A Few Proven Theories: Being Mysterious

So far the mystery journey from my "Do you find this confusing?" blog has slight progress. Last week I managed to not call my boyfriend unless he called me. From the prior week's disaster I was glad that I hadn't lost him. He called me once during the week just to say hey. I was extremely happy about that. He knows what I like because he knows I love it when he calls me. We did instant message each other all week, but I don't count that as communication.

One night we all got together and we hadn't seen each other for five days. He just ate me up in other words when he did see me. Yet again, I was out with our mutual friends. He was really affectionate towards me. The theory for not seeing each other for a long time has been proven to be right. His heart does grow fonder when he sees me sporadically, mine doesn't. We danced at a concert all night.  The fact that he hadn't seen me all week, hearing that other guys were trying to talk to me, and my sexy dancing abilities were all contributions to the mysterious theory. Maybe this week I will step it up and not log on AIM to see how much more intense his fond heart would be. 

I still think that the whole chase thing blows at this point. I feel that I should be myself and call him when i want to be myself when I want and not have to play around the chase of the male brain. Whatever, if it gets him to be a better boyfriend and more appreciative of the time that we spend together, SO BE IT. In the words of a good friend of mine, "I apologize but I still think it's total bull (curse word)."

• So as far as finding other hobbies, I have followed up on it. I will be starting my belly dancing class in October. I would like to apply the theory I learned from the Cosmo article "What Makes Men Fall in Love":

• "The Desire: To Shine, Act like the grand prize. Seeing you through other people's eyes reminds him how special you are. Invite him to an event where you'll excel....."

I learned that the belly dancing class has a concert series where I can go to the class for $100 for 4 weeks and go to all three classes (total of $300) to have an opportunity to be in the HUGE concert for the company. I would also have to buy a costume. Major investment for me, that is a lot of money just to woo him. I don't know if I would invest $300 in wooing him but it is for my physical health and count toward a hobby I could be really skilled at. Being in the show is still up in the air for me, but it's a cool thing to do. *shrug*

The only thing I am finding it hard to do is blowing him off. By the time we do get to hang out since school has started, I have already missed him. It's usually 5 or more days in between seeing each other. That's way too long for me. I have been hanging out more with friends outside of him, I'm doing good. I don't think I am clingy. But, let's continue to test more advice against my relationship to see how they work. So far I think acting like the grand prize theory works, I would like to test it in the belly dancing concert. I guess this could count in the category for: Reinventing myself. I know that he likes sexy athletic bodies. I have one, however I want to get a noticeable change in my abs and create more definition. I dont want him to see my body until I see that change so it could be like a huge reveal. He also likes seeing me in a sports bra, I think I will tease him a few times to see how he reacts. This part I actually like because I want it for myself and it turns him on, a lot.

Has anyone ever started out with following the rule and got too relaxed? Have you come to a point where you got too comfortable and noticed that you were too clingy? What have you done about it?