An emotional rollecoster that has finally derailed.

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  Posted by Katheryn R Sat Jun 27, 2009 2:29pm PDT

  Good for you for leaving someone that was abusive, because you don't deserve that and he won't change. I know that things are bad right now but remember they won't always be bad. Just take it one day at a time. I will be praying for you!

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  Posted by chris f Sat Jun 27, 2009 2:29pm PDT

  When you have lost all and you have nothing only then can you begin to have all that life has to offer,,,,I left a 3 yr live together relationship abruptly about 10yrs ago all i had was an air mattress a camping TV and a chair. A friend, not a close one(being somewhat a loner) let me stay 1 night on his couch. I was in college and had an 8.00 an hour part time job. But, by the next day i had found a small 1 bdrm.apt. within my budget. By the end of the wk. i had so many things eg. TV, microwave, dishes, A/C, bed, furniture, and even an iron and ironing board. And they came from the most unexpected sources. All these "things" incidentally did not matter. The first night i stayed on my air mattress in my small dumpy apt. i was happier than i had been in yrs. and was content with nothing but that. I told others of my happiness and then all these other "things" came.

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  Posted by Kendra Sat Jun 27, 2009 2:30pm PDT

  Never give up on life or yourself! I wish you the best of luck!

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  Posted by Peapod Sat Jun 27, 2009 2:35pm PDT

  Don't give up Kara. Come over and visit my posts. I kicked an abusive husband out after 19 years and I just get by. Lean on friends and family to help you if you can. There is much support here as well. Just talking to others and getting my thoughts out really has helped. But like you, I have many low days. It has not been easy at all, but I know I did the right thing showing him the door. I don't doubt that you also made a wise decision. Things just have a way of working out, even if we have no clue how they will. My best to you.

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  Posted by TasselLady Sat Jun 27, 2009 3:13pm PDT

  Don't give up. You'll eventually be ok. And God is good, he'll help you out too!!! The best thing you did was get rid of an abusive fiancee. If you had married him you already know what you would have faced. You were lucky to have found that out BEFORE you married him. You are in my prayers, and eventually the good Lord will send you someone who will respect you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Good luck! Things have a way of working out how they're supposed to. (((hugs)))!!!

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  Posted by tomy Sat Jun 27, 2009 3:38pm PDT

  its so nice to know that people realy care out there and at the sametime praying for others at their most difficult times. this is REALLLLLL LUV.

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  Posted by JoKTM Sat Jun 27, 2009 7:15pm PDT

  Check out the women shelters in your area. I know sone of the ones in Dallas really do help women get back on their feet after leaving abusive relationships. You can dial 211 and find community resources in your area. There is always someone willing to help you just have to find them.

  Good luck on your journey to independance.

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  Posted by don diva Mon Jun 29, 2009 12:28am PDT

  KEEP YOUR HEAD UP GIRL. No one can take your courage from you. You have a lot of it to be in your situation. You have to stay focused. You'll get through this situtation and when you do, you'll be happy to see what you have accomplished. I know. I've been there. I wasn't in an abusive relationship but I was in a situation where I was unhappy. I had to decide between my happiness and being without until I could get on my feet or being miserable. I chose to be without for a while.

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