7 Ways to Survive the Long-Distance, Long-Term Romantic Relationship

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  Posted by taneka Sat Jul 18, 2009 3:02pm PDT

  im in a long LDR relationship as well and we are doing very good.you rt it is very hard to be in one but if you pray ,and keep god in it we could make it though. see some people dont think like that but if you really care about that person it shouldnt matter. that is way i say its helping me that i pray.some time i feel like giving up but i stop and think way cause if i love him way when i now that he lives me. and not only that we been loving each other for a long time and that will hurt my heart .

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  Posted by Aj Mon Jul 20, 2009 1:47pm PDT

  I used to be in one, but its hard.

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  Posted by Foluso Mon Jul 20, 2009 5:16pm PDT

  I think LDR is quite a weast of time & money why because you so far from each other and its hard to trust anyone when you can't trust uself. one can spend all the time on phone but the space one creats can not be filled be apending time on phone. pls look around u abd you fine love close to you.

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  Posted by Phoenix Mon Jul 20, 2009 7:37pm PDT

  LDR's are not for many, but they work perfectly for some: I was in a long distance relationship for 4 years, we are happily engaged and have been living together for 3 years, October. I learned ALOT about making a LDR work, and this list is SPOT ON. You have to do all of this and more.

  We were the ones racking up those huge phone bills, then switching to calling cards, then the same carrier. We talked through webcams and sent each other presents and pictures often. We maintained an unusually high level of personal communication. We visited each other a total of 13 times for 12 days a pop. We learned a lot about living together, and about living apart. It's hard as Chinese Algebra, but it can be the best hard work you've ever done. Especially if you take with you what you learn when you were apart and use it when you're together. Everybody needs to be appreciated in their relationships and making a habit to take time to show appreciation will pay off in the long run. Once you've felt the importance of expression of love in a LDR, you won't forget it, mainly because the biggest expression (touch) is unavailable to you.

  All of my "back home" family and friend relationships are now long distance. I keep familial connections alive in much the same way. Trips, presents, phone calls, letters, etc... Just remembering people and staying in touch. As a matter of fact, I just got done playing a game with my parents over the phone, which is another thing my SO and I used to do. You can play all sorts of board games like monopoly (one person in charge of the cards), chess, checkers, dice games, mind games - We just played a game called Scattegories. It's great for playing on the phone. Unfortunately unless you play through a computer, card games don't work. : /

  Oh, and it IS OK to cry. Sometimes you just need to get it out of your system. Try to keep a happy outlook in general, but being sad about it here and there is normal. (What would it mean if you weren't sad?)

  All The Best to Everybody Who's Taken This Hard Road.

  ~Peace

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  Posted by Phoenix Mon Jul 20, 2009 7:52pm PDT

  inferno, that link you posted is awesome! : )

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  Posted by Rowena Mon Jul 20, 2009 9:06pm PDT

  yes its very2 difficult to have a long distance relationship,but for me it dosn,t matter where ever he is if i love someone i can wait and i will sacrifice for him i need to trust him ang he need to trust me also..god bless.

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  Posted by reiko Mon Jul 20, 2009 9:13pm PDT

  I'm in LDR for one and a half years, I know how difficult it can be, but it can be so wonderful too at the same time. We talk on the phone at least 4 times a day and chatting on messenger almost every single day, and he visits me twice a year. Coz of LDR, we got to travel alot too. LDR can be awful but if both're in the same path, it cud really work out. Love and trust are the keys to a solid relationship, no matter it's near of far. So good luck to all who share the same LDR like me :)

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  Posted by Anna Fatima Jade Tue Jul 21, 2009 4:40am PDT

  Long distance relationship is not really difficult f u love and trust each other.Non stop communication like txting daily for just expressing your thoughtfulness makes your relationship works.You don't need to always ask for reply but the strong feelings of love help you to be more romantic and creative....Sometimes distance bring more failure but if you believe that he or she is your destiny what you only need to do is to think that both of you can make it...

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  Posted by nancy Tue Jul 21, 2009 5:28am PDT

  Nice topic, my most recent ldr just ended last March 09... we met at myspace Sept 08, talked via skype, exchange emails, sms, calls... time flies when we're talking online about 7 hours utmost almost everyday for about 6 months until he decided to visit me last Feb this year, 3 weeks of being together... but sad to say it didnt worked out... and then lately we deleted each other from our page, was really hurt cause i learned to love him but hes not worthy of my love...

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