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Tuesday, December 15, 2009

Are you a stray at home mom?

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Just in time for Mother's Day, the New York Post has dropped quite a bomb: According to a new survey of 30,000 American moms, "A shocking 34 percent of mothers reported having had an extramarital affair after the birth of their children." Additionally, more than half confessed to contemplating straying on their spouses, and even more tragic, 48 percent of them claimed they suspected their husbands already had or were currently having an affair.

WTF is going on!?

Pilar Guzman, editor-in-chief of Cookie magazine, which co-conducted the study titled "Sex and the American Mom," said, "The somewhat startling statistics invite a closer look at the state of sex and the American marriage." I'll say. They also dug up the following:

"A considerable 77 percent of the women said they want more sex and 29 percent said they'd rather get more action in the sack than lose 10 pounds."

"One way lots of those ladies are keeping the home fires stoked is porn. Nearly a quarter of the respondents 'fessed up to looking at dirty pics and movies."

"Another 21 percent use booze to get in the swing of things, and 17 percent like fantasy play."

I guess there is some optimism (?) in there, but these numbers kind of freak me out. We know male cheating has been a hot topic lately, but who knew all these married ladies were getting all this side action too? Which brings up the question: Is it ever okay to cheat on your spouse?

Um, and would you rather lose 10 pounds or get more sex!?
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  • Myself's Avatar
    Posted by Myself Wed May 7, 2008 7:40am PDT

    Umm lose the pounds of course lol - and what SAHM has the time to cheat on her man anyways?

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  • JasmineG's Avatar
    Posted by JasmineG Wed May 7, 2008 7:56am PDT

    okay so really men and women both need and want sex whether they r married or not so don't hate on the mom or wife for going outside the marriage if she ain't gettin what she needs from the dad who i'm sure is getting off one way or another.

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    Posted by Wed May 7, 2008 8:32am PDT

    And people wonder why I don't want to get married...

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  • Judge Rufus Peckham's Avatar
    Posted by Judge Rufus Peckham Wed May 7, 2008 9:32am PDT

    Well, gee, says the author of this post, I always thought that only men cheat. It never occurred to me that when men cheat, they are CHEATING WITH A WOMAN! Wow, what a revelation!

    Men who want more sex are pigs -- isn't that one of the endearing little words you all use for us? In contrast, women who want more sex are sex-starved, the implication being the husband is SELFISH for withholding sex.

    First, one of these stereotypes can't be true. And second, no matter what, it's rigged so that men are always the bad guys. Nice male bashing. Thank you.

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  • california  blue's Avatar
    Posted by california blue Wed May 7, 2008 9:37am PDT

    I't never occured to me to have an afair . My husband in the first ten years of being married always accused me of cheating on him (i hadn't) . I allways said who the hell would put themselves through that? And all that sanctimonious B.S..Then thanks to my brothers personal problems with his girl put in front of me a hot cop. Lord have mercy . I have not had an affair not even close but after one year and six months I can't stop thinking about him. If ever in the position to cheat with this man, I would in a heartbeat

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  • JFish's Avatar
    Posted by JFish Wed May 7, 2008 1:57pm PDT

    I agree with thecarbolicsmokeball! How would women react if men labeled them "Pigs" for their "intimate needs"? How selfish to assume EITHER partner's needs should override the other's. Anyone who claims to be in a committed relationship should be concerned with WHY their partner isn't meeting their needs. It's amazing what a little care for your partner can bring about!

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  • mandypants84's Avatar
    Posted by mandypants84 Thu May 8, 2008 6:21am PDT

    If you lose 10 punds then you'll get more sex! it's kind of a win-win situation isn't it?

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  • Cat R's Avatar
    Posted by Cat R Thu May 8, 2008 10:54am PDT

    It is sooo true. And if my husband would have sex with me whenever I want it I would lose 10 pounds!!!

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  • Lor's Avatar
    Posted by Lor Fri May 9, 2008 5:57am PDT

    These types of statistics make me wonder if humans were trained to be, but not inherently prone to lifetime monogamy.

    My answer: More sex

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  • lisa's Avatar
    Posted by lisa Fri May 9, 2008 8:30am PDT

    MORE SEXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX,YEA!And by the way, I had always believed the myth about it being men always out there chasing women on the side, since I was married twice and both cheated on me during the marriages. (NO, it didn't sour me to believe that all men are cheaters). I found that the older I got, and with getting to become close friends with a variety of women friends in a wide range of personalities, looks, ages, and in their living arrangements, about EVERY ONE of them has cheated on their husband or partner at some point! It is a surprise to me, but it is the truth.....

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