agree with you on these tips. My biggest one was always keep up the communication between each other. Even if you're up to your neck in things to do, there's always time for a quick 5-minute conversation to see how things are going.

  And yes, there was frequently a shortage of things to talk about, leading up to the infamous awkward silence. But I was okay with that. Knowing he was there made all the difference between feeling great and wanting to claw my eyes out.

  Sadly, it doesn't work a lot of the time, things happen...then the communication just...stops...Then anything that ever happened between the two just dies and fades away.

  I hope it's still going good for you, Yumi Sakugawa. It can be very hard, yet intensely rewarding. Bonding and sharing something with someone without physical means is out of this world.

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  Posted by Angel Morbid Thu Jul 16, 2009 4:21pm PDT

  http://www.lovingfromadistance.com/thingsforldrcouplestodo.htm

  This is another great list of things to do with your significant other in an LDR. I regret not putting it to full use though, but this site is nice. Good luck to all people in LDRs.

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  Posted by KittyKat Thu Jul 16, 2009 6:01pm PDT

  For me personally long distance relationships suck cuz they never work out. But I'm very much happy with the guy I'm with now. I'm living with him.

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  Posted by AGAIEM Thu Jul 16, 2009 6:10pm PDT

  Is it possible to fall inlove with someone you only hear her voice via the phone and nothing more?

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  Posted by moses Fri Jul 17, 2009 12:50am PDT

  It depend to whom, but sometime distance relation can build reation to very strong, and you cant measure true love with distance, but acting love with distance it difficult,but more and more closenes relation is very sounding than distance relation, i have experiance in than my relation with my girl lover was broken because of distance, all people

  must be sure and truely in what they doing, strong love never end by any means must have a long life

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  Posted by Denitah Fri Jul 17, 2009 1:24am PDT

  relationship is all about trust, short or long if a guy or a girl what to cheat he or she can. i know is hard but every relationship is built on communication.

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  Posted by Katie B Fri Jul 17, 2009 6:16am PDT

  Those are all very good tips.. I had got a cell phone with the same company as he had so that we could make use of the unlimited mobile to mobile minutes... but we were both in the US... He was in Boston and I was in OKC while we finished up school... We would try to visit each other all the time... and it was great because our families lived in the same area so we would be able to see each other for holidays.

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  Posted by Katie B Fri Jul 17, 2009 6:17am PDT

  Oh and now we are married for one year on sunday... So LDR's can work.. they are just a lot harder work and take a lot of communication and trust.

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  Posted by Alishia Fri Jul 17, 2009 7:20am PDT

  I am currently in a LDR. It is very hard but its going well! He's been gone for amost 6 months so far in Kuwait. We use skype and yahoo messenger constantly. We try to talk at least once a day for a few mins. I think LDR can work but you have to put your whole heart into it and think positive. If you start thinking negative about it the relationship will never work. It does become more difficult when you really want to talk to them about something and its the middle of the night for him. It is also harder on the weekends because everyone has their bf/gf there and your all alone. So a good suppose system is very important. Its also important that your friends support your relationship.

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  Posted by Capt Matthew Sat Jul 18, 2009 7:22am PDT

  Iam in a LDR for about 6 months or a little longer now with a lady from the Philippines. The most wonderful woman I have ever known. I know a lot of people ask do they really work but I guess for some people they do and others they don't. The key is to have patience in your relationship, for instance my gf and I have never met each other in person but we talk on the phone once to twice a week. We e-mail a lot and send letters to each other a lot. A LDR is something you have to learn to trust, you have to be very honest about everything, you have to love with all you heart it's almost like marriage without being there because in marriage you're supposed to be the same. To all of you who are in a LDR, good luck to you, for me Iam going to hold on to my gf because she is who I was meant to be with. God Bless everyone!

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