Ok, I met this guy a few months ago. We seemed to hit it off quite
well, as did our kids. He DID tell me from the beginning that he
wasn't looking for anything serious, just a friendship right
now. And I felt the same way since I was in the process of
divorce. Now the process is over and I would like to move
on, possibly with him. Yet, he says he still feels the same way.
But then he always brings up "if we were to get together"
comments. Like: If we were to get together, you would have to get
used to such and such.
Well, that is fine and dandy, but it seems like he is just putting
me on at times. We flirt alot and have helped eachother out many
times with everyday things. We have NEVER slept
together or even kissed. Yet, every time we are together, we seem
happier. We both seem that way. I like having him around. It always
brightens my day. He has even said that when he comes over he feels
better if he is having a bady day.
Does that sound like mixed messages to anyone or is it only me?
Should I move on and just stay friends with him? I really do like
him even though nothing physical or sexual has happened between us.
He is a really genuine type of guy. At least it appears that way.
Now I wonder if I should just come out and tell him that I want to
be more than just friends. Any opinions?
Am I crazy to think it will actually happen at some point?? Opinions please!!
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Posted by Mon Nov 9, 2009 6:38pm PST
Report AbuseYea it does sound like mixed messages to me as well. Maybe he's just taking it slow. Sit down and have a serious heart to heart talk with the guy. Tell him how you really feel about him. If he says he just wants to be friends, keep it that way. Then move on to find another guy who wants to be more than just friends.
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Posted by Tue Nov 10, 2009 9:07am PST
Report AbuseI agree about mixed message but I would not have serious heart to heart, I think that's bad advice. He has told you that he only wants to be friends. I would go out and find someone else and see how he reacts to that. If you truly want to find someone to move on with then you need to not waste your time.
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Posted by Thu Nov 12, 2009 8:44am PST
Report AbuseAww!!it sounds to me like he has changed his mind about just wanting to be friends and wants to be more but instead of just telling you this hes giving you clues. I dont think that a guy who just wants to be friends will make comments about "if we were together...". He's probably scared to say it because he doesn't know what your reaction will be, so he's giving you clues to see what you think before he tries to take the next step.
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Posted by Thu Nov 12, 2009 8:47am PST
Report AbuseAlso, I dont think you shouldn't have a heart to heart conversation because like you said he is giving mixed signals and you dont want to seem desprite or needy. Just give clues back and let the rest do for its self.
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