I wrote before my story about this guy(alias DON) if you'll check my previous blogs. I'm dating this guy but we don't have a formal relationship as long as were happy together. When we start dating he told me that he want to keep our privacy, he meant that I'll not say it to anyone about us especially to my manager- because my manager is his former manager. He said that he is a private person and its better to keep our relationship to ourselves only. But then due to slip of the tongue or should I say i can not keep it to my self, I kindda told it to my manager(Ms. M) that her previous staff-which is the guy I'm dating, is txting me and his saying his regards to her. Sometimes I do stupid things, I believe it's one of them. Last Sunday 2am, he stopped by just to say HI(sweet of him)eventhough he's busy from his business, he still have time for me. So we talked about work and other things then I told him that I kindda told to my manager about the txting part, but I didn't tell her that we're dating. I just want Ms. M that if ever she'll see us, she'll already know about us. She's like a mother to me and sometimes I cannot help not to tell things that mean very much to me which is my special someone. He was mad that time, he said he can no longer trust me. Cos he said in the first place I should respect his decision that we keep our privacy and I ruin it. In a way, I admit I made a mistake. He's no longer in the mood when we're talking inside his car to the point that he already want to leave and he said its already done. He said his already tired, He's putting his 90% to his business and 10% to himself- he already want to rest his body(btw, he's an athlete and he runs a football academy for kids). He did not said anything about breaking up. he just said goodbye,goodnight and see you. But he still mad when he left.
Am I losing him? I don't want to think about it but i'm positive that he'll stay with me. I'll just give him time to think. And I'll keep myself busy with my work so to avoid myself to contact him. Maybe he'll miss me in that way. I don't know if I'm doing the right way, I need your help on this. To guys, what your take on this? to ladies, please advise me i don't want to lose him, i really care about him a lot..thanks in advance. God bless!
Am I losing him? Help!
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Posted by Mon Jul 7, 2008 5:20am PDT
Report AbuseYes, leave him alone! Listen to what he is telling you! He needs 90% for his work, 10% for himself, did you notice that is 0% for you? AND on top of that he want to keep whatever "relationship" you have a secret? Not good, move on, you deserve better. Good luck.
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Posted by Mon Jul 14, 2008 11:18pm PDT
Report AbuseHere is how this stands for me. Why on earth were you seeing a guy who wanted to keep you a secret? My thought on that straight away was who is he keeping you a secret from and why? A wife, another girlfriend? I am a very private person but I don't make such a big attempt to hide my relationships from everyone else in the world. And then, because you made a mistake, not a huge one in my opinion, he's mad and walks away? People in relationships make mistakes all the time, so that was rather an odd reaction - sure he could be upset, but was that worth being so upset over?
To me your relationship seems all about him - and not a lot about you or your needs. Again, the old saying applies here. 'When someone shows you who they really are...believe them' and this man showed you something about himself from the moment he kept you a secret from the rest of the world.
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Posted by Wed Jul 16, 2008 8:23am PDT
Report AbuseI agree with the 2 previous comments. This man is extremely self-centered and you are fueling it. If you are in a monogamist relationship, it shouldn't matters who knows about it. It sounds like he is going through great lengths to keep you a secret for a reason. My suggestion to you is to let him go. If he asks why, you should tell him that you feel as if he is keeping you in his back pocket. It's not fair to you.
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Posted by Mon Jul 28, 2008 12:58pm PDT
Report AbuseI don't think he's seriously entertaining that you have the kind of relationship that you view this to be. If he can't be out in the open with it, there is much more of a reason than his wanting to be private!!!
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Posted by Sun Apr 12, 2009 2:22pm PDT
Report AbuseI agree with the first 2. Why on earth would anyone want to keep you a secret? If you are an amazing person and he wants to be with you, you shouldn't be a "secret" I was thinking I was wondering if he has something going on with your manager. Stay away and leave him alone. No one deserves or needs to be treated that way. Go and find someone who will want to spend all the time in the world with you. It's only going to get worse if you stay with him.
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