It's pretty well accepted that girls mature faster than boys in most aspects of life. But what about when it comes to sex? While these days girls tend to have sex just as early and just as often as boys, what about older / more mature women who have past the days of "checking out the field" and have settled into long-term monogamous relationships?
Speaking from personal experience, when I first met my husband (my first and only lover) almost eight years ago , we used to go at it like freaking rabbits!! I mean whenever, wherever - his house, my house (whether parents were home or not), inside the car, on top of the car, restaurants, parks....well you get the point. But while his appetite for sex has not dwindled at all, I find myself not wanting it as much as I used to. Now make no mistake, I think my man is the sexiest man on the planet and I love nothing better than to watch him take a shower, or get dressed, or get undressed. He has the sexiest glutes that I have ever seen and his kisses leave me breathless.
So why don't I want to jump his bones as soon as he walks through the door? Why is it that most times it's only while we are having sex that I get really turned on and not before? Or why is it that most times, he's the one to initiate sex? Is it an unconscious response to the daily stress of getting up early every day, dealing with the jackasses of the world, both on the roads and in the workplace, coming home to cook, wash, clean....? Or is it that my libido has slowed down for a while and at some point it should pick back up? Or is it that even though we used to have sex so frequently before, I still wasn't at my prime and it was just a response to the relationship being new and exciting?
Some people say a woman reaches her sexual peak at 35, some say 40 or 50!! I'm just on the edge of 30, do I have to wait 5 or more years to match my husband's sexual appetite? Or do I just need to find a really good shrink to work out some deep seated issues that only a shrink can identify? But as Mo'Nique would say, why pay a shrink $500 an hour to lie on a couch and ask for help when you can go through therapy for free with an audience?
Talk to me people...
Am I past my sexual peak?
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Posted by Mon Aug 4, 2008 3:08pm PDT
Report AbuseI AM MIDDLE AGE I CANNOT FIND ANY WOMAN TO KEEP UP WITH ME THREE TIMES ARE THE WONANS LIMIT I CAN GO 4OR 5 TIMES A DAY I AM 43 YEARS OLD ALABAMA HAS SOME GOOD WATER
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Posted by Mon Aug 4, 2008 5:07pm PDT
Report AbuseWell I don't know about you, I'm 55, just finishing radiation for Breast Cancer, I DID NOT loose my Breast, I detected it early through self exam! I am PAST menopause,and I ran into an old boyfriend 12 years
younger than me!!! We are getting together this weekend!!! I'm TRUELY
looking forward to this because he IS THE BEST LOVER I've EVER HAD!!! Trust me at 55 I've had more than my share! Maybe you & Hubby should plan a date night, pamper youeself that day!!! Put on a VERY SEXY outfit, seduce him, HE WILL LOVE it and so will you! Good Luck with whatever you decide to do!
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Posted by Mon Aug 4, 2008 5:26pm PDT
Report AbuseI have sex allmost every day, allmost monday, allmost Tuesday, allmost Wednesday, when i was 20 i had sex all day, now i m 82 and it takes all day--now what?
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Posted by Mon Aug 4, 2008 8:42pm PDT
Report Abusewow sounds like there is alot of different things going on but im still waiting for the right one to come along to be the Mr.Right im only 28 and single hope to meet that special one soon Thanks Pooh
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Posted by Mon Aug 4, 2008 10:08pm PDT
Report AbuseLadies...IF your guy is "not interested" and you are...maybe find out if he is worried/stressed/busy..if not maybe YOU are not as "sexy" as you used to be All that CAN change ( if both of you agree) it will seldom ever change if you want to "punish" a lack of interest. If he wants to ravish you in the supermarket parking lot in front of the other wives... and you are put off by that and belittle him..don't expect him to be all turned on later in the bedroom. ( expect he'll be hurt/angry/ offended INSIDE where you can't "get at him".).men ( tough as we are ) need to be dealt with "nicely". If you play "angry man" with him in the parking lot..or belittle him , and THEN expect a sweet or sexy response...just think of how YOU feel if he says you are getting fat..or are looking dumpy or whatever....Build your man up ( sincerely) and be a "better woman"...don't try to demean him and expect the same results as you would if he was built up.'
Just another man's opinion
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Posted by Mon Aug 4, 2008 11:52pm PDT
Report AbuseAm 46 and want sex but my friend cant keep it hard and wount go to the dr, how can he go the rest of his life and never have sex again.i want to help him but how?He'S THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN HELP HIM.Where does that leave me,WITHOUT.
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Posted by Tue Aug 5, 2008 1:29am PDT
Report Abusei am 23 years old, i had some sex experience before. but i can't imagine having sex everyday.....awesone
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