All the Single Ladies? Oh wait, am I the last one?

From the Community…

• 
  Posted by Deborah Tue Oct 27, 2009 8:46pm PDT

  Be careful girl online dating is not what it is cracked up to be. I joined two online dating sites and every crackpot known seemed to pick me . And i have serious trust issues and have been single for 10 years and i am 47 years old and not getting any younger so this year after being laid off unexpectdly i was like why not find someone that you can get to know and wants to know you it did not work out the way i wanted it to. Dont settle you will find the one and it will be someone that insead of saying to yourself can i live with him the question will be can i live without him and then you will know he is the one

  Report Abuse
• 
  Posted by Mauna Wed Oct 28, 2009 2:56am PDT

  My one try at on-line dating...which led to a realistic relationship...was a complete mistake on my part. Tons of the men and women on it fail to tell whole truth of who, what and where they are all coming from! I would not trust anyone who advertises themselves on line claiming they are available...be careful!

  Report Abuse
• 
  Posted by Mauna Wed Oct 28, 2009 2:59am PDT

  As an extra addition and warning message...However you chose to meet a guy of your interest...all of them end up being Liars! A whole lot of them never tell their whole side of their 'story' to why so many good females are stuck 'carrying' their vile luggage. And why smart females end up being used, taken for granted, and abused as a pulling and adding upon their head so they can SHINE for all eyes to be seen. By truth a lot of them (not excludin females as well) are a liar and a thief!

  Report Abuse
• 
  Posted by Marinamey Wed Oct 28, 2009 5:59am PDT

  I'm like you. I didn't date for a loooong time and I really didn't have a lot of options meeting men in the real world. I decided to try online dating despite all the warnings I read. Hey, I got to try something.

  I recently came out of a relationship with a guy I met online. Talk about crazy! I feel like the rug was pulled under me. I feel so disoriented. It turns out he's a clinical narcissist. I started to read up on it and I learned that psychopaths, sociopaths, narcissists and other disordered people LIVE on the internet. They even have a name for it. Cyberpaths. These disordered people prey on women on the internet. The online setup gives them convenient access to their "supply". I found out this ex has been incessantly seeking casual sex partners on the internet under the pretense of him seeking a relationship. Needless to say, this prince charming turned out to be the worst person I've ever met. EVER.

  Just be careful. Don't forget, IF IT'S TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE, IT PROBABLY IS. These psychopaths are the most skilled seducers you'll ever find so if you believe their crap, you'll never know what hit you. Of course, there are good and genuine people online. Just weed out the b------ s.

  Report Abuse
• 
  Posted by Amanda Wed Oct 28, 2009 7:36am PDT

  Not everyone has a bad online expirience. I met my boyfriend online and it's working out so far... :) You just have to be conscious of the "red flags"

  Report Abuse
• 
  Posted by Bri Wed Oct 28, 2009 9:06am PDT

  Thanks everyone for your advice. Marinamey, wow! I'm glad you are okay. I pray you find someone worthy of you.

  Report Abuse
• 
  Posted by NIKNICE Wed Oct 28, 2009 1:22pm PDT

  I with you gurl;) People keep suggesting I try the online thing and I just can't see myself doing it. I guess I'll just keep doing my Beyonce dance until I meet someone the traditional way.

  Report Abuse
• 
  Posted by TemwaniN Thu Oct 29, 2009 12:22pm PDT

  I know how you feel Bri, waiting for the right guy to come your way might seem like a long wait but hung in there girl, you'll soon be on cloud nine and having the time of your life with a GREAT guy!!!.

  Report Abuse
• 
  Posted by Shelia Thu Oct 29, 2009 5:04pm PDT

  girl i was told by a guy i met online,, who stole from me,, was a drug addidict,, and lived with parents,, and when he drank omg look out anger doesnt even discribe his attitude,, he said u have not so good looking guys looking for a girl and the good lookin one r looking for sex,, im sure a few r good but have fun looking for a needle in a haystack

  Report Abuse
• 
  Posted by LiL Thu Oct 29, 2009 5:52pm PDT

  Darl, you are 21, and Im 25..it might be normal to still being single if you live in a city and modern-kind family..but for me, my mom got married at the age of 21, grandme at the age of 17, while myself...not yet..lets not talk abt marriage as it may b a lil too big word for you, but I understand and I feel for you when you said you need someone who can love you, and at the same time, you can love him (yup, and also trust)..we girls are like that..we have so much love to spread to others, with hope, we will be receiving one too..agree with me?

  Darl, my advice to you is, try to find someone NOW..i really mean it NOW..dont ever tell yourself or convince yourself, that SOONER or LATER, he will come..coz you'll never know when you reach 25 later, you will still hugging your booster before you off to sleep, and waking up alone all by yourself..

  Me

  Report Abuse