Hand-to-bum contact, if you can pull it off without cracking up, is a great way to add some kinky flavor to your sex life. It's intimate, it's saucy, and -- when compared to, say, a whip or a flogger -- it's safe for newbies. Also, a recent study found that it can actually bring couples closer together. Try a few spanks during a particularly passionate sesh, or make spanking the main goal. Just follow these guidelines:
1. Remove all bracelets and rings first.
2. Always start slowly -- think "love pat" -- and build up intensity gradually with your partner's permission. You may even want to begin over jeans or underwear first. Remember, it's way better for your partner to say "More! Harder!" than "Ouch, cut that out!"
3. Contain your spanking to the lower, fleshier halves of each cheek and the backs of the upper thighs -- avoid the lower back, tailbone, and back of the knees at all costs!
4. It's a nice touch to follow each good spank with a short massage, to spread out the sting and keep things nice and warm.
5. If spanking is the main course, have the spankee lie across your lap, kneel on a bed, stretch out stomach-down, or bend over something they can put their full weight on for comfort as you begin with a gentle glutes massage.
6. A woman might like particular attention paid at the intersection of bum crack and crease, with the vibrations reverberating throughout the area, but definitely steer clear of his family jewels.
7. Remember, because of your close proximity to your partner, you can be extra nice to their front side while benevolently punishing their backside.
8. There are countless accessories to enhance your spanking sessions. Books like "Spanked: Red Cheeked Erotica" by Rachel Kramer Bussel, how-to videos like "Whipsmart," and made-for-play paddles and slappers are available at adult toy stores like GoodVibrations.com.
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