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Tuesday, December 15, 2009

8 Reasons I Sympathize With David Letterman

OK. So you already know the deal with Dave Letterman. If not, please check out this: Details Of The David Letterman Sex Extortion Case

And this: Letterman Blackmailed For Revenge? Diary Tells All

… for the recap.

It's some heavy dope, mang. We'll probably never know the full extent of what went on because Letterman is such a private dude, but we can likely assume that a few of these allegations are factual and actual. And guess what? I'm really having a hard time seeing the overwhelming wrong in all of this.

Dave Letterman has been with Regina Lasko since 1986, it's said. Given his penchant for privacy, we really only know that the couple has a 6-year-old son and have been legally wed since March of 2009. I was sort of hoping that it would be revealed that his extracurriculars ended after his heart surgery in early 2000* or at least the birth of his little man in 2003. At least he said he was sorry, right?

What I do know is, that while I don't condone cheating, as Chris Rock says, "I understand." The Letterman romance situation is/was a veritable perfect storm of opportunity (in no particular order):

1) Dave's company, Worldwide Pants, produces the Late Show, not CBS. Their HR policies are likely to be more liberal than the network's, per Examiner.

2) Dave was unmarried until this year and his home, Connecticut, does not recognize common law marriage. Maybe their subdued March wedding was to end certain dalliances.

3) Dave is usually regarded to be a pretty good guy. He's personable, self-deprecating and generous (or charitable), which chicks dig. Also, it's been said that he's discreet and gentlemanly about his pursuits.

4) Late-night television requires long hours and tons of interaction between team members. They shoot five, one-hour (44-minute) TV shows in four days. Plus they do this roughly 40 weeks per year. Conventional TV and films are like 9-to-5s by comparison.

5) The on-site suite. Rumor has it that Letterman has a suite in the Ed Sullivan Theater in addition to a nice office. "One thing leading to another" is a lot easier when an option other than a bathroom stall, a desk or a leather office couch exists.

6) He's a legend. Having someone like Letterman interested in you, even platonically, has to be a huge ego boost for a twentysomething woman in television.

7) Dude is 60+. See #4, comedy is a young person's game. Being around (and periodically, in) young people is the best way to stay young (plus exercise and anti-oxidants).

8) It seems like an "understanding" with his wife could exist. While we'll never know this, it just seems like you'd have to have some kind of arrangement to date someone for 23 years before getting married. Especially if the last 6 years involve a kid.

While I'm not saying I condone or agree with anything that took place at the Ed Sullivan Theater (and beyond), I can see why and how it went down. And, though I think quite highly of my moral fiber, I can't say that I wouldn't do the same thing in the same situation (either as Letterman or a piece of man candy working for Chelsea Lately). It seems too easy to cast the first stone when few of us have ever been tested in the same way. Maybe it's just easy for me to see this from Letterman's point of view because he looks like my dad.

Cheers, jeers, bring 'em on.

*Note: I had a good friend who interned for Letterman during the spring semester of 2000, just before and after his bypass surgery, who claims that Letterman was a different guy as a result of the procedure. I was hoping that his brush with mortality was the thing that made him give up the ass-on-the-side. Maybe not. 

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  • LoveN's Avatar
    Posted by LoveN Fri Oct 9, 2009 10:44am PDT

    Wow. This is true. I think the reason people are not totally turning on Dave is because he's entirely likable. If he's a total scoundrel (major infidelity aside), then the man needs an Oscar for his acting skillz.

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  • Melanie's Avatar
    Posted by Melanie Fri Oct 9, 2009 10:50am PDT

    One could hope that his little brush with death helped to clean up his act, but we'll never know.

    My only issue with DL right now is the attention that's been given to his supposed public apology to his wife. That never happened. He may have acknowledged that it's tough at home and that she's upset. But the words "I'm sorry" never escaped his lips. Are we so used to letting high profiled men off the hook for behaving like reasonable human beings, that the very hint of remorse equals the real thing? I just don't know...

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  • Nils's Avatar
    Posted by Nils Fri Oct 9, 2009 11:04am PDT

    I still think Dave is awesome. I do realize these things he didn't weren't necessarily... good, BUT as far as his entertainment value... not affected.

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  • Mars Venus Coach's Avatar
    Posted by Mars Venus Coach Fri Oct 9, 2009 11:11am PDT

    I don't really think Dave (like most men) is really sorry about having the affairs. I just think he's sorry that it all has come out and hurt his friends, family and employees.

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  • AndyB's Avatar
    Posted by AndyB Fri Oct 9, 2009 11:11am PDT

    great post. there is a LOT that we do not know and while it is easy to judge, the circumstances could cause any of us to behave differently. that said, TF, I don't believe you'd fall prey to these shenanigans but good of you to go out on that limb.

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  • Pat's Avatar
    Posted by Pat Fri Oct 9, 2009 5:02pm PDT

    Great article. I think this is between him and his wife really and none of anyone else's business, assuming the co-workers were not being harassed or coerced. Why do we care so much about other people's sex lives?!

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  • Pat's Avatar
    Posted by Pat Fri Oct 9, 2009 5:02pm PDT

    Great article. I think this is between him and his wife really and none of anyone else's business, assuming the co-workers were not being harassed or coerced. Why do we care so much about other people's sex lives?!

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  • Claire's Avatar
    Posted by Claire Fri Oct 9, 2009 5:18pm PDT

    Well said, Tom. Bravo!

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  • Sarah's Avatar
    Posted by Sarah Fri Oct 16, 2009 11:48am PDT

    I sympathize with him, too. But what it comes down to is that we have no idea what their arrangement was. Any assuming anything is just silly.

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