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Analyze this!
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- by RitaF, on Wed Jun 11, 2008 4:46pm PDT
I wonder:
Are there girls who don't question themselves one bit? Are there girls out there who don't feel the need to analyze the living day lights out of every decision they make and the way in which they chose to accomplish that decision?!
I gave my number to the super hot guy from my office today, because (this is actually kind of cute) he came out to return the Welcome Packet I give out to all new employees that no one ever returns...no matter what. He made a small inside joke that we had from the first day he started about bars. So I asked if he'd want to go sometime after work and he said "Well...I was thinking about it"(analyzation point 1). So I wrote down my number on a post-it (analyzation point 2) and of course right as I'm writing down my number, the mail guy shows up with something I have to sign for...what the hell do I do now? Do I stop writing my number to I make the mail guy wait? So finally I gave him the post it with my name and number and told him to call me anytime (analyzation point 3).
Now I'm just all worried that my complete and utter dorkiness/oafiness is totally turning him off. Now he won't call, now I'll be all disappointed, now I'll indulge in a giant bin of Ben & Jerry's because he was so hot and I soooooo screwed it up.
Why can't I leave well enough alone?! I was hoping to say something cute and quirky when he was leaving but alas, he was talking to some guy and I didn't get the opportunity.
Did I screw this up?
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Posted by Jessie Wed Jun 11, 2008 4:57pm PDT
No, you didn't screw it up. It may have been premature. I don't know how long you've interacted with this man at work. Still, there's nothing wrong with asking a man out for coffee or dinner or lunch or a movie. That's where friendship starts and that's where romance starts. If he runs, then he wasn't ready, and that's his deal not yours. I know what you feel like, though. I have made the move first in the past and loathed the feelings I had when I did. I feared he'd never call or he'd run away from me when he saw me next time. I even hit on a guy and he turned out to be GAY. I didn't know! But I tell you what: a lot of guys will respect a woman who will make the first move and show interest because even if they won't admit it, men question themselves, too, doll. I was the first one to say those three little words to my husband. He said he wanted to say them, but he didn't know how or if it was too fast for me. Well, i cured him of anxiety because I was head over heals in love with him (still am). I know the whole "if it's meant to be..." thing doesn't help, but leave your options open and know that a man who loves who you are and how you think and act will find you (or you'll find him). Just keep your chin up and get that runway strut on. Be beautiful. Be you! :)
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Posted by Katy C Wed Jun 11, 2008 5:13pm PDT
Don't stress, dear. Trust me. I know it sounds lame, and quite frankly I'm tired of hearing this myself, but you don't know what he was thinking. I try to tell myself all the time that guys think I'm a dork or lame, but my friends always say that I'm not telepathic. Know what? Neither are you... or are you? Kidding. But either way, even if he did think that you were lame just because you weren't perfect on the FIRST try, then forget him. Practically no one is perfect on the first try. Believe me, I know. And after all, he's not the only guy out there. So don't worry about it, dear. You'll be just fine.
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Posted by anchalee Wed Jun 11, 2008 7:04pm PDT
Rita.I',Mingan from Thailand.I'm a vetgetarian too./Don't stress.Don't worry.You'll be just fine.Buddha siad : Dukkha, Transiency ,Egolessness ....
Mingan24@hotmail.com
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