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My friends and I have spent many a long night brainstorming that
magic formula of characteristics that drives the ladies wild. It is
impossible to know just what the mixture is supposed to be, but is
there one characteristic that can work alone to make a guy really
attractive?
Here are the nine characteristics we've come up with:
Sense of Humor
Everyone says how important sense of humor is, and I have learned to look for it in
women. I am lucky enough to be able to make women
laugh, but I'm still super single.
Trustworthy
Trust is the holy grail of a relationship. It takes years to build
it, and it is so delicate. There are few things that take so long
to attain that can be destroyed so quickly. So a lot of us may
finally settle on a very trustworthy person when we finally find
that.
Kindness
This seems like a no-brainer, but I've seen plenty of girls stay with
guys who don't treat them well. So, I'm
thinking that most women look for a nice guy, but the fact of the
matter is that mean guys seem to get girlfriends too-and at a
better rate than nice guys.
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I admit it: I sometimes envision myself marrying rich and sitting there doing nothing. I could lie out on my wife's yacht and host lavish parties and hear about how crazy the Roaring 20's were, when my wife's friends were my age. Money is definitely high on a lot of people's list: remember when Anna Nicole Smith married that really old rich guy? I doubt it was because she thought he was hot, funny, or great in the sack.
Super Hot
As much as we hate to admit it, the first thing we notice about someone else is how good or bad they look. But one of the first lessons we learn in the dating world is as beautiful as someone is on the outside, they could be ugly on the inside.
Confident
Confidence is based on a lot of these characteristics. You are confident if you are talented, super hot, intelligent, or wealthy most likely. But confidence also enables you to treat people better, so you are kind and trustworthy as well. Because confidence includes so many of these other characteristic, it may just be the one major thing women look for in a man.
Talented & Passionate
When someone
possesses a special skill, such as visual art or
guitar virtuosity, they get tons of girls. People like Jimi
Hendrix, Led Zeppelin, and Tom Brady can go out with anyone they
want because they are skilled. Heck, I'd go out with them.
Usually skill occurs in tandem with passion, another attractive
quality. When someone is really good at something, but not
"hot," it makes sense that they can still attract a lot
of women. It's less annoying to see someone like this in a
relationship than it is to see a rich mean guy in a
relationship.
Intelligent
I am intimidated by women who are more intelligent than I am (which
explains why I'm intimidated by about
97% of the female population). For a lot of people,
intelligence is sexy. When someone is stupid, it's frustrating
and boring, which is enough to drive someone away.
Convenient
One can argue that convenience is a huge driver for a relationship.
Does he live near you, is he "ready" to be in a
relationship, does he want to have kids or not? Everything matches up correctly. Sure,
he may not be the best-looking guy or have a lot of money, but
it's just what you need and it's been a long, difficult
search.
If we put these characteristics on a pie chart, what would get the
biggest piece of the pie with you? Again, some of these
characteristics occur together: intelligence and wealth, talent and
passion, kindness and generosity, convenience and wealth.
How often do women care about superficial things like money?
It's scary, but sometimes I fear that no matter how funny I am,
if I had lots of money I could date any cute girl I wanted.
How do all of these characteristics shake out for you when choosing
a boyfriend, and are there any you'd add to the list? Does
confidence just take all of these characteristics into
consideration?
Posted by Rich
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