And women wonder why it's so hard to meet or keep a guy...

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  Posted by Mon Nov 16, 2009 11:38pm PST

  TJS, I'm with you man. I'm guessing that you, like me, just love to dance. Women come up to me, "wow, you're a great dancer, will you dance with me"? It happens when I'm dancing with other women or seated at my table. Sometimes the woman I'm dancing with gets pissed and walks off and that freaks the woman that just interrupted us, so she walks off. I'm looking around like whaaaaaa? LOL.. Sometimes the women that want to dance are with some guy, like you mention, and the guy gets pissed off. So they get into a fight and sometimes involve me!Women really need to get their sh** together.

  Anyway; I feel you man....

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  Posted by Ericka Tue Nov 17, 2009 12:52am PST

  Hi Guys :)

  I think I can speak for not only myself, but also my boyfriend, in that those are not real women - those are spoiled little girls who never grew up and skanks.

  While out at a club with my boyfriend, we met a nice looking guy who was pretty shy but a great dancer, too - all these women kept coming up to him also. We had the opportunity to strike up a discussion with this guy, and he was not too keen on any of these women because he had a little girl at home (he had a babysitter that night) and didn't want to have these kinds of women near his daughter. Totally understandable.

  My boyfriend's friend came out with us and my boyfriend kept telling his friend and this other guy that I was a good woman :) I don't know what was going on in that club with the other ones, but I was by my boyfriend's side the whole night. We are out there - you're just looking in the wrong place, I think. I told the guy that and that the club was for fun and women out who didn't care, I guess, but when it came to who he brought home to make a home with him and his daughter, this was not the place to find her. He needed to go somewhere decent if he wanted a decent woman.

  Now, if you want to just go out with friends and dance, then you should screen them carefully, too, and go with a group of friends you know who like to dance.

  Good luck, and I hope this helps :)

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  Posted by May Tue Nov 17, 2009 1:39am PST

  I'm agree w/ you.It hard for me to meet a guy,im in Arab place working here for 9 yrs.i only went to visit my family for holiday good

  for 3 weeks,then back to work again(routine of my life)next month i'll

  be home again for another holiday,38 days from now christmas is coming.

  I don't remember if i dance w/ someone,or have a date that normal people

  do.It's sounds crazy but my wish to Santa Clause...is to have a date on

  christmas.Lucky for those women,who have chance to dance and its there

  opportunity to meet special one.Thanks :)

  missing half,

  +639-214164416 :):):)

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  Posted by Mauna Tue Nov 17, 2009 7:53am PST

  The mind of the spirit is a mysterious thing isn't it? And each and every one of us, are not on the same page when it comes to rules, morals in any department when having a GOOD time (whatever and however that is interpreted). I used dance a lot too years ago, and that is why I went to dancing bars, to DANCE. It did not matter that if I had a partner or not, I was there to have a Good time even if it meant dancing by myself even knowing all the BS that takes place in these types of ambiances when one is seeking in having a good time. You have to realize that going into a bar atmosphere...all rules, and morals are out the window, with a few exceptions (the ones who can still keep a good head on their shoulders). I'll never forget what I witnessed from these ambiances, but I also will never forget the Good times I had in the freedom of Dancing. When I was single in these days, everybody around had to have known that I was single, yet no man, ever approached me and asked me to dance, even when I went with my girlfriends, and they were the only ones who they 'saw'. I was in good shape those too, and no one still did not take notice of me. Am I complaining about it? kind of, but from what I regularly hear from those who are married and or coupled....being single is most definitely more enjoyable and allows more growth in a variety of areas in life than those who are paired off with someone.

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  Posted by NIKNICE Wed Nov 18, 2009 7:28am PST

  OK so......I usually go clubbin with my guy friends and I party with them and usually avoid other men because I do not believe the club is an appropriate place to meet someone special. Also, because I find men want a cheep thrill and think that dancing is rubbing all up on my booty. Now there are women who play games just like men. I am a great dancer, I dance alone, I get attention but I usually just want to party. The attention received is not always wanted but hey again I just want to party. But for couples who go to the club and mingle that's there thing and there's nothing we can do about that. I feel your frustration. At best all you can do is brush off those women and get yourself some gal pals to party with. If you're in NYC we can role...

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  Posted by TJ S Wed Nov 18, 2009 8:34am PST

  Ok, I have to address one thing people keep saying. I AM NOT LOOKING FOR ANYONE SPECIAL WHEN I GO OUT DANCING!!! I'm not sure why people keep saying that but that's not what I'm doing. I LOVE music and just want to dance and have a good time. I don't even need to talk to a dance partner, just dancing is good for me. I don't particularly care about dancing with someone or meeting someone. I am fully aware clubs aren't the best places to meet someone and I don't even try. I'm totally comfortable dancing solo EVERYTIME I go out. As long as it's me, the music and a nice dancefloor, I'm set.

  Thank you to all of those who understand what I'm getting at and Niknice I am in NYC. The couples thing is ok with me. I have danced with women who were seeing someone and I knew it was ok because she was there and informed me of the boyfriend or I already knew she was with someone. I'm talking about the sneaky ones who are sleeping with a guy and hitting on me but when he shows up they start looking like a kid with frosting around his mouth saying he didn't eat any cake.

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  Posted by NIKNICE Wed Nov 18, 2009 9:27am PST

  I feel you TJS.....You have those sneaky birds out there just like dudes who know they got wifey at home smh. We gotta just party and brush them off. Again you can party with me boo....mo' nicole on fb or tweet me @nikkidred12

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  Posted by Andrea Frazer, Good Housekeeping Thu Nov 19, 2009 7:40am PST

  I think people in general don't know what they want, let alone at night club where there's loud music, drinking, etc.. I say take it for what it is and expect that from those places. Just have fun and dance! Good for you. My son is a great dancer (okay, he's only 7) but I always say it's one of the best things a dude can do for himself. Dance, boy, dance!!!!!!!!!

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  Posted by TJ S Thu Nov 19, 2009 1:06pm PST

  Andrea, we are on the same page. I go out with the intention of not meeting someone for that reason. I want to dance and have fun, not be caught in drama or have to work at meeting someone under those conditions. I just had to vent about it a little. I have friends and women I can go out with and have a good time but sometimes it takes away from the music for me. Sometimes I feel like I have to entertain, hell sometimes I want to so it's all good. But Monday, I knew the DJ and I know he's good and known worldwide so I just got into the music and here come these "distractions". But it was good regardless of that. And dance I did!!!

  NikNice, I do have girls that are friends that I can get to come out from time to time but sometimes I go off into my own world when I dance. I may look you up when something good comes up. Thanks for the invite.

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  Posted by s1dthek1d Fri Nov 20, 2009 11:27pm PST

  hahahahahahahaha!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  wow...you sound like me. except, i'm the girl version of you. all you want is a memorable (or not SO memorable night b/c of the good alcohol) night, where you find someone(s) who dances the way you do, or even better. someone to show you a good time, right? i think it's good you're not looking for anything out of it. it's a club, honey. stop trying to make sense out of drunk girls who are insecure b/c they're too skinny anyway, but think they're ugly or not good enough. i'm not any of the girls you mentioned. i'm not the girl stuck to one guy's hip, nor the one hiding behind my friends, b/c let's face it, i'm THE best dancer in the club. however, i, just like you, will not be aggressive and go up to someone. that's your job. if you like what you see, be polite and ask me to dance. that's it. if you're not creepy, and are very interested in what you see (dancing/looks), then go for it. i think you're a very smart and perceptive guy. i just think you need to take it up a notch and eliminate the unworthy ones out. come on, these girls are a waste of your time. look for the girl who's unique, beautiful (maybe not mainstream-looks), and a great dancer. stop trying so hard--i think you're just like me, over-analyzing too much! if i was @ that club, and you actually came over to ask me to dance (instead of just humping from the back outta nowhere), then i'm sure you would've had a nice night, but i guess you're just like all guys-->lookin' for the butta-face.

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