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Wednesday, December 2, 2009

7 Ways to Survive the Long-Distance, Long-Term Romantic Relationship

Being in a long-distance relationship can kind of suck. I know this because I've been there.

I met my current boyfriend three months before my pre-determined departure date to work abroad in Japan for an entire year. Not exactly the best timing in the world.

And yet... we decided to take the long-distance plunge anyway. And though it got difficult and lonely to maintain a committed relationship with a 17-hour-time difference and the entire Pacific Ocean between us, we made it fun as much as we possibly could.

If you are in a long-distance relationship, or are about to transition into one, my heart goes out to you for all the sacrifices you have to make and the unique challenges you have to endure.

Here are my 7 tips, from someone who's been there and done that.

1. Skype is Your Best Friend. You can drop a lot of money on long-distance overseas phone calls. Or you can download Skype for free with your significant other and talk as much as you possibly can. If you don't have a MacBook, an extra investment in a webcam and a microphone is totally worth it.

2. This is Your Perfect Excuse to Make Cute Care Packages and Send Letters. Making care packages is fun. So is receiving them. There are few things more gratifying than fillingl a box with goofball gifts and delicious foreign snacks and mailing it off with the happy knowledge that it would make the recipient very happy in the following week.

3. Experience New Places as a Couple. Being in Japan gave my boyfriend the incentive to travel to another country for the first time ever to come visit me. Though being in a long-distance relationshp was hard, we at least made the most of it by making great couple memories in exciting locations that otherwise would not have ever happened if I didn't ever go to Japan: like biking through downtown Kyoto at night, indulging in great street food in Tokyo, and exploring the crazy night markets in Taipei. Consider your long-distance relationship as an exciting opportunity to travel to new places as a couple. 

4. Have the Best Social Support System Ever. Not having your significant other around when you really need to talk to the person the most is one of the hardest challenges in a long-distance relationship. This is why it is more crucial than ever to make sure that you also have your friends and family you can really open up to. The last thing you want is to begin resenting your significant other or the situation for not being more convenient to your emotional needs.

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By Yumi Sakugawa
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  • Angel Morbid's Avatar
    Posted by Angel Morbid Tue Jul 21, 2009 9:45pm PDT

    Phoenix, glad you liked the link I posted. I hope it helped you or gave you some ideas. :)

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  • jessica F's Avatar
    Posted by jessica F Wed Jul 22, 2009 12:14am PDT

    I love this article it makes me feel like i have been doing things right. me and my boyfriend of two years met our first year in college. we hit it off automatically and we decided to move in together our second year at school. that same year we both decided to transfer to another university and we ended up at the same one as well. but we would have to move back to our individual parents homes in order to start brand new for this upcoming semester which would start year 3 of college. well there are 16 days left until i get to see him again and the anxiety of awkward silence and feeling like we are loosing that awesome connection we had made when we were living together is fading. but listening to his voice over the phone, five minute phone calls [since he's really busy with medical school pre requirements] it just sucks because i have been feeling like the one left out and having to WAIT for time to hurry up. But seriously if its meant to be regardless of the distance you make it the best and funnest to keep your flame alive. we got to see eachother for maybe a total of 2 weeks out of two months apart, not the best when you live together and do everything together for a whole year but we're hanging in there Thank you so much for these tips and SKYPE, AIM, OR Yahoo Messenger have been our best friends this entire time!

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  • ken's Avatar
    Posted by ken Wed Jul 22, 2009 3:52am PDT

    It happens good a times, but on situations whereby the duration time of being apart is not that much as it enables the relationship not to fade away and concerns also attributed for the two.It has happened to me via phone sound attraction but came to grow where on later we got meet.Trust is also vital en positivity to gun the affairs.Bye men.

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  • Rehema ali's Avatar
    Posted by Rehema ali Wed Jul 22, 2009 6:53am PDT

    Long distance Love can work if you are sure you love each other. because love is the only thing which matter

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  • muzammil b's Avatar
    Posted by muzammil b Wed Jul 22, 2009 11:03am PDT

    long distance relationships are jus waste of time and money.

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  • Ms. Priss's Avatar
    Posted by Ms. Priss Wed Jul 22, 2009 3:39pm PDT

    1. relocate

    2. relocate

    3. relocate

    4. relocate

    5. relocate

    6. relocate

    7. relocate!

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  • Phoenix's Avatar
    Posted by Phoenix Wed Jul 22, 2009 3:42pm PDT

    As a matter of fact, inferno, I found a couple of very useful tips!

    ; ) Thanks a lot.

    ~Peace

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  • Amy's Avatar
    Posted by Amy Wed Jul 22, 2009 5:08pm PDT

    my guy depart for over seas and i found way to show him i loved and he did the same for me. before he left he wrote me this letter and sent a package and i got it after he left with roles on to do when i felt like i was going crazy with out him. i wrote him every day and we he called i fell in love deeper and deeper. i gave him a promis. ring and i love him stil. but a month ago he ended it not sure why and still goin crazy with out him but i send him packages to say hi and let him know i love him still

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